To be shocked that my nanny cant cope with looking after my children full time in the holidays ?

[demandingboss]

Thats it really. We were away for the first 2 weeks.She has had them for 3 weeks and only has this week to go then she has a week off which is costing me a fortune to cover and then she has 3 days one week and 2 days the next and they are back to school.

Told me this am that she cant cope with having them 11 hors a day in the hols its just too exhausting and she spent all weekend in bed feeling poorly with the stress of it all.

She gets paid full time wages all year rund and has lots of perks ( and I maen lots ).

She seemed to be suggesting that they could go to holiday club so she could get on with some studying during the day!!!

I was so gobsmacked I just left and acme to work!

To be honest Im not expecting to get any replies to this as you will I am sure be too shocked to type!

DB as a sole charge baby/toddler nanny of 14yrs who then became a Maternity Nanny in 2003 and still going strong I am disgusted at your nanny's attitude.

Her studying is to be done in her off duty not during working hours given the children are present,my current baby charge is asleep and so i am occupying myself with my employers full knowledge.

When I cared for little people, I would take the oppertunity of no regular groups running, to go furthur afield with them and your DS behaviour sounds a warning that he is bored and that should not be the case.

She is freeloading, i wish i had £300 a week clear in my pocket as many on MN also wished given the current climate, hubby and i went with no holiday for 3 yrs even tho we both work ft as it seemed prudent to put away some savings given the economy and it has held us in good stead.

She wants you to pay her a very good wage for studying in my view and your children are a bother to her

I hope the meeting is calm tonight and she comes back to work with either her notice or an invigorated attitude, i suspect neither will be the case and think the DP is the way forward.

And it's not fair on your ds to leave him with someone who feels this way about him.
She can't be bothered to put in any sort of time to improve things and he is this way because of her behaviour (you said because he is bored) but he gets the blame?

She is the employee employed to look after the dc's. If one of the charges is acting up because of boredom then she should ensure that he is not bored - that's what she's paid to do and very well too.

She wants to study in the time when you're paying her to look after your children?!! Is she having a laugh!!??

squiffy love boden comment! when i wonder if i was really suited to having children, i just have to do a bit of boden shopping and i'm back in the groove!!!

db - best of luck tonight.

thankyou...........boden ha ha

demandingboss ( 40, sink or swim: sink , red or white: anything at the moment )

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Anxious to know how it goes in a rather unhealthy manner of living vicariously...

DB, don't do that mild, diffident, hinty english thing when inside you are boiling with rage. Don't be afraid to be direct.

Well I find looking after own two children exhausting and sometimes overwhelming, frustrating, exasperating and boring, but what keeps me going is that they are my children and I love them absolutely, so when they're happy and stimulated and learning I get that fulfillment. You're being really, really unrealistic to expect a nanny to be able to look after your son 11 hours a day and not be in need of a break..

Tbh, I don't think your nanny is being at all unreasonable. The break would be good. No doubt whatever you pay her works out a LOT less than full time creche.

I've just read that the children are 7 and 9 and that she is on 1,200 a month. I take it back. Can I have her job?

your nanny sounds like a twat - get anothr one

I imagined that your children would be 2 and 3 and that she'd be a twenty yr old au pair on £100 a week. Ignore my first post please!

no CCWO...they are 7 and 9 and she earns 300 pw week net plus good accomodation and a car and its only for about 20% of the year max as the rest of the time they are at school!!

Thanks Quattrocentro you sound just like me!!!

I am going home in a minute but may not be able to update until much later as I am seeing her at 6.45 and then have a client coming to home at 8pm so will hopefully grab some time with the DC's in between.

If you're paying her that, with all those perks, can I come and be your nanny?? Mind you, my husband, two kids and the one on the way might having something to say about it...

Good luck!

Maybe you could ask her what is not working out in this job from her point of view and what she would like to change. You may be able to accommodate this - or compromise - or not.

I think studying should be done in your own time in the evenings and weekends. This is how it is for everybody - she is not an au pair after all.

I have a big plan of what we are doing and when for each day of the school hols. I will largely plan this before the holidays start and buy tickets for stuff. In fairness I can easily get through £30 a day with 1 child so your budget is quite restrictive and requires some creativity to manage in my opinion. However with a pool and a big house and garden there is lots of scope to do things at home and have cheap play dates. Councils often run free 2 hour activity sessions and this in my opinion would be a good holiday activity. In fact if your kids enjoyed these perhaps the nanny could get in 2 hours of reading on the sidelines & everyone would be happy!

I think you should ask your nanny to plan activities before the holidays even start and show you the plan. It doesn't have to be set in stone but clearly the two of you have very different ideas about how the days should be spent. Personally I would not necessarily have a problem with a nanny spending 2 hours on her laptop with coffee if the kids had done something structured earlier in the morning as I think kids of that age need some unstructured time to themselves during the day. I think it is also good for a nanny - or a mum - to have a bit of a chill out at some point in the day.

Maybe you can sort this out by listening to each other - but if not don't let it just drift as it sounds like it is driving you crazy!

Oh - and the kids could say what they fancied doing as part of the plan, not just you and the nanny?

It is hard to manage a child's difficult behaviour if you are tired, pissed off and unmotivated so this might not really be a problem once you sort out the rest?

How did the meeting go???

justabout

DB had a client coming for a meeting at 8pm and that she wouldn't update until late.

Hope it went ok, if it actually could given the history but am guessing the 8pm home client meeting has run on.

drums fingers. Can't decide whether to get early night or wait around. [how sad]

at jura! I hope your meeting with the nanny went well db.

Blimey, I'm with everyone who says she's taking the piss. Outrageous, 2 that age are EASY peasy.

and belated at Cd's jaunt.

lurker awaits outcome