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Original poster

to not want ds, 9, to attend the sex education lessons at school?

306 replies

fircone · 01/07/2008 14:00

It's just that he is only a little boy. He is the youngest in the year and is completely un-streetwise. His friends' mothers are unhappy about these lessons too.

I'm not Victoria Gillick (remember her, anyone?) and I would be happy for information to be provided at the end of Year 6 before they move up to secondary school, but I strongly feel that at nine years old this is going to be all too much.

I know that there is the brigade who insist that children must be aware of everything from the earliest age, but I am happy for children to stay children for as long as possible.

OP posts:
Nightingalemumoftwo · 08/04/2015 13:25

YABVU
Knowing about sex isn't being "streetwise" but learning about biology. At 9 every child should know about sex and reproduction.

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 13:28

He's about 16 now Night.

meowth · 08/04/2015 13:28

I really shouldn't worry. Mum's taught me and my sister about everything, appropriately, as the conversation arose. I started my periods at 9, i know boys don't have periods but they do have changes happen. it won't be sex ed at 9, you know. it will be a talk about puberty. give your DS a book or something if you don't want him in the lessons. he needs to know about this stuff.

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 13:30
Sad
meowth · 08/04/2015 14:22

aaand it's a bloody zombie thread! haha oops

MrsTedCrilly · 08/04/2015 14:59

I think I had mine at 9 and to be honest, it didn't me or my friends at all. We giggled about the video and stuff we were told but felt like it was something that would happen a long while away. Then after the lesson we went back to being children for the next 4ish years! It was just another thing in school that brought us together and gave us something to chatter about. I wouldn't leave him out of it, it will make him feel like the odd one out and isolate him so he thinks "why can they know about it but not me, is there something wrong with me, why am I different". He'll still be your little boy afterwards Smile

meowth · 08/04/2015 15:22

a previous poster said she would pull her ASD DC out of the lessons because it would harm them... i think it would harm them more to not teach them about sex and relationships, really. obsessive or no0t, give tehm structur, and rules from a very young age (asd or not, it doesn't change how you bring up your DC) and they should be fine. the usual - "don't talk about this in school" but don't ever say your childs body is "rude". I wasn't even allowed to say "balls" in my house. I'm still not as an adult.

iklboo · 08/04/2015 18:05

This thread is brought to you by The Cranberries, Daryl Dixon & Rick Grimes.

ZOMBIE THREAD!!!

MrsTedCrilly · 08/04/2015 18:08

Oops BlushGrin Where does the warning appear? I can't see anything different!

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 18:14

It disappears a few posts after the original bump MrsT. It needs to be permanent I think.

MrsTedCrilly · 08/04/2015 18:35

Thanks Sparkling. I agree, just makes us look daft Grin

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 18:37

People keep asking for the warning to stay for longer. I still don't get why AIBU doesn't go after 90 days like Chat does.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 08/04/2015 18:57

It also needs to be made bigger and more obvious imo (not that it isn't already) so people can't use the "I didn't see the warning" as an excuse. Maybe there could be a warning at the top of the thread as well as the bottom?

Jackieharris · 08/04/2015 19:04

The kids from this thread are probably old enough now to give us sex ed lessons!!

Aeroflotgirl · 08/04/2015 19:07

Yabvu, your ds is 9, not 19 months old and is heading towards puberty, some his age probably have started puberty already. My friend was 9 when she started her period. It is basic stuff that kids need to know, nothing explicit or dirty, its the facts of life.

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 19:09

YY Jackie. Grin I would love the OP to come back now and let us now how it all turned out 7 years on....

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 08/04/2015 19:12

Aero I should bloody well hope that the OP's DS and his peers have hit puberty by now. They are 16 years old now, after all Wink.

merrymouse · 08/04/2015 19:13

Weren't we all just innocents in 2008?

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 08/04/2015 19:13

And YY to hoping the OP comes back.

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 19:15

The thread was started 3 years before I joined MN. Grin

Gruntfuttock · 08/04/2015 19:15

I still don't know why Foreverlurking searched for, found and resurrected this thread. All she said when I asked was "I'm new at this. Sorry" but as Sparklingbrook said "You must do an AS to resurrect a thread from 2008 surely? Whatever were you looking for Forever?"

You don't just happen upon a 7 yr old thread and post on it unknowingly, whether you're new or not. It's such a strange thing to do,.

Bowlersarm · 08/04/2015 19:18

Bloody hell, you think "great thread, Ooh, I have so much to say....." Then it's a decade, well a long time out of date. Sad. The zombie resurrecter should just have copied the title - no one would ever have known.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 08/04/2015 19:21

This thread has made me feel old actually.

When this thread was started I was only 17 myself. Now the OP's DS will be 16, so only a year younger than I was when this thread was started.

I don't know why that makes me feel old but it does Sad.

Sparklingbrook · 08/04/2015 19:24

I went to see Lee Mead in Joseph in the West End the month that thread started. Grin

Aeroflotgirl · 08/04/2015 19:27

Oh my goodness, a blinking zombie thread Angry, and 2008 as well, my then 1 year old dd, is now 8.