AIBU- Stuffed Toy in the office.

[2021x]

I work in a newly formed team in an office. We have our team admin who I am going to guess is at least 26-28 y.o. woman.

We did one of those "professional" corporate team-building tests, and she seemed really confronted by some of the feedback she got. Since then, she has started acting more childlike and dependent and constantly seeking feedback on things she clearly can handle herself.

Today, however, she started walking around the office with a stuffed toy. She brought the toy-a crocheted horse- into the meetings and had it on her lap, with the head poking onto the table while she was typing, and was hugging it to her body when walking back from meeting rooms like a child and talking to other team members.

She is getting married this year and has said she just wants to elope, as the cost and managing all the preparations are stressful, and she is dreading it because she will be the centre of attention. She is clearly very sensitive and going through a very tough time (none of her family lives here), but AIBU that this is a step too far, or am I just getting a bit too old/grumpy and should mind my own business as she isn't harming anyone?

I hope you are supportive and kind to him and his blow up doll.

You sound effing horrible. No wonder ahe feels insecure.

It’s about a transitional object which a blow up doll could also be so it’s not irrelevant

Everybody experiences and deals with stress in their own way - it’s not just people who may be neurodivergent. Implying that those people have it worse is treating them as an homogeneous group which in itself could be seen as ableism.

Classic whataboutery 🤷🏼‍♀️

Are you really going to compare a small teddy against a blow up sex doll.

Really? 🙄

But it could be, and according to you that would be just fine and dandy, it’s a transitional object after all 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s exactly the same principle.

It wasn't though. It was about a young lady with her horse.
And her baby voice... probably regression.

Maybe look up why that happens.

Hasn’t anyone asked her why she’s carrying a kids toy around?

I didn’t say sex doll, I said blow up doll, what if the poor man was widowed and it brought him comfort so he could continue working and not be a burden on the state as has been pushed here? What’s the difference?

Avoiding answering yet again.

The Be Kinds called us Cunts?

How disappointing, and yet totally predictable.

Yes she’s obviously carrying around a crocheted horse as a result of trauma from one of her colleagues silently judging her

And if it was a blow up doll? Can you just answer?

If the blow up doll thing really needs explaining... it's a false equivalence. It's treating two things as comparable simply because they share one characteristic (providing comfort), while ignoring the fundamental differences between them.

What are those differences?

It isn’t. At all🤣 fucking he’ll I am embarrassed to be even explaining this.

That poster was using an extreme false equivalent. And an absurd one at that. Probably because people are running out of legitimate logical arguments.

A stuffed horse is soft, non disruptive sensory item. A blow up sex doll is explicit adult content which would (hopefully) constitute as workplace sexual harassment.

If you genuinely cannot tell the staggering difference between basic nuerodivergent sensory grounding and introducing sexually explicit items in a professional environment then there’s really no hope for you.

Are you dim? Why do you need someone to explain that to you?

You really need me to explain the differences between a known sensory regulation item and a blow up doll. Really?

Yet again, I said blow up doll, not a sex doll, you can get male blow up dolls that sit in the passenger seats of cars to give the impression that the female driver is not alone, not every blow up doll is a sex doll, I was clear in my description, nowhere did I say sex doll.

The posts give.off a vitriolic vibe. Surely better ways of dealing with it than all guns blazing posts. And why come on here and say it. For what purpose. Bizarre.

You said this "the lack of understanding that if there is a genuine MH problem then it’s a protected characteristic"

No mention of satisfying any definition. Just a statement that "genuine MH issue = PC" so I was just pointing out thats not the case.

I dont remember if it was you who said the other stuff about PIPs and my phone is being an arse so I cba scrolling back, but I do recall there was another very strong statement that "employer cannot do XYZ" in that and another post i think, which is what I was referring to.

The rest of your post is spot on though.

I agree its fucking weird and entirely unprofessional. What next, a dummy?

There is a lovely autistic male I follow who has a teddy he carries as an adult..he is autistic and successful but needs this to enable her to be effective