Everyday phrases that piss me off

[Thecatspantaloons]

As the title goes , a couple of examples:

It only costs xxx - What an incredibly ignorant thing to say in this day and age of mass inequality. On any given day there's a bullshit thread on here comparing pension plans and the amount of hundreds of thousands people have saved compared to the ones who have nothing saved.

Well I've never seen/heard that before - well Jackie, I've never seen anyone abuse a wheelchair user or a trans person or a Jewish person in my own life, but I believe that it happens, despite my not witnessing it.

Feel free to rant about other stuff that people are willfully oblivious to.

Infantile language in a maternity services setting 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️ “how’s Mum?” Why not how are you like in any other setting? Or my name is right in front of you on that piece of paper.

“How’s baby” which baby? Mine? “Have you felt baby move”

”I’m just going to feel your tummy”

“the womb” (isn’t it uterus?)

”we will likely induce you early” oh do I have a choice? Won’t you be offering me an induction? Or advising me it’s the best option? Or are pregnant women just expected to do as they’re instructed?

In any other medical service don’t they use correct terms and talk to patients like adults?

'Extraordinary'. It is said so often on Good Morning Britain I find it so grating.

Completely with you...only people allowed to use reach out are the Four Tops

’Holibobs’ as in I’m going on my holibobs. It makes me want to throw things.

Thank you OP for starting this thread. If it results in even one person not using one of the overused or exaggerated expressions that others have mentioned, you have done us all a favour.

'Big' is the one I would add.

I agree and also would add "I'm fuming" !

I dislike, “I love that for you” and I can’t explain why. I think I take it as patronising. Sadly my sister is the one who says it to me, I say I’ve booked to see some writer give a talk, and she goes oh I love that for you. And I then feel rage.

Same with “no?” At the end of a sentence.
And wrong word order “ you know this how” instead of “how do you know this”
oh yes - and “ you what now?” instead of just “what?”

“My little family”. So twee.
”Team” as a form of address to a group of colleagues. Fake corporate solidarity of the worst kind.

God I hated that when my daughter was little. The use of “mum” and “baby” without the definite article. What the hell is that about? As if new mothers didn’t already feel patronised and micromanaged enough.

Can anyone in a healthcare/maternity role explain why they do this?

Someone already commented on the incorrect use of the word ‘amazing’, but it is the phrase, ‘you’ve done amazing’ that really annoys me.

You have performed amazingly. I’d even allow ‘you’ve done amazingly well’, but you’ve done amazing’ is a horrendous mis-use of our language and makes one sound a bit dim!

I say ‘can I have a latte please’ - I think that’s fine.

Then you’re handed your drink - thanks’. i also hate ‘can I get’ - so rude to my ears. Why can’t you say ‘can I please get?’ Add that little word to make a difference.

I'd always assumed its easier for the midwife so she doesn't get your name wrong while seeing patient after patient.

” Does that make sense?”
Yes, it does: I speak English.

"Curated" for me as well. A café near where I work has it three times on the same noticeboard. Curated local honey. Curated cheese. Curated local sourdough.
It looks delicious through the window but I can't bring myself to go in.

The phrase “a gentle reminder” when it’s just a simple reminder about Parents Evening or whatever.

”Good job” instead of Well Done. This one really winds me up!

Calling young boys “Buddy”. Absolutely cringeworthy, along with “My little man”.

Using “protest” without a following word, eg “I’m going to protest Andy Burnham”. Jarring Americanism.

”On the weekend” instead of “At the weekend”.

Gentle reminder
vicarious trauma

Sure, but even being called something generic like “sweetheart” is better than being called “mum”. Or could they not just say “Sorry, can you repeat your name?”

There is a horrible, slightly Nazi undertone to being called “mum” by a healthcare professional you have never met before, its as if you are a participant in a national breeding programme.

Yeah curated can fuck off.

Ick.

When people ask about a relationship problem (sometimes a serious one) and the response is just 'Run!'/'Run for the hills!' with nothing else. It seems to be the new expression to use but it's trite and clichéd in my view!

Stock up on XYZ. The shops will be urging us to stock up for Christmas soon. For one day!

‘I’m afraid’ as in ‘I am afraid we have no tomato soup left’ or ‘I’m afraid the dentist is off sick today and cannot see you’.

Infuriating. ‘Sorry’ is the word you are looking for.

I always say please, usually at the end, as in your example. But I was talking about the expressions ‘can I get?’ and ‘can I have?’ in isolation. ‘Can I get/have a pot of tea (please)?’ The word please wasn’t mentioned because that wasn’t the point I was making. It was primarily the replacement of ‘may’ with ‘can’ and the use of ‘get’. We’re actually very polite in general to one another in NI. Also, I don’t automatically think the absence of ‘please’ is a sign of rudeness because tone is very important. A pleasant, friendly tone can often convey that particular social nicety. I prefer to use it myself though. ‘Thank you’, on the other hand, is compulsory as far as I’m concerned!

I work in social care.

I get so annoyed when people ask for ‘rest bite’ when they mean respite. Even GPs do it!

Also, the way we talk in social care - ‘the person mobilised’ is quite othering.

Non social care related… touching base, reaching out, superpower (for anything but especially SEN) and ‘do you eat fish?’ to the vegan.