to keep a dvd that my 3 year old accidently stole from a supermarket today?

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I was shopping at a major supermarket today and had agreed to let dd have a dvd for 5.99. She was holding it in the trolley.

Basically I forgot to give to the check out person to swipe so we didn't pay for it.
I only realised this after I had strapped my other 2 children in to the car and was lifting dd out of the trolley and saw it on her knee.
I didn't want to have to go all the way back in.
I feel a bit guilty, but then again I must have spent thousands of pounds at this shop over the years.

What do you think. AIBU to keep it? Is it stealing? Do I worry too much?

Oh fgs. Life isn't black-and-white, give the OP a break.

If I'd strapped the dc into the car I wouldn't have gone back...but do return it next time you're in Tesco.

Sidge- you've never brought anything from a vending machine?????? That's the only reason i used to like going swimming as a kid, the fake soup and treat from the vending machine after.!

It's stealing if you keep it.

This might make some titter

Hello

Hello

Yes I appear to be speaking English......

""Bree are you the real BreeVanderCamp,""

No....... I am someone with values and morals.

I have already said, I would take the DVD back and in a work vending situation, I would leave a note. In the middle of Gatwick airport not a lot I could do. It happened once I asked the next person to stick some money in a charity box.

If I got a double refund, I would say so, because someone else will pay somewhere along the line.

It is not rocket science.

I started a thread a couple of months ago about how I was trying bikinis on in a shop and accidentally walked out wearing the bottoms on under my jeans having forgotten to take them off in the changing room. (I thought I'd dropped them on the way to the till and so oaid for another pair)

I never did take the extra pair back. Couldn't care less to be honest, I didn't do it intentionally and so I don't see it as stealing. If my ds did the same thing or asked about stealing I'd say it was wrong but not to worry if it was a genuine mistake. I'd make him take the item back though. Do as I say and not as I do and all that!

But what OP has described is black and white mamhaf.

OP keeps it - it's stealing.
OP takes it back - it's not.

Simple.

Chill out Bree i was only joking!

Double mars bar double refund same thing to me!

and everyone needs to labour the point because..? she knows it's stealing now, s'up to her and her conscience if she takes it back. but let's not miss an opportunity to prove how divinely moral we all are...

Still having something that you shouldn't have that you haven't payed for. But i would keep the mars bar because i have loose morals

I once tried to return/pay for a single courgette which DS1 had managed to shoplift from the supermarket - customer services looked at me like I'd gone mad and I looked a right prat.

I'd return the DVD because it would weigh on my mind if I kept it.

But although I like to think of myself as having impeccable morals on the issue of theft (!) I must admit there are times the halo slips a bit. For eg I would happily both give and accept a parking ticket that someone else had paid for that had time left on it - in fact I think of it as one of life's nice little courtesies. Now is that stealing?! MN jury - you decide ...

I was just trying to stick up for the OP. I'm sure a large majority of us have had something for nothing and haven't owned up. So leave her alone. She's taking it back, no need for people like bree to go all SHOUTY.

and i habitually give strangers my underground day passes when i know i won't be using them again... shameful, yes?

LMB

Not sure you were only joking , but it would appear that the majority of posters consider it theft and now you are reconsidering.

However the amount of posters on here with loose or non existent morals, is deeply worrying and a scary snap shot of the world my DS has to grow up in.

I was joking about you being the real Bree. Not the other bits.

oh CRAP bree. i'd be more worried about my child having to grow up in a world where people bang on about how moral they are all the time. my experience suggests that they're often the biggest hypocrites.

What a world full of Toddler DVD shoplifters!

DT

Depends on your moral code to start with I suppose.

well, mine is certainly not one where i expound about x or y post giving MN a bad name any time i get a chance.

It depends.

If the shop is TESCO then YA most deffo NBU.

Mine is one where as I grew up, I was given a very well defined sense of right and wrong.

If I fail to deviate from that to please the masses, then so be it.

This site is so very different from the site I joined 4 years ago. Let's just say, these days "all human life is here".

Ds once half-inched a whole tray of chewing gum from the counter at Sainsbury's - I got all the way home, pushing him in the buggy, before I noticed it sitting on his lap. Sadly I don't use chewing gum, horrid stuff.

And have to confess I did not go back to hand it in - vaguely meant to but didn't get round to it.

I redeemed myself when he nicked a tomato as we were going round, though - thought of the grapes in the supermarket thread and offered to pay at the check out. The 16yo assistant gave me a very funny look and said 'I think Sainsbury's can cope with one tomato, don't worry'.

where is that [crashing snob] icon when i need it?