Like him but struggling with this physical feature that apparently all men have of a certain age?

[Numppp]

Met someone lovely. I do fancy him. But, he has a small bum. He very much needs a belt. It’s basically flat. He’s late 40s and lost a lot of weight in last few years (previously overweight now a healthy weight) which I think has emphasised this even more.

Girlfriends are saying this is normal with age (he’s around 8 years older than me) and happens with all men. Does it?! I’ve never noticed it before. I don’t want this to be an issue as I really do like him. We’ve not DTD yet

DP is 55 and has an incredible arse. He’s a tradie so is active and muscular. I can’t help but feel and smack his arse (and that’s just in the supermarket!)

But no, it’s not standard for a man in his 40s, its usual for anyone that never uses their muscles.

I agree most people need to find their partner physically attractive but it seems odd to fixate on one feature like this. If you chuck someone simply over a less than perfect bum/boobs whatever then they've probably had a lucky escape!

You have to decide if thst physical feature is something you can look past. It’s early days so the best time to decide.

Mine has shifted all the way round to my tum!

If you’re so bothered by this one aspect of him then clearly he’s not for you, and you obviously don’t fancy him that much. That’s totally fine – we all have our preferences – but it’s your problem, not his, and you should probably just move on to someone else.

It comes down to how well you look after yourself and nothing to do with age. My partner is almost 40, his brother is over 40. They both have 6 packs and are ripped. No steroids etc and good piece of ass 😂

you find attractive what you find attractive. I didn’t find one of my exes attractive when he lost weight and his ass sagged and I didn’t find another one attractive when he put a ton if weight on his ass and it was bigger than mine. It doesn’t make you bad person if you are not attracted to it!

It's both an age and genetics thing IME. I speak to a 58yo guy in the gym and he's in amazing shape. He does take TRT though but I'd probably do the same were I a bloke.

small arses (can)go faster, why has no one mentioned this?

Eh? You like a fat arse on a bloke? Eh?

Dh def has a bum and he’s 58!!

Absolutely! Remember they were saying that JLo needed 2 limos, one for her and one for her arse.

It’s more to do with the weight loss than the age, I’m sure.

Everyone I know who lost lots of weight (and not much exercise) has been left with a flat butt, regardless of age.

It happens to both male and female. DH has always had a flat backside, he isn’t slim.
Mine is flat enough too, unless I’m wearing my elasticity jeans or figure hugging thick gym leggings. It’s flat in joggers, cotton leggings or linen trousers

I'd love to find a bloke that had everything going for him except a big arse . Very easy not to look , just keep your eyes above his waist level . Buy him a belt for Xmas.

Phil Oakey has a stringy arse

You wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes with my late OH - he weighed about 8 stone! And his bum was just great!

I have a couple of friends from Latin America and they laugh about English people's 'flat bottoms'. I'd never really noticed it until they'd pointed it out but now I can't unsee it. Wide but flat. Mine's not too bad but theirs are like J-Lo's.

My DH had a really nice bum when we met. We were young and he played a lot of sport. Pretty much gone now, possibly migrated to his belly. Ah well, I'm definitely not the same either.
My FIL is very tall and lean and pretty much just has a crack in his lower back for an arse. I assumed it was normal.

Samantha and the Old Man scene from SATC on Youtube

A lot of men just normally have flat bums

Now looking in the mirror at my bum. It’s still there and still spankable. 😆😂

It didn’t hold Bruce Springsteen back

Sounds like you don’t like him enough

I would pick your battles.

My DP doesn’t have much in the way of glutes in his late 40s as due to injuries from contact sports he’s had both hips replaced.

He does have a magnificent cock, though.

Sleep with him and then decide how you feel about his body 😀

Im sorry that really made me laugh!
“Migrated to his belly” 😁🤣