WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

[DinonneS]

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

I’m surprised nobody has mentioned the many reasons mumsnet would have an AIBU on why parents shouldn’t offer lifts to other children:
How do I know she’s insured?
How do I know her seat belts work?
How do I know her car is mechanically sound?
How do I know she’s never had a dog in the car?
How do I know her DP won’t see dash cam footage of my DD?
All reasons which could easily appear on MN.

Bloody hell @DinonneS - you have done absolutely nothing wrong at all!

Your neighbour sounds a completely unhinged 🐄

What you did was really thoughtful, and if my DD was on the receiving end of your kindness, I would have been so grateful.

I have given lifts to lots of my children's friends over the years (the last one was only a couple of days ago) and they have always been really grateful.

I would tell your neighbour exactly what you think of her outburst - or even better, show her this thread!

YANBU. You might just as easily have had to make a quick stop at the post office with the kids waiting in the car. If your neighbour wanted speedy arrival she shojkx have ordered her dd a taxi.

I accidentally voted YABU, sorry. Of course you’re not! Well, maybe you are being unreasonable to even wonder if you’ve done anything wrong… good grief

It's a matter of 15 minutes and that might have been caused by a traffic jam or OP needing to pop into Aldi or somewhere on the way home - not something one would think to mention. I think I might have dropped off neighbour's DD and then gone on to drop off the other girl, myself, maybe and it might have made the journey longer for OP overall - but it was a spontaneous offer so one would not normally mention it. OP has done nothing wrong but I doubt she'll be offering lifts in torrential rain ever again.

Off her rocker

Only from the totally unhinged.

You've just reminded me of the time when I used to drive this 14 year old lad to and from the bus stop every day - one day I wasn't able to and so told the lad and he said he'd walk home and the mum,who hadn't ever said thank you to me in months, phoned me up and kicked off about why hadn't I let her know. I felt like refusing to give him a lift home after that but thought that would only punish the boy so just didn't say too much. Some people are just self absorbed, that's it.

I can't believe another mum would be cross about this! Surely if she wants her daughter home safe and dry she can understand another. I suppose you could have dropped her daughter off and then did the longer route with DD and this other friend but really it's 15 minutes. Still quicker than it would be walking in torrential rain!
She's very ungrateful!

Does she own your car? Nope, then she should say thankyou and piss off. Obviously we are at the beginning of the school year so no more lifts for your neighbours child

There seems to have been a few threads lately about people who not only accept (or even expect) favours done for them but also expect to micromanage how the favour is carried out.
What happened to "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth"?

I can't believe 2% thought you were unreasonable?! Genuinely would like to hear from the opposition.

Can’t wait to hear how this pans out

Off topic but you can change your vote on any thread @Mumofmarauders, just click on the opposite one and it will change.

What is your DD saying about this batshit Mum, does she have form for this behaviour?

She sounds nuts! You done her and her child a nice favour and she’s kicking off? They’re 15 not 5

‘Sorry you feel like that. Next time I won’t offer your daughter a lift in the bad weather as I know how you feel.’

Unless you’ve missed something HUGE out, then no, she’s completely backshit bonkers!

Your neighbour is completely batshit.

It wouldn't have occurred to me to text the Mum in the first place.

If I were picking one of my dc up and they were with a friend, I'd have just asked the friend if she wanted a lift too, or my dd would have said "Can we give Izzy a lift please Mum?".

At 15, I can't for the life of me see what the other mother's issue is, but I'd love to find out..... please update us

There must be a backstory with the two girls, if not, mad behaviour!!

This!!

She was soooo bothered about her precious daughter coming into contact with other children - but not bothered enough to check this first.

Me either. The OP hasn't been back though, so we will have to wait and see if she returns.

Hopefully the neighbor cashed her reality check and will just be effusively thanking the OP for stepping up and giving her DD a lift. I know I would be and I'd be buying a "thank you" gift if I had been so rude to have a go at the OP before my brain was in gear.

Nah, there must be something else OP because otherwise it doesn't make sense.

I genuinely laughed out loud, op

She's fucking nuts!