To think people need to stop asking me did we win the lottery?!

[Loudnproud]

Last year we bought a new house. We moved in together so sold two properties and bought one. We did up the house (built in wardrobes, new flooring, bathrooms etc etc) I then bought a new car about 6 months in and my DP bought a new car about a month ago. We are good with money! We earn well! No debt apart from our mortgage. We have ample savings(not that people know this) but literally every week SOMEONE, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours are asking if we won the lottery! It’s getting annoying tbh. Last night trick r treating we had 4 people comment in the new cars!
Cant people just be doing well?!!Cant people just be good with their money? Rant over!!

There is always luck involved in success.
For example it was not "success" that led OP to her home owning partner was it?

I am kind of on your side a bit @Loudnproud

DH and I have a cottage in a highly sought after village in the shires, near woodlands, the canal, and the river, and 2 miles from the nearest A road. No-one comes here unless they're visiting someone (or they live here!) Basically, it's not a through road to anywhere, except to 4 or 5 fairly large farms. It's crime free and so quiet and peaceful.

We both work part time - me 20-ish hours a week, him 26. We have a 3 year old car.

This year we had a week in Portugal. Also a 3 days trip to London, and a few day trips, and a few meals out (just carveries.)

Several times, my DH has had people at his workplace fishing for information, wondering how we manage to afford this nice cottage, a new-ish car, and holidays abroad, whilst both 'only' working part time. DH says (funnily enough) 'we had a bit of a lottery win a little while back!' He doesn't care, but it annoys me. I think 'what bloody business is it of theirs?!'

A couple of women at his workplace have been going on about how they're struggling with the bills and the mortgage, strongly hinting at him giving them some money. One said 'you could help Mr lottery winner man.' DH said 'not a chance, my missus is in control of the finances.' Cheeky cow. 😆

As has been said, just say 'yeah we won on the Euro-millions recently.' If they ask for any money, just say 'oooh, sorry my husband is in charge of the finances, I couldn't possibly dish any out.' Or 'no sorry, this money is for our future...' Because someone will hint at having some money off you. Some people are shameless cheeky fuckers! 😆

My mother calls us affluent - it's very much a dig.

Your are indeed doing a silly stealth boast, OP. No one really cares about your house and car. It's just literally meaningless chat. And now you're here, with your faux flustered annoyance to tell complete strangers that you've got a house and two cars.

I've said it for years, there's needs to be a "I Want to Tell Everyone This Thing" thread on MN, to save on shoehorning stealth boasts into AIBU.

My current one is nine years old.

If I was younger I'd buy a 2023 Fiesta now but I may not be driving past the lifespan of my current one.

They're great cars.

I have done similar when people have said oh how are you so slim and implied I am lucky. I go to the gym every day and watch what I eat - is my reply now. I know they want me to say I eat loads and yes it's just a fast metabolism or some such bollocks - but it isn't. This may be a similar thing - they don't want you to say yes , we have worked really hard, have sacrificed whatever and had no family money. Only you know the intent behind it as you know the people so that probably would give you a steer on what the answer should be. It's really crass though to comment on stuff like that. I wouldn't assume malintent automatically.

100% this. ^

It’s because we are British so we don’t know how to acknowledge these things! Americans would literally ask the question you stated. It’s like when someone has lost weight and you want to show you’ve noticed but you don’t want to ask directly so complement their clothes or say they look well.

Once when we had 3 VW cars parked in our drive someone asked me if we owned Volkswagen 🤔

People say daft things - they're probably just trying to be funny

Ok, well, that’s your misinterpretation…

How old are you op ? Is that what’s making people comment ?

Are you implying that all these posters who talk about how annoying it is that people comment on their weight, house, what they're eating, being a stay at home mum, being teetotal etc are lying/making it all up?

If you have never had anyone comment on something - your weight, your employment status, your job, your hair, your car, your partner, your kids, the fact you don't drink alcohol, how little or how much you're eating, how well you seem to be doing, and how can you possibly afford THAT, etc etc etc, then you are VERY fortunate.

Don't imply that people are making it all up though.

Most people have a house and two cars In some form…hardly unusual

Im 39…

Most people aren’t living as comfortably as you are right now…

I didn't buy a new car but when DM died, I got a new roof for my house and a full rewire. Lots of lottery comments and yes, I told the truth. Asking about money is plain rude.

My friend, who is a huge Alan Partridge fan like me, said 'Is that your mother's money coming through' 😆

I feel you, @Loudnproud My ruby slippers pinch a bit at the toes too.

Sometimes. But was it just luck? Or was it also hard work over a number of years? I don't know why you would discount that aspect and simply call it 'luck'.

So what do you say? I’d just laugh and say ‘I wish! No we are just good at budgeting’.

I agree with the other person. Buying new cars is a classic hallmark of poor financial sense. Wealthy people who are savvy with their money will generally buy cars that are used, rugged, and reliable.

It sounds like you simply earn well, not that you are particularly smart when it comes to money.

yeah you see I just don’t get this idea. I have bought many used cars…they are never as reliable as you think and they guzzle fuel. So I went out on a limb and bought a newer hybrid one, it’s working out way better than I anticipated to be honest. DP bought a plug in hybrid because we have solar panels.

I didn't say it was all luck. But there is always luck involved.

Whatever makes you feel better I suppose.

It’s just a bit of humour…

If anyone asks how I can afford things I tell them I invented a special type of glue

Noone should give a toss about others. And i'd never open doors to trick n treat as thats parents who dont explain the meaning behind halloween. Its witchy.
Tell your family yeah i did win the lottery are you jealous ? Family dont care about you only material things