WIBU to give my daughter's friend a lift home in torrential rain?

[DinonneS]

A bit of advice need to how to handle this situation. So dd is 15 and walks to and from school. It’s about a 10 min walk so not far and dd has a group of friends, including one of our neighbours dd, who all walk together. Today we have had torrential rain all day so I dropped her this morning and said I’d pick her up. Messaged my neighbour (who works until 7pm) and asked if she’d also like me to pick up her dd. She said yes please so I’ve rocked up outside school to pick the two of them up. While there I see dd’s friend who lives about. 20 min walk but only a 7 min drive away and offered her a lift too and it was genuinely pouring down. She was very grateful and I know her mum so I knew she’d have no problem with it. All in all the extra drop off took me an extra 15mins and we were home at 3.10pm instead of the usual 2.55pm. Neighbour has completely kicked off that I didn’t tell her I was picking up and dropping another child while her daughter was in the car. She said we’ll be chatting about it tonight when she’s back home. Not sure what I’ve done wrong tbh

Your neighbour is fucking insane.

To be honest, when they're 15 I'm amazed you even messaged a parent at all. They're 15! They can decide for themselves if they want a lift from someone they know. Most 15-year-olds just get on with it without needing their mums to talk about any of this stuff.

WTF? There are some batshit crazy people out there 😂

You have done absolutely nothing wrong, stand your ground and obviously let her know you will never give her daughter a lift even if there an earthquake lol.

It's not like you were coming random dangerous men on the street, it was another student and your DDs friend.

I can't think of a single thing wrong with what you did. If the neighbour is at work til 7 anyway what's the problem??

Did the OP say she would be home at x time though? Her OP said she offered her a lift home from school that's it. Looks like her daughter is going to be getting wet a lot over the winter time...... as others have said No good deed goes unpunished

Oh hell no. ‘No neighbour there is nothing to discuss. If you need to have words with me due to giving your DD a lift, I simply won’t do it again and there can be no further issues’

Crazy of weird mum to think that her child being present in the car means exclusivity to the service?!
If I'm giving DS a lift in the pouring rain I dont think twice about offering the same to whichever mates are around.

I'd ignore her. Permanently.

If she comes round tonight let her rant on, say 'Noted' and close the door.

Poor kid tho.

Honestly, I think what would annoy me here is that she said that “we’ll be chatting about it tonight”. The OP is not her child nor her employee - she does not need to make herself available when summoned by this person.

“You clearly have more requirements than I can accommodate“

On repeat OP…there is no excuse for the rude communication when you were being so nice

No, of course you weren’t. She sounds crazy though, and rude. No more lifts for her dd!

Nailed it

Don't pay any attention to her nonsense, you didn't do anything wrong. She should be thanking you for your kindness.

How bizarre booting off about being 15 minutes late doing someone a big favour. If I was the 15 year old girl in question I would be mortified if my mother started kicking off about being late. The mother sound like someone to be avoided at all costs

How bizarre. They are 15 not 5. Has something gone on in the past between the two girls or something? But even if it had, what is likely to happen in a car for five minutes?

Just when you think people can’t get any weirder, someone else comes out of the woodwork.
I assume she wants to discuss:
Getting home late or,
Safeguarding issues due to unknown other child in car
Both utterly ridiculous (obviously)

Do not apologise or try to explain.
Just say noted. I won't give your daughter any more lifts.

Tell her you take her concerns on board, and will not be offering any further lifts going forward to her daughter. End of discussion. Don’t get drawn into justifying yourself to this CFer.

The only thing I can think off is that her DD needed to be back at a certain time for some reason, and you doing that extra drop off made her late home.. anything other than that would be a bit odd tbh.

Tell her to piss off! And don’t do her another favour. Talk about it?! You aren’t her child - cheeky cow.

Exactly! What a snotty attitude.
I’d just tell the supercilious wagon that she need have no further concerns, since naturally I will not offer again.

Christ she’s 15 not 5!

Absolutely this. I wouldn't be helping again, what a bizarre reaction.

That would also be unreasonable. That was your mother’s issue, no one else had to deal with it.

Why are parents so anxious nowadays

You haven't done anything apart from be a kind person. Don't take any shit from her! As a pp said above " I believe the words you are looking for are thank you"

Did she need to be home bang on whatever time for some reason and she was late to football / dance / fencing / whatever? Really though that would be the daughter's responsibility to tell you or refuse the lift to run home in the rain.

Either way though... nah to 'discussing it' - I'd just text back that you understand she's unhappy so will make sure to never give her daughter a lift again. The end.