To be dead jealous of mums who have their mums helping them?

[chelsygirl]

I know I an unreasinable but I'm so tired and worn out I can't help it

I just want my mumto be able to pop over, help with the kids just occassionally, go for coffee with her, chat about day to day things without having to shout/explain/repeat everything

Its the help I'm desperate for, during the school hols if I had a penny for everyone who's said to me "oh my mums taking the kids" I'd be loaded.

I absolutlely love my mum, she's 81 and I look after her now. I'd just love someone to be helping me out one day, even for 2 minutes.
sorry for the moan

[Minniethemoocher]

I agree, it is good to know that you are not alone and that others are in a similar position.

[chelsygirl]

seb, I so agree. so many things are impossible as I need/want to spend time with mum as I need to do things for her and friends can't understand you are so torn between doing things for your mum or with your kids, especially if they have their mums doing things with their kids you can't get the time to do with your own kids!

I don't know what I'd do with free weekend without the kids, I'm so jealous of freinds who have this regularly. But also I think its a case of you always want more, I have 2 friends with an army of support and regular nights away, both complaining recently about their MIL's who don't take their kids enough!! It amazes me, esp. as one of them doesn't even work and has her dd regulary taken off her for days at a time by her own mum.

seb you just sound very much like me, dh worked shifts for years, only changing to days recently, I know how hard it is to be with the kids all the time and also needing to help your mum again without the support of your IL's (mine are in their 80's) and also no sibling support either. you have my respect and my sympathy, all I can say is it gets a bit easier as your kids get older and start school! I agree it is better to speak to posters here as in RL I don't know anyone in my position either and it makes you feel so alone when no one else seems to live like you.

again, hugs and best wished to you all, we're not alone girls! take faith in that

[Minniethemoocher]

I must admit that I am embarrassed to complain about my lot in the real world, I am sure that I would sound selfish and heartless, it is just that sometimes I feel that the real ME doesn't get a look in anymore.....

[chelsygirl]

yes compaining here is easier!