Daughter left to get hotel in reading on last day of festival by my husband who can’t be arsed to pick her up. Says I am being hysterical that I don’t think that is the best answer.

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So dd 17 just casually told us she wants picking up from Reading festival with a few others at 1am. I was going to go but not super comfortable lone driving in the wee hours knowing I might be waiting around a bit in a car park somewhere (you know what they are like with answering phones) DH offered to go. Then having looked at the mass exodus traffic situation, he says he can’t be arsed and thinks booking her a hotel in the centre of town is a better idea. I said no, anyway, what about her mates. Regardless, she’d be wandering around on her own post festival in a strange town at 1am. He said I was being weird for having a problem with that, no one else would say that. I said ‘Um. I grew up as a woman…’ he said ‘ No other woman I know would ever say that to me.’ Bearing in mind he is in the middle of an emotional affair with someone 20 years younger at work. AIBU to think that some of you would rather go get her (it’s a hour) than have her abandoned in a strange town?

I know this would have been all sorted now but grown women who drive can drive so if you wanted to go get her you go get her this I am just a little womman who cant do big people things so I need a man to do it for me is getting old,

and no I see nothing wrong in her getting a hotel, I would have called the hotel and checked as she is not 18 so may have paid and she could have paid me back (if i was in this situation)

You don’t know why the OP is nervous of driving though. She may have been in a horrendous crash recently.

Anyone who claims young women aren’t at risk from assault - exacerbated at night with reduced visibility and fewer ration people around — is deluded.

A man trying to weaponise your concern by using it to belittle you — is abusive (imho).

I hope your daughter stays with her friends whatever they all decide to do.

I’ve heard that a fair few tents in white camp at Reading have already been flattened / robbed by other campers. Hopefully OP is on her way. Camping at Reading sounds absolutely shite.

Just go and get her yourself, surely?

I would happily collect my child no matter what time, with or without short notice. Teens are impulsive, it wouldn't annoy me and tbh I'd rather they didn't stay a Sunday night at Reading festival! It's supposed to be carnage.