Licking dinner plates

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Recently my 8 year old has started licking her dinner plate when she's finished. Whilst I appreciate it when she says it's because it was delicious, I've told her not to do it as it's yucky and bad manners.
Dh thinks I'm being harsh on her for getting cross with her

Aibu to not want my child to think it's ok to lick plates after finishing their food?!

Can't see any problem with it myself!
Why shouldn't she?
If you really have a problem with it, give her a bit of bread to wipe her plate with, or is that wrong too?

Of course you're not unreasonable, you must know that. Your husband either has incredibly bad manners, or he's winding you up for the fun of it. None of which is attractive.

It’s not OK to lick a plate and you’re right to correct her

i say that as someone who is very relaxed about table manners

Licking plates is disgusting. Reminds me of an animal.

It not a pleasant thing to watch at the dinner table. Give her a slice of bread to mop it all up with

Are you serious?

Put a basket of bread on the table so she can mop up with it?

Yes, what exactly is the issue with doing this in your own home?

Basic fucking manners! Wait til she does it at school or at a friends or at a restaurant and then tell her?

Bringing up children means teaching them
manners and how to behave appropriately. Licking your plate is what dogs do, it wouldn’t even be acceptable in a 3 year old outside the home. Don’t listen to your husband.

YANBU
Table manners are a life skill

LOL. YANBU and are right to teach her basic manners and not to lick her plate.

However I would totally support her if, as an adult, she decides to ignore this rule in her own home!

I was going to say this. Be more French.

Exactly. The only civilised way to handle it.
But the child urgently needs to learn that plate-licking is emphatically not done, and must cease. Like public nose-picking. If she licked a plate at school dinner or at tea with a friend, reactions would be very awkward indeed.
Protect her, it’s her parents’ job.

I love this statement. I definitely want to Be more French.

Nope, absolutely gross. I would put it on the floor for her if she wants to lick it.. next to the cat bowls.

Indeed as are all manners sadly lacking in the UK now

If you must.
But not in view of a child, who will of course infer that this is how it’s done.
(If you do it in front of other adults, I must assume you are all part of some particularly odd supper club.)

But WHY is it gross?

At 8 she's old enough to understand there's different rules at home from when you're out and assuming you make sure she knows it's a 'with family at home' only thing, what is the issue?

I don’t understand why you have even got to this stage where you’ve allowed her to do it. Say no and if she does it again jump up and get the plate off her..

Of course you aren’t being unreasonable.

Jump up and get the plate off her? Way to traumatise the poor girl...

I agree with those saying to give her a piece of bread to mop up any left over sauce from the meal (which is presumably what’s she’s licking off the plate?)

It is bad manners to lick the plate and children do need to learn this

Revolting manners.
Your husband is clearly a pig and is happy for his kid to grow up as one too.

I wouldn't care if my DC did this at home, I would just make sure they knew not to do it out in public or at someone else's house. A bit like clipping toenails I suppose.