To be a bit miffed at my friend’s idea of a ‘takeaway night’ tomorrow

[Teriyt]

My friend is kindly hosting a night for me and two others, a girly catch up.

When suggested we agreed on getting a takeaway and consensus from earlier this week was to get an Indian, and we earmarked the specific takeaway we’d order from.

My friend hosting has messaged to say she has picked up a ‘deal‘ from the supermarket this afternoon so she has got some ready meal curries and sides and said we can sort the money out on the night.

First world problem I know, but a supermarket ready meal doesn’t really hit the spot compared to a proper Indian takeaway so I feel a bit annoyed! She didn’t check with us before.

Those asda curries are terrible. Processed shite horrible "chicken". They're in no way comparison to a real takeaway curry. Supermarket nan breads are all terrible.

What a depressing alternative to a takeaway. A couple of mediocre ready meals of her choosing. I'm glad you're still going to get your takeaway, those Asda curries are ok but nowhere near on a par with a proper takeaway. Even the more expensive M&S ones don't come close.

It wasn’t what was agreed, that’s what she’s done wrong. A supermarket ready meal is ok if that’s what you’re expecting, but if you’re expecting to get something lovely from the takeaway then it would be annoying and disappointing.

Is she watching what she eats as calories would probably be lower than a takeaway?

That’s an unacceptable replacement really. I would still go but I would def let her know I was disappointed. And I would expect some kind of explanation for why she unilaterally changed things.

Only because they're put into the microwave for 4.5 minutes, stirring once. No reason why somebody couldn't do that if a delivery was less than hot (whilst also disposing of the sleeve, the plastic top, the plastic tray and all the other packaging that supermarket food comes with - compared to a paper bag with some foil and some cardboard).

In any case, if we're sharing opinions on the merits of the food itself, I can't think of much worse than a bland ultraprocessed ding dinner that is intended to cater for those who can't cope with the notion of bones or pepper, never mind spices.

Sounds like this person needs to get some better friends if you are "howling" in a separate chat. If you don't like what she has done, be an adult and talk to her face about it.

2 curries and 2 rice between you?! Is she dieting and not wanting to have the food but also not wanting to be jealous of a takeaway?

ASDA!

That's fucking gross and no way comparable to a takeaway!

Sometimes dh and I have a M&S collection butter chicken curry with Naan bread. Greedy guts that we are we sometimes buy 2. They are nice but that is reflected in the price but last week I had butter chicken curry in an Indian restaurant and boy was it good and the Perwashi naan was to die for.

Either OP has jumped the shark or she’s really just a mean girl.
Laughing in a separate chat is horrible.

It's rude enough to choose someone's dinner and expect them to pay, doing it when you've actually agreed something else is a very weird thing to assume

Wow. Asda chicken curries and no other choice? Tell her you'd set your heart on a king prawn bhuna with onion bargee side, saag alo and mushroom rice.

Agree with this !
supermarket not a patch on a takeaway

She’s definitely going to overcharge you and the friend so she ends up not spending a penny on the food. YANBU

I was wondering if it was Asda, some of their stuff looks authentic but tastes foul. I think i'd say I was really looking forward to a particular dish so will order anyway.

I think she's being unreasonable to expect you all to be happy with supermarket sub standards without consulting you but expecting you to pay.

You could do that when you’ve finished howling amongst yourselves I suppose.

Or you could just be grown ups that are a bit disappointed but still looking forward to an otherwise really nice evening.

That’s what happens when you change plans without discussing it with people. Subbing a proper takeaway for a nasty supermarket processed ready meal. I would not be up for this tomorrow night

This is a good point it could be all sort of stuff none of you like unless she based it on what you said you wanted from the delicious take away. I would go really light and say on that sounds good, I think I might still opt for the take away as I quite fancied it but you go right ahead with what you picked

I'd say 'I was looking forward to the takeaway from X place so I'll still be ordering from there, I'm not keen on supermarket curries.'

I wouldn't just accept it and pay for something I don't like/want.

I really don't like someone unilaterally changing plans. My father-in-law hates takeaways and if we eat together, he will try us to steer clear of them. For my dh's birthday recently, we all agreed that we'd try the local fish and chip place down our road. We were having it at our house and we were also going to pay for it. However, FIL came with shopping and food from the supermarket, telling us that we were all having what he'd bought instead.

DH still went to get some fish and chips because that was what he wanted for his birthday.

Block her for that

Who serves ready meals to friends 😆

Lots of people seem to be rewriting the story where the friend has spontaneously invited OP and friends over for curry and has bought ready meals because they are too poor to pay for takeaway and OP has been snobby about it

...when what actually happened was....

From the OP a group of friends mutually decided to get a take away from.a particular place and it is this person's turn to host, but each person would choose and pay for their own meal (OP says they take turns so they may have been to everyone else's house multiple times)