To keep DD off school?

[TestyPatch]

DD14 is due to go for allergy patch testing, it will look something like on the photo (may take a minute to load). She will go to the clinic Monday, Wednesday and Friday during the week of testing. In the time she can’t get her back wet (so no showers), no getting sweaty and to wear old / lose clothing and bra.

She is saying she can’t go to school without showering and wearing a soft bra (she is large chested) and it’s impossible to get on the school bus / walk to school without getting sweaty.

AIBU to keep her off for the week? School will almost certainly say I am.

She might be in pain and itchy on some of the sites. She's not going to feel comfortable without a proper bra on (there's no way I could go to work feeling unsupported), and she'll feel self conscious wearing different clothes and a bit sweaty/smelly if not able to wash. It would be horrible to send her in.

I'm terrible for never taking a day off when I need it. But I think you should let her have the day off. Get the school to give her work for home in advance.

My daughter had this done and stayed home the first 3 days. By the 4th day she was able to get a soft bra on and went to school. She had to skip dance classes and PE all week which made her sad.

My primary age DD had this skin prick testing last year. She had the day off school to attend the allergy clinic and tested positive to everything although had a dose of cetirizine in clinic and was fine to attend school the following day.

I think a week off school is totally excessive for the skin pricks. DD can find a soft, non-underwired bra to support to her chest and can wash with a flannel at the sink as necessary if she is really unable to shower.

But it’s not the day off, it’s a full week?

I'm aware of that - I read the OP.

I would keep her off and phone in sick for her

I think at age 14 it would be excruciating to go in. But you should try to cover the work she will miss. A week is a long time.

Did you miss the bit where she has to go to the clinic 3 times?

Is it 5 days no showers she’s worried about? Can you get some body / personal wipes? And some nice body spray for her.

I would keep her home. In the long run it makes no diffence.

3 times is not a week? Yes to being off the days of the clinic - mon, weds, fri. My DD was off the day she attended the clinic. I just don’t see how she could need the full week off however my experience may be different given my DD was young primary age therefore no body odour and no breast development

@TestyPatch yanbu to keep her off for the week.

Can you not have some compromise (assuming she's not very itchy) - a non-wired sports bra is supportive but soft, wet wipes and/or a flannel to wash without having a shower, her not carrying a backpack, and you giving her a lift to school (and home if possible)?

Primary DD wouldn’t have the same need to shower or wear a bra though as a teen?

Potentially yes, just exploring what others think.
The Monday appt is likely to be PM so she would at the very least go in Monday am.

Your experience is completely different and irrelevant as it’s not comparable.

Yes she’s worried about no showers, getting sweaty in the school uniform and also not being able to wear a proper bra.

I think it's reasonable to keep her off school for the week

And I'm one who doesn't keep my child off unless it's absolutely necessary

Yes i understand OP that’s why I stated in my previous post that my experience is likely different to a teen with breast development and experiencing body odour. However, in regards to the prick test itself, my daughter reacted to absolutely everything in clinic but after receiving cetirizine was fine to attend school the following day. But I understand that the issues that factor into your decision are outside of my own experience with DD

I wouldn't send her in at all. I can't imagine how she would feel not being able to shower or wear a bra during the week along with the distraction of any itchiness all whilst also being expected to go to school and learn.

I'd let her have the time off. Personally having to go to secondary school without a bra sounds like one of those weird nightmares you sometimes get.

Yeah I would keep mine off without a second thought.

I think these are all valid reasons to keep her off and I don’t say that lightly. Also let’s remember she’s only a child and it’s a pretty invasive and scary procedure. Hope all goes well.

Missing the point (though yes I would keep her off) but is this the new way of doing skin prick testing ?
My dd who is 18 now always had hers done on her arms

My daughter was 13 when she had it done so relevant. She had a maths assessment so she needed to be in on Thursday and we made it work. She didn’t go in at all the first 3 days. She wore a sports bra when they put them on and they specifically put the stickers on around the straps so she could wear the same one to school later in the week (I helped her get it on without disturbing anything. She didn’t have many strong reactions though so that might be different.