no i am not but she is and i am sick of it

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when i was at school we had a girl that would hang around copy us and be an irritating pia anyway my bro married her and she winds me up i.e finds out what gift my mums is getting from me goes one better i decorate she decorates exactly the same i get hair cut she does same style phones "my" friends saks them for coffee etc well funny enough i am pregnant (so is she) due a few weeks apart she has been admited early with pre eclamsia and my bro has just phoned to say they have a dd............ she has called her the name i have said we are having all along i can not believe it my bro even said its a girl bitch face wanted to call her blah sorry sis i dont even want to visit now

am with cam on this one

you have to be especially dunce to tell her, bil or dh what special gift, name, treat, house, you are going to use/buy

makes me sound like i am her side my last post - your SIL is clearly an unimaginitive bore and much like you - have not a lot else going on except for tedious gossip.

if the whole family knew your dd was going to be called then then call her it

and I can't believe the rest of you ok the OP is never going to write a novel but if her points were made with more punctuation I think your responses would be a lot different

in the end the woman has stolen a name from her that meant a great deal without even asking if it would be ok and that is completely wrong

Hardly stolen

if you were deff going to call your dd this name then why did you have a list in baby names?

Still lol at the dildo suggestion

hon (because thats your name, not because I am calling you that) I may have wanted a middle name for baby? I am not bitter I just posted to let off steam , so cross did not use correct grammer ffs note to self could do better anyway thanks for that. Seems I am wrong she may use dead mil name no probs. Maybe I should not have been so selfish

I wouldn't be happy I have to say. I agree with what Jillyj says and do not tell her anything ever again and say "I can't believe you picked that name, we nearly had that but we went right off it!" Then do a hair swish thing.

HOWEVER......
I would call my baby what I wanted to call it even if it's the same as my SIL.

Would your Mum be able to say something to her or your brother?
If they haven't registered tha name yet?

"in the end the woman has stolen a name from her that meant a great deal without even asking if it would be ok and that is completely wrong". I disagree. It's a name. People have the right to call their child whatever they want. No-one should have to seak approval to give their child a particular name.

The op can still call her dd that name.

I agree with wannaBe.

never thought of that. call your baby what you wanted. sod her. i had sil from hell, she left eventually, hang on in there x

I think it's awful, in your defence, when I was pg with my last my dh liked a name that was on my sister's list and even though we didn't even know if she'd have any more it was a no no.
I do think if you had punctuated people would have been more understanding, 'tis the nature of MN.

Well I think it [peculiar to call a baby after a sil's recently deceased mil... it sounds to me as if your mother should speak to your brother (or your dh). If the dead woman was called something unusual and her son would like to call his daughter after her, I think YANBU!

But do cop yourself on about other things!

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My mother and her SIL were pregnant at the same time nd when I was born and named my auntie said 'I was going to call my baby that' and my Mam said she should and she did. So my cousin and I have the same name and it has never been commented on or an issue or anything.

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Hows the baby doing anyway?

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You both sound like characters from a soap

YABU

it would be after my dh mum any way whatever. am sitting her fat hormonal and needing friend to sound off to. Nice here I wonder if we would say all this if we were having a coffee. God toddler groups would need riot police.