To want my family to pronounce ds2's name correctly?

[FrannyandZooey]

I am honestly not sure if I am. I feel like this is a big deal and want them to get it right, but they are all so convinced that their way is the right way, and it doesn't seem to matter what I say, that I am wondering...

It is a slightly unusual name that can be pronounced two ways. Not hard to say, at all.

If IANBU, how do I deal with this?

Is that Way-knee and Bar-ree, Malory?

Lucian

I'm still sat here trying to pronounce Hatrick's DS as Cashus. I sound like Sean Connery.

tink, dd is sarah but my father refuses to say the soft version as 'in holland the name is Sara and she's my grandaughter so she's half dutch'

i love him and tbh, he's her opa so he could call her CandyFluff for all i care as long as she likes it.

another MN thread about Lucian

thisisyesterday, I blame that Alicia Keys. She's an A-leez-ya.

Also, I teach, & there was a v popular girl in the same year as my tutor group when Ali was born, called Ellicia. So I got a v nice card from tutor group congratulating me on birth of baby Ellicia...bless them.

forgot to add as well, people are forever calling ds2 Gabrielle, instead of Gabriel.
I mean, it isn't difficult is it??

thisisyesterday's link is to a US owned site...

oooh FaZ have you looked up Lucian on wikipedia??

it takes you primarily to this page

I particularly like: "He is noted for his witty and scoffing nature."

SO???

are some of you seriously suggesting that Franny's pronounciation of her own son's name is made up and that she is wrong?
Now, I don't know her, but she doesn't strike me as the kind of person who would get something like that wrong.

and there are several people who have already come on and backed her up.
for goodness sake.

Looshan reminds me of Oisín which is very popular in my neck of the woods.

I'm wondering (in a very benefit-of-the-doubt way) if they think you are wrong and are trying to save you from future embarrassment? If only somebody had done that for the parents of the little girl my sister once taught, whose name was pronounced See-oh-ban (we assume they had only ever seen Siobhan written down).
[Hoping said parents are not MNers.]
In which case I think you need to explain about the different spellings having different pronunciations, then fingers crossed they will remember!

No, I suggested that the reason that people here in England seem to be leaning towards one pronunciation more than another could be that its a more common pronunciation in America. Doesn't mean that its wrong, but is one explanation.

I've had that with both my chldren's names too. People 'correct' them to what they prefer.

These aren't the actual names by the way, but same style of old with something modern sounding similar, so, OFTEN I say 'this is Edith' and people obviously think, that's too old-fashioned, I just cant call a child Edith , so they accidentally keep getting it wrong and calling her Eden which is more acceptable to them, but nausea-inducing to her family.

Right, of course YANBU for expecting your family to get it right - of course they should get it right regardless of how the the rest of world (myself included) pronounces it!

Your family know the correct pronunciation because they have been told it, repeatedly, and should bloody well use it.

Family are knobs.

lol at Soupy as Sean Connery

This is why all children should be called Ben or

naughtiest girl just read yr post.

Interesting: my children all have very old-fashioned names but actually I never get that. FWIW everyone can always spell them too. MAybe they remember their grandpa.

(People always get my slightly unusual name wrong tho - I get "Helen" a lot for some reason)

Just gently correct them everytime, annoying I know!

My daughter is called Cerys, the nurse in the doctors surgery once called her name out as Cerise as in Cerise Pink FFS!! You should have seen the people looking at us!! They were probably thinking poor child!

I'm sure they will get it right eventually!

You've got to expect this if you call your kid something unusual. You will have this problem all his life so you might as well get used to it.

I married into an unusual surname. When I tell people my name is Mrs. Jasper they ask me to spell it, then repeat it back to me, saying " oh, you mean Kasparov" as if I did not know how to pronounce my own name. This happens several times a week.

I am completely used to it and just let people call me whatever they want.

You have an even bigger problem in that you seem to have come up with a fairly unique pronounciation of an already reasonably well known name.

Out of interest, why have you chosen to pronounce his name 'Loo-shun?' Is this pronunciation derived from somewhere?

I think your relatives are being unreasonable because they've heard you use this pronunciation and have chosen to use another one. However, in their defence, particularly if they're older, they'll go with what they're familiar with already.

Er... she's not "come up with" a pronunciation, it is the pronunciation.

Yes, but boogeek, I just accept that if someone is called Siobhan, pronounced See-ob-han, then that's their name, end of.

Teachers get a lot of it - you just get accustomed to Laurann = Lauren NOT Lor-Ann, Johanne = Joanne, this Faisal is Fy-zal BUT his mate Faisal is Fessil, etc, etc.

I try only to need correcting a couple of times...

Lucien is Latin for light and it should be pronounced Loo-shun not Loo-si-en.... but either way it's your baby and like you I would correct them when they say it wrong