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Shocked that no one helped the girl on the train

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Ohhh1 · Yesterday 14:37

14 year old SA in trained

I am being unreasonable in think people need to stop being so absorbed on their phones whilst out in public. It seems no one helpped this child whilst she was being raped because they were too busy on their phones.

Autistic girl, 14, 'sexually assaulted on train by Afghan migrants'

Baryalai Rahimi, 25, and Mirebadurahman Sadat, 29, are said to have spotted the runaway teenager at a station in rural Kent before following her onto the London-bound train on February 5.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16264873/afghan-migrants-schoolgirl-14-raping-train-toilets.html

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Norwaygirl · Yesterday 18:32

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

Being ignorant and woke doesn't make you morally superior. This is disgraceful what happened to this poor CHILD. Asylum seekers commit far more sexual assaults than people born here.

AlmostAnUnderAchiever · Yesterday 18:34

BloomingXmas · Yesterday 16:27

You are unreasonable for reading the daily mail

Arf, arf, arf. Groundbreaking synopsis of the issues raised.
You don't see this sort of news in the Guardian.

EveryoneUsingOutro · Yesterday 18:34

EppingIsFun · Yesterday 15:15

I'm not sure why we are focusing on the passengers and not the rapists.

This. Absolute scum they are.

NiftyBlueRobin · Yesterday 18:35

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

@TheLastSilverSaint I daresay that if you went to Afghanistan, you'd find that many more Afghan men are responsible for rape there than white British men. What point are you trying to make? And yes, if you've spent much time on mumsnet, you'd know that there have been literally hundreds of threads over the years criticising the government for its failure to deal appropriately with British rapists.

The Daily Mail absolutely does report on white British men committing sex crimes too, why do you think it doesn't? In fact they posted a news story about multiple white rapists literally a couple of hours ago: Man accused of raping wife drugged by her husband tells court he thought her snoring was part of the 'role-playing' | Daily Mail Online

Man accused of raping drugged woman 'thought snoring was role-playing'

Philip Young has pleaded guilty to multiple charges of drugging and sexually abusing his wife, Joanne Young, during a 13-year period at their home in Swindon, Wiltshire.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16265465/Man-accused-raping-wife-drugged-husband-snoring-role-playing.html

1dayatatime · Yesterday 18:35

SilenceInside · Yesterday 18:04

@CakeAndEats having any men enter the country makes the chance of sexual assault and violence increase. So maybe no men at all should be allowed to enter the UK for any reason? That would be the safest thing, and anyone allowing any men into the country would be making things worse. A rational policy do you think?

Actually this is an excellent idea. The majority of illegal migrants are male because it is unsafe for females make a similar journey due to sexual assaults and rape.

Yet at the same time there are thousands of women and girls stuck in refugee camps in Jordan and Turkey and Syria.

So how about a forcible one for one return policy or even a one for two on a regulated numbers basis. This way you are providing refuge for the refugees most at risk and reducing the risk of sex crimes in the UK by male refugees with very different cultures to women's rights.

Sounds like a win win.

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 18:35

eventfulasever · Yesterday 18:32

Think most of these men were born here. Feels like we have a massive societal issue with hatred of women in general https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/manchester-trial-live-nine-men-34843691

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Yes domestic British men commit crime. It's disgusting and vile. These men can be imprisoned. If domestic partner violence is a thing, then no need to make the risk of stranger attacks worse.

Apotofrealcoffee · Yesterday 18:37

NiftyBlueRobin · Yesterday 18:35

@TheLastSilverSaint I daresay that if you went to Afghanistan, you'd find that many more Afghan men are responsible for rape there than white British men. What point are you trying to make? And yes, if you've spent much time on mumsnet, you'd know that there have been literally hundreds of threads over the years criticising the government for its failure to deal appropriately with British rapists.

The Daily Mail absolutely does report on white British men committing sex crimes too, why do you think it doesn't? In fact they posted a news story about multiple white rapists literally a couple of hours ago: Man accused of raping wife drugged by her husband tells court he thought her snoring was part of the 'role-playing' | Daily Mail Online

Agree - the Russell Brand and ‘PPT’ threads are rammed and the outrage is palpable.

Anyone saying we ‘don’t care about white rapists’ is so fucking disingenuous I have nothing to say to them

Holidayhooha · Yesterday 18:37

SilenceInside · Yesterday 17:44

@CakeAndEats no one wants to make anything worse. You want a total ban on men from specific countries entering the UK. That is not a realistic policy that would stand up to international law and it would have detrimental consequences for many legitimate asylum seekers and others. Can you explain how you think you could work this sort of blanket exclusion?

How about accepting hordes of women from Afghanistan instead?

JudgeJ · Yesterday 18:38

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

From your first sentence, we should never solve a problem until we can solve every permutation of that problem?

Emilesgran · Yesterday 18:38

eventfulasever · Yesterday 18:32

Think most of these men were born here. Feels like we have a massive societal issue with hatred of women in general https://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/manchester-trial-live-nine-men-34843691

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How exactly is this of any relevance to the fourteen year old child who was raped by completely different men?

If you have evidence that an ethnic British man is as likely to rape women as a man from a certain number of countries where women are considered less than beasts of burden, I'd be interested to see it. The evidence that I know of says the exact opposite.

Would it be fair enough for someone to respond to a post about that councillor by minimising it on the grounds that other men have also raped other women?

Whammyammy · Yesterday 18:40

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

Knew it wouldn't be long. Lets ignore the fact an undocumented refugee raped an autistic child and roll out the 'British men commit sex crimes too'... im sure the child in question will find your words comforting.

Holidayhooha · Yesterday 18:43

Whammyammy · Yesterday 18:40

Knew it wouldn't be long. Lets ignore the fact an undocumented refugee raped an autistic child and roll out the 'British men commit sex crimes too'... im sure the child in question will find your words comforting.

Hard agree - white men rape too is the ultimate whataboutery. We know they do, too many of them, they are criminals and deviants. Why add to their number by bringing in undocumented males from a society where rape is not even widely seen as deviant?

inamarina · Yesterday 18:43

nomas · Yesterday 17:02

There were 19 Afghan men convicted of sexual offences last year.

That's not enough of a sample size to make any deductions.

By contrast, 80,000 white men were arrested for sexual offences last year.

Your comparison doesn’t really work. You’re comparing the number of Afghan men actually convicted of sexual offences with the number of white men arrested.
And where does the 80,000 figure come from, anyway?

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 18:44

inamarina · Yesterday 18:43

Your comparison doesn’t really work. You’re comparing the number of Afghan men actually convicted of sexual offences with the number of white men arrested.
And where does the 80,000 figure come from, anyway?

She likes to do all this and ignore all the facts and evidence

Emilesgran · Yesterday 18:44

1dayatatime · Yesterday 18:35

Actually this is an excellent idea. The majority of illegal migrants are male because it is unsafe for females make a similar journey due to sexual assaults and rape.

Yet at the same time there are thousands of women and girls stuck in refugee camps in Jordan and Turkey and Syria.

So how about a forcible one for one return policy or even a one for two on a regulated numbers basis. This way you are providing refuge for the refugees most at risk and reducing the risk of sex crimes in the UK by male refugees with very different cultures to women's rights.

Sounds like a win win.

I would definitely be for taking Afghan women and (small) children, but no men.

If you're referring to the women who left Europe to join ISIS in the past, that's a slightly more complex situation, because they already voted with their feet - they want to live in a caliphate and are prepared to sacrifice their children's lives to bring that about. I'd want women like that to be thoroughly vetted before they were allowed back - some have committed terrible crimes against Yazidi women and children for example.

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 18:47

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Any time, any issue, anywhere is good for racism right?

AnswerIsNo · Yesterday 18:48

Ohhh1 · Yesterday 15:27

Were you there? The defendant said that people were too busy on their phones to notice what was happening.

I very much doubt that people were too busy on their phones while it happened in front of them

and I'm not going to read the Daily Mail to find out the gory details,

its very clear the girl was not raped in view of a carriage of passengers. who chose to focus on their phones instead - which is what your generic comment suggests and also detracts from what has happened to her

IME, if those guys had done that in front of me

they would have literally got their heads kicked-in, one after the other and then I'd answer to BTP, some you win, some you lose. Funny old game, innit?

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 18:51

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 18:47

Any time, any issue, anywhere is good for racism right?

What's racist?

Holidayhooha · Yesterday 18:52

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 18:47

Any time, any issue, anywhere is good for racism right?

So Afghan society is just like Kent then? Hmmm, I recall a SA trial local to me at a repurposed Army barracks where the defendant used the fact that women were seen as freely available for mens sexual pleasure if out and about unaccompanied as a defence in court. Spot the difference maybe?

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 18:54

You are being very unfair.

They could have all been paying attention and still no one notice.

They all got on the train together, sat with each other and walked down the aisle - at what part would anyone intervene.

It may have been different if she was already on the train and 2 men sat next to her that she obviously didn’t know but no one would have noticed this.

Unfortunately troubled teens are the perfect victims because often they ‘go along’ with the abuse because they don’t know how to say no or because they’re enjoying someone being nice to them and don’t know anything’s wrong until it’s too late.

At the point where passengers saw her - she likely wouldn’t have looked in any distress at all.

Yes people should get involved but let’s not forget who was actually in the wrong here - the rapists.

ThreadGuardDog · Yesterday 18:55

Lifetsuck · Yesterday 15:47

This

So the fact that British men rape excuses what these two men did ? Is that what you’re saying ? We live in an area of high immigration and close to a migrant centre. The things l’ve witnessed happening openly would make your hair stand on end. The problem here is that no-one wants to admit significant cultural differences and unfortunately as a result, we now have a whole new level of threat for women in Britain.

Yes British men rape. That does not justify letting into the country a cohort of men who have absolutely no respect for women and consider them nothing more than possessions to do with as they will. If we treat expressing concern when this kind of thing happens as racism, then the threat level to women will only increase.

Whammyammy · Yesterday 18:55

Slightyamusedandsilly · Yesterday 18:47

Any time, any issue, anywhere is good for racism right?

Good lord. Pulled the R card quickly there....

inamarina · Yesterday 18:55

Laurmolonlabe · Yesterday 17:55

This is a negative news story about immigrants in the Daily Mail,the chances of it being accurate are slight.

So what do you think the actual story might be?

Beeloux · Yesterday 18:55

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

Uhm, maybe because there is a higher proportion of white British males in this country than refugees? 🤔

Recently in my small northern town, a refugee attempted to rape a woman and a few streets away, one living in an HMO was exposing himself outside the local primary school. These are just recent cases.

Were the grooming gangs all made up by the DM aswell?

I’ve lived in numerous Islamic counties and was married to an Arab. Very often, European woman are seen as easy bait. Other nationalities too.

I’m sure you’re aware of the disgusting laws against woman in Afghanistan? It doesn’t take much common sense that many of these men will not integrate into a western society.

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