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AIBU?

To be dead jealous of mums who have their mums helping them?

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chelsygirl · 15/08/2008 07:50

I know I an unreasinable but I'm so tired and worn out I can't help it

I just want my mumto be able to pop over, help with the kids just occassionally, go for coffee with her, chat about day to day things without having to shout/explain/repeat everything

Its the help I'm desperate for, during the school hols if I had a penny for everyone who's said to me "oh my mums taking the kids" I'd be loaded.

I absolutlely love my mum, she's 81 and I look after her now. I'd just love someone to be helping me out one day, even for 2 minutes.
sorry for the moan

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 22:41

expat - i havent had even an hour shopping in glasgow since before DS was born! i dont think i would recognise the shops

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NotAnOtter · 15/08/2008 22:43

chelsy i am with you

my lovely nanny was great to my mum and had us all the time

we have no relationship with any grandparents so go it alone

i am jealous but hey ho

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 22:44

i wouldn't even care about hte shops, fled. i think i'd just wander around and not utter a peep.

just the journey over would be good.

i'd bring a book and just read it and no one would interrupt me.

i'd sit and stare out the window at the water and the scenery and it would SO refresh me.

it always does.

my mother knows them.

whenever they come over, she tells me to go away on my own for a while.

it's always been the most soothing thing for me.

when i was in colorado, i used to climb peaks on my own after i learned wilderness skills and had some experience.

those walks still come to visit in my dreams, they were so blissful.

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 22:46

thats my escape. i put DS in the pram and just walk for miles with the dogs. No matter how grouchy he is, he loves being outside.

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 22:47

i love my kids, but sometimes, i'd rather just walk miles and miles.

alone.

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 22:48

you are in the right place!

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 22:48

the best part is that i speak two foreign languages, so when i get a treasured slot of time on my own and anyone approaches me, i usually smile widely and pretend i don't speak English.

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 22:50

if you live near glasgow you could always add glaswegian as another language

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 22:55

i live in argyll.

oh, that's the other one i use: i pretend to be a tourist who doesn't understand what people are saying.

if they could only hear my DH and my children speak. lol.

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 22:57

i do love scotland though!

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seb1 · 15/08/2008 22:59

DD1 is 8 and I have had 2 nights away both times in hospital, once having DD2 and once when admitted to A&E myself, don't I know how to live it up , also other 2 nights when Mum was admitted to A&E and I got to stay till 3am while they sorted her out.

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 23:02

oh, we've never had a night away.

nope.

got two - once when admitted to hospital whilst pregnant with dd2 for throwing up blood after getting a D&V bug, and then for having DD2, but had newborn to look after.

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fledtoscotland · 15/08/2008 23:04

i have never had a night away from DS! will have to be away from him next month as am having #2 by EC-Section.

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expatinscotland · 15/08/2008 23:04

a night away.

LOL.

like that would ever happen!

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sweetkitty · 16/08/2008 16:19

Night away whats this you speak off?

expat you need to move closer to me we could be each others childcare, so agree after toddlers newborns are so easy

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chelsygirl · 16/08/2008 17:26

we've never had a night away either in 10 years!

no wonder we're going nuts..............

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expatinscotland · 16/08/2008 17:27

i would do it in a second, sk! seriously.

as the holidays finally draw to a close, my patience is wearing thin and their boredom is growing.

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Minniethemoocher · 16/08/2008 17:36

Chelsygirl - YANBU - my Mum is disabled and I care for her since my Dad died suddenly last year. I have 5 year old DD, a MIL from Hell and sometimes I just want someone to look after ME for a change.

I do get jealous when I hear of other parents leaving their children with the Grandparents and going away for the night/weekend/or even on holiday for a week.

We hardly ever go out without DD and I do long to for an adult night out sometimes....

I will be away from DD for a couple of nights when my baby is born by elective C-section in October, but I am worrying how I am going to cope with looking after my Mum and DD after the section.....

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chelsygirl · 16/08/2008 17:41

expat, your post on Fri 15-Aug-08 18:32:34

was so so true

its so good there are so many on here to chat to about something you can't tell close friends about as they don't understand and you end up in tears anyway

thanks to everyone who has answered, hugs to you all

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expatinscotland · 16/08/2008 17:43

wish we lived closer, chelsy, we'd be happy to help out so you can get a wee break.

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chocolatemummy · 16/08/2008 17:45

My mum has dd one day per week if I happen to be working on that day, I only moved back to same area just over a year ago, She has my sisters 3 children 'everyday' after school, from 3.30-5.30 and quite often in the holidays, when I asked her to have my dd she said "I already have three and I cant manage another one because they are such a handful", so I have to pay which REALLY pisses me off

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chelsygirl · 16/08/2008 18:39

thanks expat, same goes for me helping you out!

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seb1 · 16/08/2008 18:59

I love mumsnet because you always find someone else who is in a similar place to yourself and it makes you feel less alone. I don't know anyone in RL who has 2 kids and an elderly mum (82), ILs miles away, SAHM (so money tight), DH with a crappy shift pattern which changes but covers 24 hours/7 days a week. I think when I say things are possible to other mums because of the above they just don't understand.

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seb1 · 16/08/2008 19:01

Should be things are impossible to do not possible

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chocolatemummy · 16/08/2008 19:14

I guess my dig is that I wasn't aware grandparents came on a first come first serve basis. I have friends whose parents have their children for an entirew eekend each months and they go off on a romantic break or have a weekend in bed and lots of sex, have another friend who works 2days and a night per week and her daughter goes to her inlaws for the two days and night each week.

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