AIBU: people calling it peri-menopause instead of menopause

[Joyful26]

ok firstly I know that technically you are in peri-menopause, then the menopause itself is literally the day your period stops altogether- then after that one moment in time you are post-menopausal.

But people always calling it peri-menopause is clearly to indicate that they are actually still really young and nowhere near the menopause itself yet.

I think that’s why it grates on me so much. Because on the one hand they’re championing the issues that affect women etc, but at the same time making it clear that they themselves are actually very young and youthful- yet not afraid to mention these issues.

for what it’s worth I can’t be bothered faux-impressing anyone and I just call it the menopause.

but every single one of my friends calls it peri-menopause or they’re simply’peri’. We’re all mid 40s.

just saw someone on LinkedIn purporting to do a Women’s rights post, someone in her 50s commented about the menopause, and the original poster replied but talked about peri-menopause.

AIBU or a people who call it peri-menopause just a bit vain? 😅

I completely agree with you @Joyful26 and it proper grates on me too. I can't articulate why.

I’m simply stating my opinion. That doesn’t translate to anger. Are you confusing me with someone else?

@pumpkinpielatte I see you’ve edited your post so that mine no longer appears to be a reply to your actual comment. If anyone else is confused I hope they will view your original comment via the edited button where you described me as angry.

It’s such a highly personal topic and I can very well understand why it would grate.

Whether others view it as right or wrong, many of us were also taught to keep health matters and particularly women’s health matters private.

I think it’s even our pets will hide anything physical that might make them vulnerable in the wild. The instinct to keep health matters things like this private is often about protecting oneself.

i forgot to mention weight gain!!! Oh my word, that’s been a shock!

Have you looked into HRT? I’m thinking about it and a few friends have highly recommended.

One particularly said she struggled with weight for her adult life and now since starting HRT has slimmed down and can eat what she wishes. And she looks fantastic.

Huh? How on earth be using the correct term be some sort of play to make yourself seem, you’re not in menopause, how very odd,

🙄

Are you taking HRT?

Yes I’m on hrt. It has definitely helped with symptoms but not completely cured them all. I am certainly better with it as tried reducing a few months ago which wasn’t good.

Moving to continuous progesterone a couple of years ago was fabulous as it stopped the roller coaster of emotions through my cycle.

I went to my GP about peri menopause symptoms and she told me it wasn't the menopause because I was still having periods. And then told me the flooding I was experiencing was due to my age.

Anyway, nearly ten years on I am still in peri menopause, have just started HRT and it's a bloody miracle.

Is your GP daft? Peri-menopause, as a term, exists to describe the symptoms one experiences before periods actually cease. Ergo, you still having periods and also symptoms that relate to your age is peri - menopause.

I'm not one to get my knickers in a twist about scientific prefixes. I'm just happy we CAN talk about it freely. I'm 50 and can remember my DM and friends making sure no men were in the vicinity and talking in hushed tones about 'the change'. I thought there was an actual condition called 'Timeoflife', the amount of times DDad would blame his mother's crankiness on it.

I don't think it's vain but we did use to just call it the menopause.

Funnily enough I try not to see that particular GP anymore.

To make it worse, women's health is apparently her specialism.

Then you'd be wrong.
Menopause is actually what you call it when you have had NO periods for 12 months.
Until then... its peri-menopause.