..irritated at being addressed by my first name

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At the hospital today the receptionist was "Lucy-ing" me, she wasn't being friendly either, the opposite in fact!
It happens frequently especially in hospitals. It does annoy me, there is a section in my maternity notes where it asks how I would like to be addressed, and I have put Mrs......
I don't mind in certain situations my first name being used, or if a person introduces themselves by their first name, first. Does anybody agree?
AIBU?

cold callers on the telephone using my first name piss me off MIGHTILY

fuck off, you don't even know me

I think that IS a bit cheeky tbh if you're a doctor and you're at work. No matter HOW young you look, you worked hard for the title Doctor, and it's not up to some ol' codger in for some new verucca cream to decide that you just look like an Emma.

That was a rant!

But saying that, nobody calls me Mrs Gillespie.

think you are being bit precious.most salutations are informal,but if it really irks tell them

in many medical situations considered more rapport building and empathic to use forenames

It isn't something I've thought about either tbh, although now I am, most of the doctors we see for DS2 always introcuce themselves by first and surname only. Although badges say Dr whoever. I therefore have no problem with them calling me by my first name.

Most NHS staff wear name badges anyway with first names, particularly receptionists.

I guess if you have an issue with it you should say something.

All about personal choices it would seem, pity the poor receptionist/ HCP who has to decifer what all our personal choices are!

It really only takes a few seconds to ask what someone prefers.

One thing that needs to be done away with is mixed wards imo.

Exactly mrz.
"What would you like me to call you?" Or just presuming the more formal title is less likely to offend.

It would piss me off if people just asssumed and called me Lucy.
But that's mostly because my name is Beverly.

I insist on being called Baronness Milton Keynes at all times.

lol at Fio 'not like she called you a wanker'

i would be annoyed if someone called me lucy (that's not my name) and prefix Mrs Lucy would be worse (because i am not married to Lucy)

digression mixed wards are an abomination as to are communal psychiatric rooms (often 2-4pts)

being ill in the company of strangers unable to retreat for privacy

I hate being called 'mrs unfitmother' it really annoys me. I am a ward sister and am generally always called by my first name.
All patients are asked, on admission what they prefer to be called. If their first name is John but they are known as Fred that that is put down on the handover sheet underneath first name, surname.
If some prefers to be known as Mr Bloggs then a note is made to that effect. I must say it is extremely rare though. I always follow the Mr/Mrs rule as I greet them, before anyone has checked the notes and am often corrected.

yes, pts are asked preference interestingly many have the im called Betty but everyone calls Jane scenario

As a teacher I am used to being called Mrs... all the time, so it does seem odd when people are more informal. My doctor does insist on calling out my first name, but I would never call her by her first name. I think it shows more respect to use the title, be it Mrs or Dr or whatever. Obviously, if someone has asked to be called by their first name, that's fine.

I agree that cold calling using first names is red rag to a bull!

Wouldn't bother me to be honest - i prefer to be called by my first name.

My friend whose a GP was moaning the other day that the receptionist in her surgery was annoying as she called her by her first name rather than Dr ..... I must say i was shocked by that surely colleagues are all on first name terms?

Maybe it is done for confidentiality reasons so that only your first name is shouted out rather than your full name. Isn't it annoying when then they go on to check your address & doctor's details and read them out to you for all to hear?

Something I like about ds1's school is that everyone is on first name terms. It's essential I think in his case (previously he was in a Mr/Mrs environment and it provided a barrier tbh).

ds2 and ds3's school is Mr and Mrs all round - it doesn't matter so much with them, but it does alter the relationship.

Last time I visited my GP she asked how long I'd been on her books. I said I was new (previous GP gave up - he was good too) - but she new him so I said 'oh I was a patient of /. She replied "oh you came from Dr Second Name", which I took as a telling off

Eh? It's your name.

I hate it when people call me Mrs X. Makes me feel about 80.

Much prefer first names in pretty much all situations.

think you should be given the choice of how people address you, partic in formal situations, so, yanbu, the receptionist should've started with & asked how you wanted to be addressed.

At work my title is Dr but I tend to introduce myself as because in the kind of work I do it helps if I'm working collaboratively with the person I'm seeing. People from older generations are sometimes uncomfortable with this, and still call me "Dr" - fine, whatever feels ok to them!

Outside of work I don't really mind, unless it feels like someone is using my first name in order to talk down to me. Equally, I'll sometimes use the 'Dr' title when it suits me to be in more of a 'powerful' position. Talking to the bank manager for example

Completely with you 2point4kids - I'm just about to start a job in a school as a ta and the only bit I'm not looking forward to (apart from not being with ds2 as much any more) is being called Mrs... It sounds far too old. (Having trouble admitting I'm an adult at 29!)

And anyway, I like my first name.

BUT those blimmin' cold callers who say, "Hi, is 'Jac' there please?" so they completely catch you off guard and you think it's just a friend who's voice you don't recognise!

Also, liked use of first name especially during midwife appts and labours as it relaxed me at times when I needed to feel like they knew me really well.

I would much rather have someone use my first name - it's never occurred to me to find it patronising. My title is Dr (have always hated "Mrs" "Miss" and "Ms" for some reason - hence getting a PhD!) but obv. I'm not going to insist on that as it looks poncetastic. So first name easier and friendlier. My problem is that I use my middle name, but have full name on "official" medical things so it all gets very confusing and I look like a fool who doesn't know her own name...

I want to be Mrs X unless I say to someone "Call me Hecate". I noticed someone mentioned doctors. I especially want doctors to call me Mrs, because I hate that, how to put it...difference in power and status where you call them Doctor Whoever and they call you by your first name - it's like they are entitled to all the respect. "I'm better than you so you will address me by my title and bow down before me, while I talk down to you and call you Hecate with a slight smirk on my face"

To me, insisting on being Mrs X is bringing some balance back

I have some serious ishoos, don't I?

When my mum was at university even the students were called Miss or Mr.

It was a very long time ago though.

Dh and I still have older friends and acquaintances of the family whom we address formally.

It does feel odd for some reason calling bf's uncle by his first name because he is a priest. I'm just used to adressing men or women of the cloth by their title. Not sure if I'd feel the same if I met the Queen though, which doesn't make sense.