Neighbour calls at 8:30 am on Saturday to tell me she is stressed?

[Kate011]

And by neighbour I mean lady in my building two floors above me. Who says hi and stops to make small talk/chat with me sometimes.

I answer phone call at 8:30 am because I think it’s an emergency.

she starts telling me how she’s under a lot of stress right now because she lost her keys?

I ask if she wants me to let her in building, she says no, she’s in her flat, she had spare key to her flat and someone let her in building.

and asks me if Tesco does copies? (Tesco is like 3 minutes away by bus) And where she can get replacement?

I tell her council does replacements as it’s a council building. she then asks how to contact council to get replacement.

She knows I rent privately in this building from private landlord so don’t have contact with council and been living here much, much less than she did? So how would I know?

she lived in building 16 years, how does she not know how to contact the council about lost keys?

and what does she expect me to do?

Or was she expecting me to offer one of our keys while she waits for council key replacement??

She keeps ranting and complaining about how she’s so annoyed.

She has a close couple friend living in the building. They always hang out together.

why not call and tell them this?

she also has a daughter and two 18 year old grandkids who she says are super close to her living nearby.

she told me she has so many friends. Why contact me this early out of all people??

sometime ago I remember she knocked on January 1st on my door asking if my daughter can help connect her to/figure out her problem with her tv. I barely knew her then.

another time she kept complaining how she has no heating nearly all winter and doesn’t know how to complain to the council repair team. And asked if I knew how to. When she asked I suggested she ask her daughter for help she said “oh I don’t want to bother people, they have their own lives and problems” .

but calling at 8:30 on Saturday is bit ridiculous no?

Just don't help? Don't sort it.
Say you can't help and good luck.

You are just as bad..how are we supposed to know what she’s thinking?!😆

There’s no more compassion left in the world, I guess community means helping people through a difficult time (different people find different situations difficult) knowing that one day you might also need help

did you even read my post???

1. its 8:30 am on a Saturday
2. she has close friends in the building she can contact

and help how exactly???

She doesn’t know how to contact council about lost key???

I was just going to tell you to have a bit more compassion but then I reread and saw it was 8.30 AM on a Sat morning! Absolutely not! I would be really annoyed by that!

Right but am I being unreasonable thinking calling at 8:30 on weekend to tell me she’s annoyed she lost her keys is ridiculous?

It is 8.30 am and it is not a bloody emergency! This is nothing to do with having compassion! I bet you are one of those who spout Be Kind when anyone dares be truthful! Or challenges someone.

Tbh the time wouldn't be a big thing for me but the subject? She doesn't need my help to sort this. And I wouldn't offer help.

Yes but sometimes people are just being ridiculous and find everything difficult. I expect if the lady had fallen and broken her hip OP wouldn’t have minded a call for help. But phone calls just to whinge and complain and hope someone else will solve their minor problems for them, at an unnecessarily early time of day... I don’t think that’s OP’s responsibility to deal with.

Why has someone you barely know got your phone number?

Yes her calling at 8.30am is ridiculous

You carrying on with the conversation is ridiculous

You could have said I will call you later if you need or text her at a more reasonable hour.

And breathe...😁

This.

what a sad world we live in. We are told to reach out when we need help, then when we do some nasty person posts it online in the hope everyone will pile on at what a cheeky person they are for reaching out

Does she communicate with you at other times or just when she has a problem.

It DOES sound as though shes expecting you to solve her problems for her.

8.30 is ok though. A bit early but not terribly early. I'd laugh about that, not be annoyed about it.

8:30 is really not that early.

The point is that she’s doing this because she’s in some type of trouble you don’t know about.
Personally, I would suspect MH problems. I would be pleasant but don’t encourage her too much.
Probably she’s contacting you because she rang her friends/ relatives 20 times yesterday.

What???

did you read my post?

how exactly was I supposed to help her??

It is a bit weird but it wouldn't bother me that they'd called at that time really. She has your number obviously so maybe she thinks you're better friends, and maybe no one else was around at the time?
I find any friend calling me quite weird, I would wonder why they didn't just message.

Help her how?? Exactly?

she lived like 20 years in building and doesn’t know how to contact the council to ask them to replace her key?

Next time tell her - and she won't call again.

She said let’s exchange numbers if there’s an emergency in the building

To be honest it is situations and posts like this means there is less compassion! If people reached out in genuine emergencies or when they really needed help, I don't doubt 99% of people will help.

But contacting someone at 0830 on a Saturday morning over a lost key and not knowing how to replace them is bloody ridiculous

It is when you are up and out early all week! Or work shifts!

I leave the house at 6.50 am to go to work!

Don't pick up and she won't bother to call again.