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Aibu by being upset about dd's treatment by football club

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Ceceprincess80 · 06/09/2026 22:13

My daughter has played football since she was 4 years old. She has played for 3 different teams and has ended up playing in goal which she likes. She is now 13, almost 14. There has been a change in coach and a new girl has been drafted in as another goalkeeper and my daughter told she now needs to share playing time. The coach waited till after we had paid the registration fees for this season before saying anything. They initially wanted them to spilt each game and we said no as we didnt want to travel to the faraway games or 40 miles for 30 mins playing time and could they do 1 game on and 1 game off. The team played a friendly this week and my daughter did well and made some good saves. The other goalkeeper let in 3 goals and gave a penalty away because she pushed the striker over. My daughter ended the game upset and frustrated that this player has been added to the squad and she is not particularly good. We asked our daughter what she wanted to do? She doesn't want to play with the team anymore. Its so sad as she loves some of the defending girls in her team but she feels so sad and upset she can not stay. I feel cross and sad for her. Am I being unreasonable if I complain about her treatment and get the registration fees refunded?

OP posts:
BeGoneUterus · Today 20:02

There isn’t a set amount of registered players per team from the FA. There is a maximum squad size that can attend each game.

Fieldday26 · Today 20:12

Ceceprincess80 · Today 18:31

Wow, is it 16? My daughter's team had grown to 21 but I suppose some might be reserve players but they all played in the league last year so I am really confused.

It’s definitely not 16 at 11 a side. Our team had 21 signed on at one point. We’re now down to 17 which is a much more manageable number.

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