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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to think this mumsnet thing is a bit of a private club!!!

347 replies

birdinatent · 21/08/2008 18:22

I have been posting on here for a year or so on and off, but I have never really felt welcome.

No one ever responds to what I write, in fact I have sometimes felt actively ignored.

Now obviously that could be cos I write a load of crap that interests no one

Or it could be that very early on, before I realised how careful you had to be, I had an argument with someone who, it turned out, was a mumsnet superstar.

Am I being paranoid, or do people get unofficialy blacklisted!!

btw have changed my name for this.

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JKGrowling · 21/08/2008 18:31

threads move fast sometimes, posts get overlooked.
there is no big conspiracy.
dive in, post prolifically and demand attention, if that's what you need.

birdinatent · 21/08/2008 18:31

I think VVVQV was a bit OTT too, she knows I was paranoid, now I am devastated

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bellavita · 21/08/2008 18:32

Welcome travellingwilbury.

birdinatent · 21/08/2008 18:32

I have never had such a response, should have changed my name ages ago!!!

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bellavita · 21/08/2008 18:33

birdinatent - don't be

expatinscotland · 21/08/2008 18:33

oh, it's been a whole five minutes since we had a thread like this and then someone chimes in with a no-punches-pulled response and we start up with the 'bullying', 'unsupportive', 'mean', 'OTT' and blah blah blah posts.

seriously, if you've been posting on here for a year or so, you know how these threads always go!

StealthPolarBear · 21/08/2008 18:33

YABU I'm afraid but it's natural - I have those "why am I being ignored?" moments but it just depends on topic / time of day / phase of moon
VVVQV - that's not like you!

MarsLady · 21/08/2008 18:33

daftpunk what including blackballing travelling?

zippitippitoes · 21/08/2008 18:33

and above ALL TAKE NOTICE OF THIS GEM POSTED DOWN THE PAGE

so er just npost more or less but more in a confined space

(what the fuck does that mean)

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 21/08/2008 18:34

QV

RustyBear · 21/08/2008 18:34

Bearing in mind that many of us are so addled with pregnancy/broken nights or (in my case) advancing age that we do well to remember to put clean knickers on, we really don't cherish grudges like that.

travellingwilbury · 21/08/2008 18:34

Thank you Mars you have made me feel welcome already

MarsLady · 21/08/2008 18:34

I think that VVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVVQQQQQQQQQQQQQQVV was simply doing what MNers normally do on a

"please don't ignore me/swear/hate me" type thread.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 21/08/2008 18:34

No, really, get stuck in.

Having a ruck is one way of getting yourself known, developing your own 'style' be it humour/Eccentric capitalisations/crapola typing skills is another.

The boards are v fast-moving and we all get passed over or ignored on occasion.

HTH

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 21/08/2008 18:35

Marsy

Did you get my phone message when you were gallivanting on holidays.

lou33 · 21/08/2008 18:35

i assumed vvv was joking

birdinatent · 21/08/2008 18:35

Am feeling less paranoid, now just feel a bit daft

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zippitippitoes · 21/08/2008 18:36

so did i assume she was joking

cos of course she was

lol

werent you vvq

expatinscotland · 21/08/2008 18:36

if you take everything seriously, if you take everything personally, if you hold grudges, this board is going to constantly piss you off or upset you.

daftpunk · 21/08/2008 18:36

ML

StealthPolarBear · 21/08/2008 18:37

well so did I but I assumed she would have used a well placed ;) to make the point

zippitippitoes · 21/08/2008 18:37

and look what bloody mn superstars have posted on this thread

MarsLady · 21/08/2008 18:38
StealthPolarBear · 21/08/2008 18:38

Oh thanks zippi, I know, I was bored and so looked at my B-list threads

beanieb · 21/08/2008 18:38

You're being paranoid I think. I have been posting here since October-ish and although I am aware there are lots of friendships on here, and some threads for those friendships (What is Scuttle?) I haven't ever felt ignored. I've had disagreements with people but I put that down to my forthright opinions and my inability to not share them

There are posters here I would like to be 'friends' with and some I steer clear of but generally, compared to other places I post, I think Mumsnet is so huge that it's actually quite nice to be able to just get opinion which isn't cloouded by personal history with others.

I joined for the Conception forums, and I feel close to those other women who are going through the same.

You get back what you put in IMO