WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

[DinonneS]

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

I'd be telling her the words she searching for are "thank you" and in future I will leave her daughter to walk and get soaked. Like they say no good deed goes unpunished.

She’s crackers. No good deed goes unpunished OP. You’ve done nothing wrong.

I’d say ‘Yes! We certainly will!’ Its a pity you won’t be picking her child up again though 🤷‍♀️

I can't see what you've done wrong here either. All I can think is, she was expecting you to collect her daughter and bring her straight home, not to have to detour to drop off another child. I presume all the girls are 15, so they aren't little children. Your neighbour is making a huge fuss over nothing. It's not as if you took her daughter on a jaunt hours away without telling her! I guess she'd have preferred you to have left the other girl, that you kindly offered a lift to, walk home in the pouring rain??!!!

Did you or the girl let the mum know she would be later home?

@DinonneS
You did nothing wrong
I'd remind her that you were being gracious in giving her DD a lift to start with
And it may be an idea if DD from now on whatever the weather finds her own way home.
The Ungrateful Cow
Never offer again

You didn't do anything wrong OP.

What a fucking lunatic.

How ungrateful and hysterical. I'd never be picking her daughter up as a favour ever again. You've done nothing wrong OP. No good deed ever goes unpunished!

Could there be history between these two girls?

Weird. Tell her you'll never give her daughter a lift again and that's that problem solved. poor kid.

Cheeky cow. You’re not a taxi driver!

........... her daughter is 15 years old, she could have called her if she was that worried over the 15 minutes, Lordy some people

Some people are just completely bizarre. She's one of them.

Please come back and let us know what her reason for kicking off is all about? I cannot imagine anything other than 'thank you' is an acceptable response.

Does your neighbours DD have to phone her mum the minute she gets in and when she didn’t phone exactly at the expected time your neighbour started worrying? I know it doesn’t make sense because if they normally walk home they would be later anyway. Presumably the other girl is not a crazed serial killer who would attack neighbours child if placed in a car together, given that they go to the same school? What if you hadn’t taken other child and had just stopped off to pick up some milk at the shop?
I would totally agree with batshit neighbour say yes it’s completely unreasonable to take another child as well as her DD but that she can rest assured that you will NEVER offer to take her DD again no matter how awful the weather is even if her DD begs you. And stick to it no favours ever.

I’d say - you didn’t ask dip sh*t

She’s probably anxious and wondering where you’d got to driving in bad weather.

But if the neighbour girl had been left to walk as usual, she presumably would have been home later anyway?

This is batshit, OP. Even if they were four-year-olds it would still be ridiculously controlling of her, but they’re 15!! I would have ‘the conversation’ with her, though, simply because I’m intensely curious to find out how on earth she’s planning to justify her annoyance

Did the detour involve a motorway or such like, if so she may not like a more risky route. Or did her DD need to be home for a fixed time? Otherwise no idea, I mean you might have stopped at a shop for a minute it wouldn't really matter. See what she says really, but I agree don't offer again. Did her DD complain about the detour?

So why not call her kid who presumably at 15 would have a phone. As another poster had said she could have just gone to the shop for a carton of milk. It's crazy behaviour over 15 minutes

Yes but the op told the mum she was picking the girl up and giving her a lift

She's deranged, you have done nothing wrong.

IF, and it a big if, her DD needed to be home at a very specific time for a valid reason, she should have told you!

Put it another way, many of us would have ended up chatting with another mum at school or something, and be just as late anyway 😂

I genuinely would not message the parent of a 15yo before giving them a lift!

I can only assume she’s either misinterpreting you, or she’s close to breakdown. That’s not a normal response at all. As another poster said, think she means, thank you.

And if the OP needed to stop at a shop on the way home as another poster said would she have expected the OP to tell her that too? fgs it's ridiculous behaviour over a few minutes.