To be shocked that my nanny cant cope with looking after my children full time in the holidays ?

[demandingboss]

Thats it really. We were away for the first 2 weeks.She has had them for 3 weeks and only has this week to go then she has a week off which is costing me a fortune to cover and then she has 3 days one week and 2 days the next and they are back to school.

Told me this am that she cant cope with having them 11 hors a day in the hols its just too exhausting and she spent all weekend in bed feeling poorly with the stress of it all.

She gets paid full time wages all year rund and has lots of perks ( and I maen lots ).

She seemed to be suggesting that they could go to holiday club so she could get on with some studying during the day!!!

I was so gobsmacked I just left and acme to work!

To be honest Im not expecting to get any replies to this as you will I am sure be too shocked to type!

How very unkind and blinkered of you cheesychuff.

I think you need to put in place a plan, involving verbal and written warnings (what does the contract say?) to fire her, rather than make her redundant. You can give her a long notice period if you're v worried about her.

But yes, get dh to take the lead in any discussions.

And well done for taking the first steps to ditching the sponge!

Hey cheesy chuff...........as my mother always said if you dont have anything constructive to say then best keep quiet. Otherwise I might mention that you presumably had some medical intervention to have your children which my bloody huge tax bill pays for..........but then that wouldnt be constructive would it ?

Hey Cheesychuff, I bet DB works damn hard to provide a good life for her kids. I say good for her!

And one more think if I may quote the wise words of the Squiff: Fuck off.

Off I fuck then. leaving you to discuss how to palm off your brats on other people while you head off to Mothercare in your 4x4s to park in the disabled bays and buy a tonne more crap because 'you work damn hard to give your kids a good life'.
What a bunch of angry dried up old hags some of you are!

Am shocked at the malevolence of cheesychuff. Not a nice person as my mum would say.

Good God I wouldnt be seen dead in Mothercare or a 4x4 come to think of it !

My budget extends much further than that.........

It wouldn't be for me, leaving wee ones with nanny very much, BUT perhaps DB has her reasons for it, cheesy.

Maybe she's paying out to care for an elderly relative, too, or has depression and it's better for her and her family to work as much as possible.

Maybe she has expenses we don't know about, like a special needs child who has needed private treatment outside the NHS, or works to help out or visit relatives abroad.

Who knows?

It's not really important here. She's trying to work out to do with this employee who sounds like she really, really doesn't want to be in the job anymore.

what a dreadful person cheesychuff comes over as, well written expatinscotland.

Yes well written expat. In actual fact it is none of those apart from the fact that I worked very hard to get where I am and having done so It would not be right for me or my relationship with DH or family life if I were at home.

The trouble with people like cheesychuff is that it brings out the worst in me and all I want to do is brag about the fact that I do have it all.........gorgeous well rounded kids , a very happy marriage , a huge house , 3 fab cars , a 20k holiday budget a year , loads of diamonds , unlimited clothes budget, private education for my children , a nanny , cleaner , gardener........( looks up )...........oh sorry am I boring you all ?

i have same db,boring innit?

i wouldn't mind a home gym.

but i'd actually need a home first!

well, i guess you can't have it all .

Hey expat I am just about to convert one of the barns into a home gym.........would you like it instead ?

am usually on side with employee, but in this case I'll make an exception....

loved mothercare comment....

if it's an assured tenancy, i'd take the barn.

i just need a piece of it, there'd probably still be room for a gym .

ok thats a deal but only if you kick my arse to get me on the treadmill!

Yes of course they do but TBH not often.

Their school life is very busy........DH is home a lot and for them it is the norm as I have always done it.

The material things are an added bonus. I have had a fanatastic promotion in the last 5 years which has seen my income rocket 10x although I dont do any more hours for it so that is a huge bonus.

Sometimes I pine for them but I know that part time is not an option in my job and we couldnt afford to educate them privately on one income and that is very important to me for all sorts of deep seated dont need to go into issues here.

So I make the most of it and have got myself appointed a s agovernor at their school so I have the excuse to go to all of the things that happen their ! DC's also think I am v imp..LOL !

i'd be happy to goad anyone into exercise.

it's one of those things that is far better shared!

But the fact is, you shouldn't need to justify your life choices (or achievements) to a random stranger who makes wild assumptions (and projections) about you.

ROFL at 'What a bunch of angry dried up old hags some of you are!' [ishooos]

But I am an angry dried up old hag.

And DB - don't bother with the gym - we haven't used ours in ages. Both of us are back with gym memberships near where we work.

Oooh I do like the idea of a 20k holiday budget

have you been to Jumeirah Beach? Keep thinking about it then having one of those "it's very vulgar and expensive but oooh, look at the water park and oooh look at the facilities and oooh I want to go there" conversations with myself. Am dying to know what it's like from a 'normal person' viewpoint..

By the way, back to the point of convo - how is nanny doing this week?

Yes me too and I enjoy it!

How do you have time to go the gym ??? Thats what makes me want one at home as I may actually use it. I think I have decided to do Lighter Life though and crack this weight issue once and for all. You were doing Cambridge...how did you get on ?

No havent been to the Jumeirah Beach.......wouldnt get hubby there in a million years I expect. Just booked the Oberoi Saal Hasheesh in Hurghada for next easter though. Have you been to The Anassa or Vila Vita Parc....both fab.

Nanny on holiday this week. Not left her annexe yet as no dounbt she has run out of money again.Agency have sent me 5 CV's in 24 hours for daily nannies and we are away this weekend lounging in a hotel in Devon so will pin hubby down to discuss. May go Daily nanny and Au pair route and ditch my cleaner who regularly goes AWOL.

How is your Au pair getting on ?

Oberoi? My Dh asked me to marry him when I was drinking pink champagne with him in a sunken bath tub in a zen garden in a villa in an Oberoi hotel in Mauritius. But until our kids get a bit older we can only dream of such places. Used to be just part of our life pre-kids

The favourite memory I have of Oberoi was one day sitting on terrace when a helicopter landed on the pad and some wrinkled oligarch stepped out with a couple of floozies, came in for lunch... our waiter politely explained that facilities were for use of guests only, and would he kindly leave...

Anyway.
New AP is installed. Seems very homely, very sweet. Good English. And the kids both took to her instantly so looking good. She has spent lots of time helping out a neighbour who has 2YO twins, so I am hopeful ... fingers crossed....

Squiffy - i have been to all the Jumeirah hotels several times now,in fact got back Sunday. JBH is like an expensive butlins now Mina a Salaam is far better, also Al Qsar