I have to assume you are seriously angry to imagine my post was directed at you. I haven't even read any of your previous comments, in fact I read about three comments on this thread and it was the standard regurgitated mantra chanting these threads always attract, hence my comment.
My post is factual and there's not an angry word in it, I give clear advice and utterly reject the minimising nonsense that is always, without any exception, thrown at suffering people as though it's a pearl of wisdom.
I took a wild stab in the dark and assumed someone would have been wanking on about poisoning and burning - because someone always does and because I couldn't be arsed reading pages of the same stuff that is always chanted.
And if we're going to go down the claim to authority, I worked as a loss, grief and bereavement counsellor for several years and one of the most distressing things for any grieving person was the "it's been a year/two years/whatever amount of time just move on from missing them now" comments in whatever shape or pretence at being well meaning they arrived.
But I don't come to these pages pretending to be an authority figure, because a few comments on a page is not that, and I can't counsel the OP. Face to face, my technique would be entirely different, I would let her talk and then guide her to prioritising what she needs and let her find the answer herself through prompting and all sorts of listening and counselling techniques.
You can't do that on a page, hence being direct. Sometimes being direct and robust gets through to people in a written comment, where endless cliches do not.
The reason I align the "just move on from your grief" people with the forgiveness mantra chanters is the abject lack of empathy and compassion. The only reason to demand someone forgives anyone, or moves on in grief, or otherwise minimise their loss or suffering or abuse or expect them to behave in a way you think they should behave is for the comfort of the person making that demand.
Forgiveness mantra chanters, like grief minimisers, are not trying to help the person in distress at all, they just don't like hearing about true pain, are made uncomfortable sitting with it, or they don't like the person, or they feel their suffering is unimportant - or insert a dozen other personal reasons why people try to jam forgiveness down another person's throat. It's the most incredibly self centred thing to do and shows a deep lack of understanding of how people react to harm.
In most case saying absolutely nothing beyond a sympathetic nod and a murmur is far better than telling someone how to feel and that includes telling them they must forgive, which means all different things to different people. Discarding people is the best way to remove their harm from your life and is far more effective than the vague demand to forgive, which everyone defines in their own way anyway.
If none of this is you, there's no reason for you to identify as one of the mantra chanters. As I said, I haven't even ready any of your comments on this thread.
I just absolutely cannot be arsed with the same mindless pap that is always presented as advice any time forgiveness, loss or grief is mentioned, pretty much anywhere online. It's harmful, it's lazy, it's unhelpful and where I can be bothered to, I will keep pointing that out.