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To think this person was trying to hint at something

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gogogwen · Yesterday 20:18

I've name changed because if I am being paranoid I don't want abuse.

I recently bought an advent calendar for my child that wasn't obviously Christmas themed. I see lots of people using it to countdown Chanukah and I wanted to do the same. I thought the entire calendar was so cool that I reached out to thank the creators for such a wonderful product. Their email reply back was quite nice but then in their last paragraph they wrote:
Last week a Muslim mother wrote to tell me that her family would be using our calendar as a countdown for Ramadan :) and to me that confirms a really nice thing - that it can be used to count down to any celebration!

The company is Spanish and so I assume the owner is too. It's the smiley face. I have nothing against Muslims, but I wonder if the person wrote it to hint - see, they're just like you, don't harbour any bad feelings. Or even, trying to put me off their company?

Is it me, or just why would they even write that?

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No33 · Yesterday 20:30

Wtf 😂

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · Yesterday 20:30

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:25

Just why would they mention Muslim out of all the faiths. I was just wondering if they're trying to be antagonising or that they might not like Jewish people (because of Spain's stance) and discourage me from using their brand.

... because maybe they hadn't had any messages for. sikhs?

They're just saying it's nice that all sorts of people are using it. Nothing else.

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · Yesterday 20:31

What have I just read?? 🤯🤯🤯

OP…honestly, you are really, massively overreacting here!

EmptyCan · Yesterday 20:31

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:25

Just why would they mention Muslim out of all the faiths. I was just wondering if they're trying to be antagonising or that they might not like Jewish people (because of Spain's stance) and discourage me from using their brand.

Because you said you were using it for Chanukkah and it’s technically intended for use for cultural Christians counting down to a Christian feast, and they were referencing the other Abrahamic faith? It’s not that complicated.

Why would they want to ‘discourage’ a satisfied customer?

Do you suffer from paranoia in other contexts? You’d have died in a panic about some of the stuff I routinely dealt with as an immigrant.

Thisusernameisalwaysavailable · Yesterday 20:31

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:29

That it was a nice email to receive and reading emails like this make it all their hard work all the more worthwhile

I think you're just one of those professionally offended types.

Suspicioustoenails · Yesterday 20:32

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:25

Just why would they mention Muslim out of all the faiths. I was just wondering if they're trying to be antagonising or that they might not like Jewish people (because of Spain's stance) and discourage me from using their brand.

I'm Spanish and I'm trying very hard not to feel offended myself here......just what are you accusing us of?

LanaDelBoi · Yesterday 20:32

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maggisimpson · Yesterday 20:33

I think you're probably being paranoid - assuming you mentioned using it for Chanukah, they were just mentioning that other faiths were also using it for non-Advent purposes.

itsadlibitum · Yesterday 20:33

Suspicioustoenails · Yesterday 20:32

I'm Spanish and I'm trying very hard not to feel offended myself here......just what are you accusing us of?

Yeah, if the calendar’s response was antisemitic this post is xenophobic at the very least.

scoobysnaxx · Yesterday 20:34

Finding a bloody issue oh nothing. The person could’ve been Hindu. Don’t be so bloody touchy. It isnt all about you.

IsItBedtimeYet09 · Yesterday 20:35

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Oh give it a rest

OP there was nothing offensive intended in their message, get over it

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · Yesterday 20:35

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Fucking hell!!! 🤯

The world is going to hell, it really is!!

itsadlibitum · Yesterday 20:36

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This has to be sarcasm/ humour. Right? It must be but with the OP I’m just not sure

AndyouWILLATONE · Yesterday 20:36

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:25

Just why would they mention Muslim out of all the faiths. I was just wondering if they're trying to be antagonising or that they might not like Jewish people (because of Spain's stance) and discourage me from using their brand.

You said their reply was 'quite nice ' before they commented on the muslim mother buying their product. That context helps distinguish a spontaneous anecdote from a more deliberate statement with the aim to put you off using their brand.

DesperateforSunshine · Yesterday 20:36

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:28

There is someone who has voted that I'm not being unreasonable so my thought process is at least understandable to someone (who I assume is of a similar background to me and therefore appreciates where I'm coming from)

Actually that’s 4 out 116 at the moment which means 112 think UABU. This really plumb’s new depths on MN. Words fail me

LivingForTheWinter · Yesterday 20:37

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · Yesterday 20:35

Fucking hell!!! 🤯

The world is going to hell, it really is!!

She's joking

AppleDumplingWithCustard · Yesterday 20:38

Did you dislocate a limb with those gymnastics?

Evolutionarygoals · Yesterday 20:38

I think it's completely understandable that, given the current climate, Jewish people are feeling generally on edge. I'm so sorry you're feeling that way OP, it must be really stressful.
My reading of the message is that the suppliers are genuinely pleased that, in a fractured world, they've managed to create something that can play a part in important celebrations, no matter the faith.
I hope you and your children have a lovely Chanukah OP xx

ClaredeBear · Yesterday 20:38

I don’t understand your thinking here. I’m sure every business likes to think they are inclusive.

gogogwen · Yesterday 20:38

CloudyWithAChanceOfCustard · Yesterday 20:35

Fucking hell!!! 🤯

The world is going to hell, it really is!!

I think the user is just making fun out of me. Like I said, I have no problem with Muslims and I disagree with what the user is even saying

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DesperateforSunshine · Yesterday 20:38

Bearybasket · Yesterday 20:22

You need to get offline and touch some grass buddy

Or start smoking it…..

SpanThatWorld · Yesterday 20:38

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BriarTime · Yesterday 20:39

I would read that as them being self-congratulatory about the success of their business rather than as an antisemitic micro aggression. I don’t think the latter is impossible. I just think it’s unlikely.

EmptyCan · Yesterday 20:39

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Absolutely. All those Muslims who aren’t bustling about banning Christmas trees and making everyone refer to ‘Winterval’ are busy influencing Spanish advent calendar manufacturers.

cartagenagina · Yesterday 20:39

Massively overthinking

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