AIBU to think a couple moving into in a five bedroom house is selfish?

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AIBU here??

I’ve noticed that a couple have recently moved into a 5 bed detached property in my area. They don’t have any children…

I honestly don’t understand it. Why on earth would two people need five bedrooms?! Surely a house that size should be going to a family who actually needs the space?

It just seems incredibly selfish to me when there are families struggling to find suitable homes.

I don't think that there is a crisis of "families struggling to find suitable homes" in the 5 bedroom detached end of the market. If anything, they might have freed up a more affordable home by leaving their last property.

They might be planning to.have kids?!

Really OP?! what does it matter how many bedrooms the house has?

Perhaps have a word with them and also ask how much they have in their savings, I mean that might be too much for just 2 people as well.

Once they have dependents and childcare costs they won’t be able to borrow as much mortgage-wise. It makes sense to buy the house they need now for the future, if they can afford to.
Not that it’s any of your business, and they are perfectly entitled NOT to have children.

We must be even worse. 5 beds, 1 kid. A bedroom for us, 1 for DD, a spare room (My DP live far away) and 2 offices as we both wfh full time.

Our neighbour has one person in a 5 bed (elderly widow, grandkids stay A LOT so she often has a full house sleepover due to both of her sons and their partners working shifts, even if on paper it's underoccupied).

Buying it well whoever cqn pay for it. And eho is to say they won't be having children.soon or already pregnant with twins.

If it is council a different story. Across the road lively council house 3 bed. Was given to a single Mother and her 3 year old. She has trashed the garden. Thencouncil.workers came.and fixed it up before she moved in. Front and back utterly trashed. She had friends stay over and they make so much noise the other rooms are for her many B/Fs and Friends to crash at. Now that seems ridiculous.

Good for them for having worked hard enough to be able to afford this house

You sound jealous.

A friend of mine and her husband live in a four bedroom house. They have no children, and no intention of having children.

These selfish fuckers dared buy the house after it had been on the market for a year. You are right op.

They should have left it to go to ruin, waiting for a family to buy it instead.

It's non of your business and you sound like a nosey curtain twitcher.
Pleased I don't live near you......

Yanbu. There is a newly built estate near us , the houses are also 5 bed. The majority have been bought by snooty, older (60s+) couples with adult dc (not living with the couples) It really does annoy me tbh as does the fact that a lot of people round here have two houses ( one rented out or air b&b )which I think is extremely selfish also.

Poster gets upset at how other people spend their own money.

I feel like that is just how it is among many in the UK generally nowadays. Someone doesn't have something so they don't want another person to have it. (See, private schooling; holidays; nice clothes or cars).

DH and I moved 3 years ago, from a 4 bedroomed house to...... another 4 bedroom house. It's just us

We both WFH so need two studies. We have lots of friends and family visit regularly who need to stay (my mum lives 250 miles away, our sons live 300 and 350 miles away). We could manage with 3 bedrooms, and did look at 3 bedroomed houses as well as 4, but the one we moved to ticked all the boxes for us.

Its none of your business.

They are prrhaps planning ahead. Buying the size of house they think they'll need if they have children in the future. Saves moving a few times and wasting money on estate agents etc.
They could have family abroad who need a place to stay when visiting.
All sorts of reasons.
If you wanted the house you should have bought it.

Perhaps they are buying it to hold massive Eyes Wide Shut style orgies on the weekend? They might need the extra bedrooms.

You don't need to justify it @AnnaQuayRules . You spent your own money on something you wished to spend it on. Good on you!

I live in a 4 ( double) bedroom Victorian house, with 2 living rooms, a large conservatory , an office and a big garden. My children live nearby in their own homes with wives and children. There are 2 of us here. We will move in 5 years or so but not to a smaller house, just a house in a more urban area so we don't have to drive everywhere. We love the space. I'm not moving to a tiny house. My mother is 87. She lives nearby in a 5 bed 70s house. She is a widow. She will leave that house only because she needs to go into a care home or sadly dies. Her house is beautifully maintained,modern and stylish. She thought about moving after my father died but grew into the space and decided to stay. If you can afford space you are allowed to have it.

Isn't it funny how the term "rattling around" is always used when talking about spacious properties. Dripping with envy.

sad for you. Our 5th bedroom is going to be a home gym. So what.

Can I ask why? Is it just the number of bedrooms that bothers you? Or should people without children not have big kitchens and living rooms either? Do you think people with gardens are selfish too, nobody really 'needs' those. People with really big rural gardens, are they the most selfish of all?

Do you only take the food that you 'need' to survive home from the supermarket, and do you donate the rest to food banks? Do you only keep the amount you really 'need' from your salary, and donate the rest to charity? Do you eat vegan, because you don't 'need' meat and dairy, and the carbon footprint is higher?

I think the highest competition is for 2/3 bed starter homes, so if the people who no longer 'needed' their four bed downsize to a two bed, it'll just increase the already high competition on those smaller homes. 4-5 bed homes often stay on the market for longer because fewer people can afford them. I'm generally pretty left wing, but this thread is just silly. A thankfully small percentage of people seem to think that anyone who decides not to have children, or who can't have children maybe, should only live in a small terraced house or a flat.

About to move into a 4 bed with several reception rooms, massive garden. We're buying it from a couple a bit older than us who I think are also child free, because they're upsizing. We've not kids and no plans to have them, I'd make a crap mother, so best not to have kids for the sake of it, to me that would be selfish.

We'll work from home, so at least one of the rooms will be used for that and storing stock. The rest of the space will easily get used for hobbies, gym, pets etc. We've both always like the idea of having a big house and garden and we've worked and planned financially for the past 15 years to be able to afford it, I'm not sure what's selfish about that. Should DINKs all be living in small 1 bedroom flats with no gardens? 😆

Ive got a 4 bed.
Currently I have a lodger to help with bills, one son lives here and the other visits and stays here. But I intend so stay here forever or until I go into a care home or whatever. Even with no children at home and when hopefully I can afford to no longer have a lodger.

I won’t downsize because of the cost and stress of it.

@Eire12 Genuinely, why does it annoy you when someone buys a house with more bedrooms that you decide they may possibly need?

We are a couple. We have a 4 bedroom house. DH and I each have our own rooms. I have 2 spare rooms (1 tiny) which my daughter and grandson who live 6 hours away stay in when they visit. I would love to have another 3 bedrooms so that my other daughter and 2 grandsons who live closer could also come to stay. AND I would like to have a dressing room or two. AND at least 2 sitting rooms, and maybe a study as well. That would be a HUGE upsize we simply can't afford, but if that couple CAN afford their 5 bedroom home I say go for it! I don't think there is so much a lack of housing stock (although I accept there is some lack) as there is a lack of affordable housing stock. Their buying a 5 bedroom house doesn't mean a young couple with 3 children can't buy a house, it means that they could have bought that house if they had had the money, but they probably didn't.

Well, I bought a 4 bed, 3 bath, 2 reception room house as a single woman, with the intention to remain single and childfree for life.
I renovated, knocking two of the bedrooms together to make one fabulous master suite, with a dressing room/walk in wardrobe which is epic and an en-suite; I’ve turned the box room into a cloakroom and kept a spare bedroom for guests. The second reception room is a study/exercise room combo. Oh, I also extended the kitchen and dining room. Mortgage paid off over 11 years, by the time I was 43. But op probably thinks I should be living in a bedsit somewhere and grateful for it!

I have 5 bedrooms. My husband and I have each requisitioned one as an office, we sleep apart because he snores, and so we have one spare bedroom. I do think it’s selfish, yes. But I love the space!

Ahhh, and I thought the days other Friday night wind-up threads were over.
Apparently not! Well done, OP 👏