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To believe that Parents must have the right to tell their children they are not “in the wrong body” and children cant be “transgender”?

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DoubleMM · 22/10/2026 08:57

The government wants to bring in a law that threatens anyone including parents with up to five years in prison for denying a child’s or an adult’s “transgender identity” -. The draft Bill is in Committee stage. Labour have committed to making it law. Surely this is just bringing back the Scottish Parliament’s vote that everyone has to agree? That men are women if they say they are? This time parents are in the firing line if they dont agree to their child being “transed” at school or elsewhere? The Bill proposes that the courts should be able to make an order to enforce compliance on parents. Surely this can’t be allowed to go through without a fight?

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StealthTroublemaker · 23/10/2026 05:48

MrsShawnHatosy · 22/10/2026 17:14

Nicely side stepped. Do you believe adults should not be allowed to transition, that that right should be taken away from them?

So what are they transitioning from and to? If humans cannot change sex, then all they are doing is putting on different clothes, changing their name and maybe taking drugs and getting surgery to modify their body a bit. No probs, as long as they realise it doesn’t change their sex and they still have to use any single sex spaces for their sex, not their “gender”.

Shedmistress · 23/10/2026 05:50

MrsShawnHatosy · 23/10/2026 00:30

Most trans people acknowledge their birth sex and don’t believe they can literally change sex and are happy to refer to themselves as transwomen/men. They just want to live as the other sex. If you really cannot stand the thought of that then you need to ask yourself why.

Why?

No man can live 'as a woman'. It is blatantly obvious why.

PollyBell · 23/10/2026 05:51

StealthTroublemaker · 23/10/2026 05:48

So what are they transitioning from and to? If humans cannot change sex, then all they are doing is putting on different clothes, changing their name and maybe taking drugs and getting surgery to modify their body a bit. No probs, as long as they realise it doesn’t change their sex and they still have to use any single sex spaces for their sex, not their “gender”.

No idea people have surgery so they look like a walking barbie doll so dont see this as any different people can think what they like it is theit body? Sure all looks ridiculous to me same as most things people do to their body in the name of fashion or to look 'good' but it is their body not mine

StealthTroublemaker · 23/10/2026 05:52

MrsShawnHatosy · 23/10/2026 00:30

Most trans people acknowledge their birth sex and don’t believe they can literally change sex and are happy to refer to themselves as transwomen/men. They just want to live as the other sex. If you really cannot stand the thought of that then you need to ask yourself why.

So as a male with a trans identity will be using male facilities, as you say the acknowledge their birth sex, how exactly will he be “living as a woman”. Which woman will he be living as? What does “living as a woman” mean?

StealthTroublemaker · 23/10/2026 05:54

PollyBell · 23/10/2026 05:51

No idea people have surgery so they look like a walking barbie doll so dont see this as any different people can think what they like it is theit body? Sure all looks ridiculous to me same as most things people do to their body in the name of fashion or to look 'good' but it is their body not mine

Exactly, they can have what surgery they like, they’ve just got to know it doesn’t change their sex, and so can’t demand access to spaces not designated for their sex. I men, there that guy who had all the surgery to look like a lizard. We’ve not put him in a vivarium. He still uses human facilities….

Examsareoverwoohoo · 23/10/2026 06:35

Anyone who thinks this bill is no problem needs to listen to this.

Across the UK, loving parents have been threatened, shunned and sometimes driven to considering suicide by the authorities they once trusted.
In this series, I meet families whose lives have been thrown into turmoil by the ­failure of pretty much every institution to stand up to the cult of trans ideology.
They’ve been bullied into allowing their once-healthy children to take powerful drugs, sometimes undergo life-altering ­surgery, and be repeatedly brainwashed by the fad of gender.
I speak to parents living under threat of sanction as a result of the social worker and counselling professions abandoning sense and safeguarding.
Writer: Julie Bindel

https://juliebindel.substack.com/p/episode-one-we-know-how-you-think

Recommend listening to the entire series but this episode in particular is relevant to concerns about this bill.

EPISODE 1: WE KNOW HOW YOU THINK

"I'm going to have to refer you for unintentional emotional abuse..."

https://juliebindel.substack.com/p/episode-one-we-know-how-you-think

EasternStandard · 23/10/2026 07:44

PollyBell · 23/10/2026 05:51

No idea people have surgery so they look like a walking barbie doll so dont see this as any different people can think what they like it is theit body? Sure all looks ridiculous to me same as most things people do to their body in the name of fashion or to look 'good' but it is their body not mine

As long as it doesn’t come with the expectation that their sex has changed or access to single sex facilities has been granted then fine. No compelled speech re pronouns either.

DoubleMM · 23/10/2026 08:30

rosa17 · 22/10/2026 11:57

Absolutely this.
But the bigots who are obsessed with trans people know this - their whole aim is to spread as much disinformation as possible to stoke a moral outrage. And it's a very old tactic to conflate LGBT people with paedophilia.

The Bill is referring to “all”sexualities not only homosexuality. Paedophilia is a sexual orientation which it is vital to deter . There is a continued quiet insidious campaign to decriminalise paedophilia- with “minor attraction” being openly used as a euphemism for child abuse. Overtly sexualised “drag queen” acts are promoted to children in schools and libraries. There are all sorts of claimed “queer” sexualities - the whole gamut being a matter of celebration - furries, infantile,polyamory. The Bill assumes that all sexualities must be protected. That is its dangerous premiss. “Transgender” is not a sexuality. But the majority of “trans” offenders are violent or sexual offenders at a much higher rate than the general male offender population.

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Examsareoverwoohoo · 23/10/2026 08:38

DoubleMM · 23/10/2026 08:30

The Bill is referring to “all”sexualities not only homosexuality. Paedophilia is a sexual orientation which it is vital to deter . There is a continued quiet insidious campaign to decriminalise paedophilia- with “minor attraction” being openly used as a euphemism for child abuse. Overtly sexualised “drag queen” acts are promoted to children in schools and libraries. There are all sorts of claimed “queer” sexualities - the whole gamut being a matter of celebration - furries, infantile,polyamory. The Bill assumes that all sexualities must be protected. That is its dangerous premiss. “Transgender” is not a sexuality. But the majority of “trans” offenders are violent or sexual offenders at a much higher rate than the general male offender population.

This is very worrying. So would trying to deter someone from being a paedophile then be conversion practice? E.g. the police arresting them and putting them in prison?

It sounds like PIE all over again.

DoubleMM · 23/10/2026 08:45

No paedophilia would still be illegal but the Bill signals a move towards “anything goes” which I believe confuses and blurs borders and includes children as having a settled sexuality - which is only to the benefit of those who want give license to paedophilia

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MerryAquaKoala · 23/10/2026 09:08

Many of the prominent movement (men) behind trans ideology are proven sex abusers and paedophiles.

Just look at substack, where they have all been very carefully listed, with evidence - charges.

https://fanitsa.substack.com/p/the-prominent-men-behind-the-trans

The “Prominent” Men Behind the Trans Movement.

Let their own actions do the talking – Part 1

https://fanitsa.substack.com/p/the-prominent-men-behind-the-trans

MerryAquaKoala · 23/10/2026 09:10

https://reduxx.info/

An excellent source of listed crimes by men pretending to be women, by the day, practically

Home - Reduxx

Reduxx your unapologetically pro-woman, pro-child safeguarding source of news and commentary.

https://reduxx.info

MerryAquaKoala · 23/10/2026 09:12

Sorry OP didn't mean to derail. This thread is about the abusive labour bill that needs to be cancelled.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/10/2026 09:14

MrsShawnHatosy · 23/10/2026 00:30

Most trans people acknowledge their birth sex and don’t believe they can literally change sex and are happy to refer to themselves as transwomen/men. They just want to live as the other sex. If you really cannot stand the thought of that then you need to ask yourself why.

How are they living as the other sex? It’s not that “I can’t stand the thought of that”, it’s more that what they think about their inner self isn’t relevant to me, only which sex they are. I don’t share your quasi religious belief in gendered souls, nor do I believe sex is a choice a person can make, or that it’s only a matter for them rather than the rest of society.

Shedmistress · 23/10/2026 09:23

Examsareoverwoohoo · 23/10/2026 08:38

This is very worrying. So would trying to deter someone from being a paedophile then be conversion practice? E.g. the police arresting them and putting them in prison?

It sounds like PIE all over again.

A key ingredient in this recipe is the resulting adults with childlike bodies. Hence the obsession with puberty blockers.

Manyanamanyana · 23/10/2026 09:28

Manyanamanyana · 23/10/2026 05:29

Actually there are Bills like this which have been approved in Australia and there are cases in the states where parents have lost custody of thier children for refusing to affirm a child's wrong- sex belief. The objection is because there is no objective test for trans, no-one has been able to prove how a "gender" is born into the wrong body, and plenty of children who went through "gender affirming care" when they were below the age of consent are now de-transitioning and finding that the physical effects are not reversible and in fact are life long and debilitating in one or more ways. Parents need the authority to protect their children from harmful ideologies.

I just want to make it clear that by cases in "the states" I meant the United States specifically, but didn't capitalise, so people might think I meant Australian states. I can't quote states in Australia where that has happened (lost custody), but certainly in Victoria and New South Wales these anti- conversion laws remove the rights of parents to make these decisions for children while they are below the age of consent, and allow schools to socially transition children without notifying, and in fact deliberately withhold information from parents in this regard, if the child says that the parents are "unsupportive".
Knowing how obsessive some children can become about some things, and knowing
the general dangers of the internet for children, I agree that this is a massive safeguarding risk for the majority of decent sensible parents who have their children's best interests at heart. It also does nothing to protect children whose parents are actually dangerous to them, given the massive number of children who are known to child services for genuine risk of harm but cannot be seen due to a poorly resourced workforce.
On that front it seems like a ridiculous waste of resources to me.
And begs the question, with very real harms coming to children all over the world, why are children going through normal puberty and feeling a bit off and confused about it of such massive concern to these ideologues? I wish they would put as much energy into caring about and protecting and campaigning for the children actually being neglected or abused and actually make a bloody difference in that respect.

BeKindWisely · 23/10/2026 09:46

Verv · 22/10/2026 11:58

Interesting/concerning concepts coming from this bill.

For example - effeminate boy thinks that he must be a girl because he isnt attracted to girls and doesnt "fit" with the call of duty and football playing boys in his school.
Peers and school affirms and duly insists on she/her pronouns being used

Or teenage girl is attracted to females, has short hair, likes hanging with the boys, cannot be arsed with taylor swift and makeup thinks this must make her a boy because this is what shes seen/heard and her "transness" is being well and truly "affirmed" by school and assorted rainbow lanyard draped professionals.

Both declare that they are trans.
Boy wants skirts and a name change.
Girl wants a breast binder through puberty.
Both want access to support from GenderGp and mermaids.

This is all completely affirmed by all bar the parents.

Parents say - actually, they're gender nonconforming LGB's. We do not consent to the "transing" of our children. We do not want pronouns of the opposite sex to be used in relation to them, we do not want them treated as members of the opposite sex, and we do not want any decisions on this topic made until they are 18.
Both children distressed, both hitting the roof as parents have restricted to gender affirming media and services and exceptionally distressed.

Which could be considered conversion practices?

Affirming to LGB kids that theyre really members of the opposite sex and lining them up for medical pathways and surgery?

Or refusing gender affirmation and trans identities because they are at odds with GNC LGB?

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Good, clear illustration of the issues👏

WhereAreTheTrueGreens · 23/10/2026 10:14

Many are vulnerable people with disabilities and/or mental health issues identifying as trans.

Tell them they are lovely as they are.

Help them accept themselves rather than feeling they aren't a good enough male or female and pretending to be something they are not and never will be bringing on misery for many.

WhereAreTheTrueGreens · 23/10/2026 10:16

MerryAquaKoala · 23/10/2026 09:19

https://reduxx.info/uk-trans-identified-male-sentenced-to-20-years-for-raping-a-child/

One of thousands but this was UK last months. I didn't see it in the news. Shocker.

Awful isn't it. That will never be a female.

WhereAreTheTrueGreens · 23/10/2026 10:16

MerryAquaKoala · 23/10/2026 09:10

https://reduxx.info/

An excellent source of listed crimes by men pretending to be women, by the day, practically

Thanks for sharing.

Needs sharing to everyone.

WhereAreTheTrueGreens · 23/10/2026 10:26

CindersWasAMug · 22/10/2026 14:04

Thank you, OP. This is an outrageous bill!
My daughter was trans for FOUR (long) years. And then she wasn't. In an instant, it was over (she fell in love with a boy and reconnected with her ONE human (female) body).
We supported her as a person, but were clear we did NOT think she was a boy trapped in a girl's body, and were completely against medical intervention.

After it stoped, she asked me what I thought it had all been about. I said pretending to be a boy and dressing in baggy trackies and hoodies gave her 'freedom from' (instead of 'freedom to'), and it kept her protected during a very difficult time in life. No dating, instead, indicating she wanted to be seen as a PERSON, not judged on how girly, pretty, 'hot' she was. She was young for her age, dreamy and eccentric. She was NOT a boy.

Unfortunately, after she 'came out as trans', four girls in her small friendship group said they were boys too. One (possibly 2) are still clinging to the trans identity, all these years later, hoping it will make their multiple struggles (including autism for 2 of them) go away. It is a false promise!!

At the time, a friend suggested we send her to a gender therapist, then told me a friend's daughter was going there – she's now had a mastectomy and years of testosterone. I am SO glad I decided to go for a 'normal' therapist, for space to talk/reflect, NOT to an 'affirming' therapist, to be ushered along a pathway with broken promises at the end of the rainbow.

No child is in the right body, and it should not be criminal to explain to your child that they have ONE young, gorgeous, healthy body, and the priority is to treat it well, not stunt it with puberty blockers, harm it with cross-sex hormones and dream of turning 18 so they can hack off irreplaceable body parts!

Brilliant

CindersWasAMug · 23/10/2026 10:39

Shedmistress · 22/10/2026 18:22

Not one person has ever changed sex. If thats what you mean by 'transition'.

If not, what do you actually mean and how does one know that someone has 'transitioned?

Exactly. And by 'fully transitioned", oddly, that means penectomy for men and mastectomy for women (for women, the requirement is not phalloplasty, perhaps because that ghastly surgery has an 80% complication rate).

So women with mastectomy "ARE MEN"? (By the way, they also say some women have a penis, so don't always require penectomy for 'being a woman'. It's all a stupid mess. No logic, just 'feels'. And harm.

Wishesandhorses · 23/10/2026 10:41

BinTheConversionPracticesBill · 23/10/2026 00:50

Keyboardkaties: Just look at what happened before FWS.

Naomi Cunningham KC reckons that the Draft Bill would consign both Forstater and FWS judgements to the dustbin of history.

"It's difficult to overstate how important it is to defeat the proposed Conversion Practices legislation.

The draft Conversion Practices Bill is trans activism's attempt to reverse the gains of Forstater and For Women Scotland. It will encourage and enable trans activist bullying that will make what we've seen so far look trivial.

Parents will be threatened with criminality for attempting to protect their children from harm. Teachers for any attempt at good safeguarding practice. Clinicians for exploring the causes of gender distress. Women for defending their everyday boundaries.

There may never be a successful prosecution under it, and doubtless proponents know that. Convictions aren't the point: the point is to terrify us into submission.

It will work. Even without the threat of criminality, and even with the protection of Forstater and For Women Scotland, it takes real courage to dissent at work from the demands of gender ideology, or to point out its harms.

This is our Battle of Britain moment. Labour has a huge majority and can force this repressive legislation through if they choose. They must be made to fear the consequences of doing so."

"Raise awareness. Talk to anyone who'll listen: parents at the school gate; your GP, your dentist, your hairdresser; your children's teachers; members of your sport or social club or your choir.

Badger your MP.

This is an attempt to wind the clock back to before Forstater — only worse, because under the threatened law, dissent will be punished with criminal sanctions rather than mere loss of livelihood.

Now's the time to make sure you'll have a good answer when your granddaughter asks you "What did you do in the Battle of TERF Island, granny?"

We have to win this one."

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This.

And this is why it's being pushed so hard.

It's a full on attempt to undo protections for women and children to benefit men who wish to use them. And yes to pps' comments about linking this to the SEND bill and the massive impact on/removal of parental rights. The left have a very serious problem, and this is a part of it.

JuliaAgrippina · 23/10/2026 10:50

Examsareoverwoohoo · 22/10/2026 21:57

I think it would be possible to conclude that there appears to be an assault by this government on the family and their rights and protections.

It might just be authoritarianism / totalitarian, thinking 1984 is a manual? But maybe they really don't want happy, healthy family relationships and a stable, happy workforce? Perhaps they think miserable dysfunctional people are more likely to vote for them? It's weird. Maybe they're just a bit thick.

Many parents of children with SEND and homeschooled children (who may also have SEND) are very critical of the Children's Wellbeing and Schools Act 2026 and say it is overly draconian and may result in children with SEND whose parents took them out of school as a safeguarding measure given the distress it was causing them being forced back into school. Without there necessarily being appropriate support in place.

Again, there is a suggestion this will criminalise parents and force them into situations where they have to harm their child and not do what they believe is in their child's best interests. I believe (from what I've read) local authorities will be able to force children back into school against parental wishes without any rigorous, independent or robust risk assessment on the basis of what the LA deems unilaterally is in the 'best interests' of the child and without suitable provision in place to support SEND etc. I see a theme emerging. Though happy to be corrected as not totally up to speed on this one.

I'm not that well read around this issue but I believe there is a legal challenge / judicial review going ahead on human rights / parental rights / right to family life grounds. Not sure if it's been granted a full JR yet.

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Didn't Scotland do something similar with Name person stuff - I vaugley remember on school boards on here a parent with a child a school where HT was name person but they were providing no support for the child with SEN and disputing the diagnosis - and activley stopping the parent moving the child to somewhere better.

The UK Supreme Court ruling finally stopped it - I think more for the unconsented data shareing.

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