AIBU to think they were overreacting to my initial necklace?

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I was at a meal with family and friends of family yesterday. I wore a necklace with my partners and children’s initials on.

A friend of the family asked what the initials were for an I told her, although as she knows my partners and children’s names, I think she already knew. She asked why I would have my partners initial and went on a rant about not needing to be owned and that he hadn’t even married me and given me a ring, yet I ‘wear his name on me’. 😳 I said it’s just a necklace, they’re quite popular, I like it and she’s reading too much into it. Later on she started talking about it again with someone else so that I could hear and the other woman was agreeing with her.

What would you think? Do people really see an initial or name of their partner on a piece of jewellery as some sort of ownership and non feminist stance or are these women as strange as I think they are.

I’ll still wear my necklace either way, I just wondered what others thought. I have lots of personalised jewellery, I even have one with my dogs names on.

As for ‘him not marrying me’, that was my choice. We have been together for 25 years and are very happy.

This... the best response.

What rude horrible woman.. So judgemental. Trying to make you feel bad for not being married.
Absolutely stupid.
Not a sign of ownership. Presumably you've got the intials of all the people you love on your necklace. Nothing wrong with that.

Am I the only person who was intrigued to find out what the ‘subsequent’ necklace was 🤪
anyway apart from making my chuckle at my own idiocy, yes she was ridiculous

She's a silly twat . Laugh at her and eye roll .

I consider myself a feminist and your friend is talking utter tosh. Wear what you want!!

Was she drunk or on glue?
I don’t have any name necklaces myself but I don’t give a damn about what necklaces other people wear. And I think that how it’s supposed to be in normal life.

How odd someone would think that it's possible to be owned by a person by way of wearing a necklace. Unless it's a bondage thing and they're tying you up with a chain?
This person is clearly having their own pretty severe issues.

Came on to say the same thing!

(although I haven’t got your DHs name tattooed obviously!!)

I have jewelry with my children's initials on it. However, I would think we have grown out of the wear the boyfriends name on me phase at around 15yo.

They’re a bit Elizabeth Duke but each to their own.

She’d hate me. I have my DH initial tattooed on me. Twice 😂 Once along with my initial and once together with the childrens.
And I have my dog’s paw print and her name tattooed on me as well.

This Is what I was going to say!

Where what you want op. I’m ‘owned’ by Hermès.

I have family initials on jewellery and think it's sweet - unless you're hiding the fact that your partner's name is Brian & kid is James - in which case the necklace could be misinterpreted!

The fugitive?

That’s a bit of a cunty thing to say but each to their own.

Most of my personalised jewellery has been handmade by a friend who has her own jewellery business, but so what if was from Argos or whatever. Nothing worse than snobs.

Thanks everyone. Some of these comments have really made me laugh. I will wear my necklaces knowing there is always someone judging them as naff, tacky, being too Elizabeth Duke and that they wouldn’t personally wear it. 😂

I love that others have their pets initials on their jewellery.

The Princess of Wales wears a necklace with the initials of her three children. She is very classy. No question about that!

Well, I would think it's unusual to wear a name/initial necklace of your partner as well as your children, but I wouldn't care enough to comment.

Well said!

You’ve just given me the perfect idea for a Christmas gift for me from DH 🐾

I have a necklace with my baby twin boys names on the pendant. They died in the NICU 3 years ago this November. It cost very little but its one of the most precious things I own. I wear it everyday and somedays when I'm feeling very low, I hold it in my fingers. Helps with the grief. I'd hate to think people would think its tacky but then again if thats their biggest worry in life, its not worth me getting odd over it.

I am so sorry 💐

I’d wear my kids initials but not my husbands, seems a bit odd to me.

literally came here for this!!!

I’m glad your necklace brings you some comfort. 💐

Some people are just twats. Ignore.