To keep DD off school?

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DD14 is due to go for allergy patch testing, it will look something like on the photo (may take a minute to load). She will go to the clinic Monday, Wednesday and Friday during the week of testing. In the time she can’t get her back wet (so no showers), no getting sweaty and to wear old / lose clothing and bra.

She is saying she can’t go to school without showering and wearing a soft bra (she is large chested) and it’s impossible to get on the school bus / walk to school without getting sweaty.

AIBU to keep her off for the week? School will almost certainly say I am.

When I had mine done, I had a flannel wash of the bits required and wore my normal bra looser than normal.

If she got an earlier bus she could walk slower? Does she always sweat in a standard walk from the bus? Or you give her a lift?

I would not let a teen stay off a whole week for this, she isn't ill.

I also washed my hair over the bath, there are so many ways to keep clean without washing her back!

In what way is this an "invasive procedure"?

She has been diagnosed with Hidradenitis suppurativa but also keeps coming out in significant rashes, we are trying to get to the bottom of weather they are inflammatory reactions, infections or an actual allergy alongside the HS. She’s has had way to many courses of antibiotics to keep guessing.

Yes, Monday, Wednesday and Friday appointments.

I haven’t ever said it’s an invasive procedure. I guess how uncomfortable she is will depend how strongly she reacts to the allergens.

Interesting to hear it hasn't changed! Given the week is disrupted anyway, I'm now firmly pro week off with schoolwork at home.

I do wonder if some of the problems may be a penicillin allergy. Once I had that diagnosed, life became a lot easier as I wasn't making myself worse with treatment. My dad has it too.

Hidradenitis suppurativa can be a really uncomfortable and unpleasant condition, your poor daughter. (I have a friend who has it).

She may already be very self conscious about her body, smells and leaking fluids if it’s anything like my friend’s experience, so I would not be pushing her to go into school without a bra and unshowered.

I think the PPs who’ve said if they wouldn’t be comfortable with something as an adult, no way would they force a teen to do it, have a point. Adolescence is so difficult and it must be even more so with a condition like HS.

Ask school for work or at least topics that she can study when she’s not at the hospital. I hope the tests are useful and she gets the support she needs.

I’m a teacher and I would let her have the week off - I’ve been a 32G since I was a teenager and there was no way I would have gone to school without a bra. I’d just like to point out that Benedict’s law also states that children can’t be penalised for missing school for allergy related appointments - I’m aware it’s not actually the appointments and the time around them but the school will be very careful that they’re adhering to the new law!

So you went to work and didn't shower all week? Im not sure why op is asking this. Her poor DD.

I beg you OP dont send her.

I was her age, with the same boob size, I was conscious of them enough when they were holstered in, I would have died before going to school with a soft bra, which may as well be no bra.

The A cuppers on this thread wont understand.

No, if you read my posts, I sat in a 3 inch bath and washed from there. Every day.

Sounds like she actually has been suffering quite a bit!

How useful to know this!

No, another poster did.

I’d keep her off 100%