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Shocked that no one helped the girl on the train

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Ohhh1 · Yesterday 14:37

14 year old SA in trained

I am being unreasonable in think people need to stop being so absorbed on their phones whilst out in public. It seems no one helpped this child whilst she was being raped because they were too busy on their phones.

Autistic girl, 14, 'sexually assaulted on train by Afghan migrants'

Baryalai Rahimi, 25, and Mirebadurahman Sadat, 29, are said to have spotted the runaway teenager at a station in rural Kent before following her onto the London-bound train on February 5.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16264873/afghan-migrants-schoolgirl-14-raping-train-toilets.html

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nomas · Yesterday 20:14

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 20:13

I haven't. But others have. Someone showed with Denmark as well.

You mean the Sky News article that itself said the data is incomplete and Farage overegged it?

That wasn't a report.

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 20:15

Minasama · Yesterday 20:14

It is not made up. I can’t post a link as it reverts to my Economist app, but they did FOI requests and crunched the numbers. You should read the article, it’s really interesting.

This person denies every single study or data point.

nomas · Yesterday 20:15

Minasama · Yesterday 20:14

It is not made up. I can’t post a link as it reverts to my Economist app, but they did FOI requests and crunched the numbers. You should read the article, it’s really interesting.

How convenient.

YourLoftyCyanZebra · Yesterday 20:15

OneAlertOliveFinch · Yesterday 20:07

Im not even talking about newspaper articles. Page 6 has statistics from the ministry of justice. I couldn't give a flying fuck about the shite posted in these rags.

The statistics are a peice in the puzzle of what's going on...news reports with photos are another. The PP doesn't seem to think either are good enough 😕

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:15

Apotofrealcoffee · Yesterday 19:59

? @OneHazelBird

Do you genuinely not know or are you trying to make a point?

If you genuinely don’t know then we can try and explain it to you.

But if you’re trying to make a point then just make it already because every time I answer your question, you just keep asking another one but not making your point.

This thread is about a girl being raped and whether commuters should have got involved - you seem to care more about your agenda or asking questions, than the actual girl and whether this was the bystander effect or people simply didn’t notice etc.

You’re taking over the thread with things that have nothing to do with OPs question.
Perhaps start your own thread which won’t come across as so uncaring to the victim.
I’d be happy to chat about this on a different thread.

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:16

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 19:05

No they don’t.

Please share where you got this statistic because that’s simply not true.

The facts are that young girls are raped everyday - the media only cares when it helps them to sell papers/get clicks and immigrants are the hot topic at the moment.

A couple years ago it was trans men (funny how that’s gone quiet now) and years ago it would have been black men.

"A couple years ago it was trans men (funny how that’s gone quiet now)"

Really? I've never heard of a trans man (a biological woman) raping anyone, but maybe you have data there? You wouldn't, I'm sure, have posted stuff without evidence to back it up, I'm sure - seeing as you're asking other posters for statistics?

Or maybe it's "gone quiet" because nobody ever made such a mad allegation in the first place?

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:17

CakeAndEats · Yesterday 20:15

This person denies every single study or data point.

No one has posted any data or studies??

baftaagain · Yesterday 20:17

I suppose ( sadly) a lot of rapes are not reported so any stats will be very flawed.

These men seem like hideous predators but I don't think it's because they are Afghan

nomas · Yesterday 20:18

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:17

No one has posted any data or studies??

It's on the mythical page 6 apparently 😂

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:19

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:16

"A couple years ago it was trans men (funny how that’s gone quiet now)"

Really? I've never heard of a trans man (a biological woman) raping anyone, but maybe you have data there? You wouldn't, I'm sure, have posted stuff without evidence to back it up, I'm sure - seeing as you're asking other posters for statistics?

Or maybe it's "gone quiet" because nobody ever made such a mad allegation in the first place?

Sorry I meant trans women.

I know a lot of posters are offended by the word trans woman so I was trying to be respectful but you are correct that’s still the current term.

Obviously women can’t rape by the legal definition.

Minasama · Yesterday 20:22

nomas · Yesterday 20:15

How convenient.

You can enter the stat into Google or your AI and find the article, it’s not hard. The title of the Economist article was “Do immigrants from some countries commit more sex crimes?”

YourLoftyCyanZebra · Yesterday 20:23

Fortuity · Yesterday 20:07

We have treaty obligations to offer asylum to refugees regardless of race. I hate to think what would have happened in the 30s and 40s if we had refused to take any refugees who were not Christian.

We did do that, Jews were stuck on boats because we didn't want that kind of immigration. Same as USA, Canada and Australia. It's part if the reason we now have Isreal.

OrganicDecafEarlGrey · Yesterday 20:23

TheLastSilverSaint · Yesterday 15:20

Do you think it's the government's fault when white British men rape kids, too?

Because that happens a great deal more often than kids being raped by refugees. There will be hundreds more sex crimes committed by white British men than by Afghan refugees.

The Daily Mail wouldn't even bother reporting this case if the defendants were British, and if they did, they'd totally be blaming the victim. They only give a shit about women and girls when it gives them a chance to stir up racist reactions.

I'm far from being a Daily Mail reader but I have worked as a massage therapist. I received a lot of calls from men asking for "massage". Ninety percent of those calls were from Muslim men. A lot of them see white women as trash. And the thing is, I don't know why you'd expect anything else from men who've been raised to see women as second class citizens. That's just a fact and nothing to do with racism.

baftaagain · Yesterday 20:25

I don't know why you'd expect anything else from men who've been raised to see women as second class citizens

All Muslim men?

tiredofallthisshit · Yesterday 20:26

nomas · Yesterday 20:18

It's on the mythical page 6 apparently 😂

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Not mythical at all, here it is

OrganicDecafEarlGrey · Yesterday 20:29

baftaagain · Yesterday 20:25

I don't know why you'd expect anything else from men who've been raised to see women as second class citizens

All Muslim men?

I don't know how many of them see women as second class citizens. I would imagine that most of them do but some of them are just kinder than others. Maybe it's a bit like owning a dog.

nomas · Yesterday 20:29

OrganicDecafEarlGrey · Yesterday 20:23

I'm far from being a Daily Mail reader but I have worked as a massage therapist. I received a lot of calls from men asking for "massage". Ninety percent of those calls were from Muslim men. A lot of them see white women as trash. And the thing is, I don't know why you'd expect anything else from men who've been raised to see women as second class citizens. That's just a fact and nothing to do with racism.

How can you tell someone is Muslim from their voice?

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:30

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:19

Sorry I meant trans women.

I know a lot of posters are offended by the word trans woman so I was trying to be respectful but you are correct that’s still the current term.

Obviously women can’t rape by the legal definition.

So if you meant biological men, you're wrong if you think that doesn't happen. Isla Bryson, Amy George/Andrew Miller, Katie Dolatowski/Lennon Dolatowski/Alyanna McKenna and any number of others prove that it does.

Freedom of Information requests to the Home Office have forced the prison service to admit that transidentifying men (TW) in prison are far more likely to be there for sex offences than other prisoners. That, plus the Supreme Court judgment on biological sex, has led to fewer such men being sent to women's prisons, which is the only explanation I can find for your belief that the phenomenon of male sex offenders who identify as women having disappeared. It has not.

OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:31

It’s really sad times that someone can start a thread about a girl raped in the toilets by 2 grown men and half of the posters have barely mentioned her or the commuters (which is what this thread is about).

If you want to discuss immigration, then by all means do so - but the thread isn’t about immigration and so go and start your own threads.

OrganicDecafEarlGrey · Yesterday 20:32

nomas · Yesterday 20:29

How can you tell someone is Muslim from their voice?

Easily. A Pakistani accent is distinctive and most Pakistanis in this country are Muslims. Can you not recognise a Pakistani accent?

nomas · Yesterday 20:32

Minasama · Yesterday 20:22

You can enter the stat into Google or your AI and find the article, it’s not hard. The title of the Economist article was “Do immigrants from some countries commit more sex crimes?”

And fact-checkers have said that raw percentage comparisons can be skewed if population baselines (like older survey data versus census figures) are miscalculated, and that demographic factors—such as a higher proportion of young males in certain migrant or refugee groups—influence these rates.

So the data is unreliable.

YourLoftyCyanZebra · Yesterday 20:32

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OneHazelBird · Yesterday 20:33

Emilesgran · Yesterday 20:30

So if you meant biological men, you're wrong if you think that doesn't happen. Isla Bryson, Amy George/Andrew Miller, Katie Dolatowski/Lennon Dolatowski/Alyanna McKenna and any number of others prove that it does.

Freedom of Information requests to the Home Office have forced the prison service to admit that transidentifying men (TW) in prison are far more likely to be there for sex offences than other prisoners. That, plus the Supreme Court judgment on biological sex, has led to fewer such men being sent to women's prisons, which is the only explanation I can find for your belief that the phenomenon of male sex offenders who identify as women having disappeared. It has not.

I didn’t say it disappeared - that’s my point.

There are still rapists who disguise themselves as women but people aren’t as hysterical about it as they used to be because the media has now moved onto immigrants.

It’s how the media gets their money.

GeorginaWilby · Yesterday 20:33

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What are you saying, Americans should, or do live under bridges?

Why are you stirring up hatred against Americans?

Why do you hate Americans so much you paint them with a broad & bigoted brush?

Please explain.

LadyLapsang · Yesterday 20:33

I’m not surprised at all. I have just travelled home from London on a Southeastern train, I am in my mid 60s with a health condition (not obvious), I stood all the journey while a mix of men and women of a range of ethnicities, all younger than me, some half my age, avoided eye contact. On a South Western train I once had to get on to ask someone to give up their seat for my late MIL, who was then aged in her late 80s. At least on South Western they usually have a guard.

Stations are left unstaffed when they are supposed to be staffed and this is often covered up. Even when there was a stabbing when someone was chased off the train at our local station, staff tried to pretend the station had been staffed, but the member of staff had left in the early afternoon. Only because I had passed through the station and seen it unstaffed they were forced to admit it.