AIBU to change schools over my husband helping a neighbour?

[Schoolchanging]

Dh had always done school drop off and pick up due to my work hours and over the last 18 months I’d got increasingly irritated by him walking with or giving a lift to a neighbour whose child goes to the same school.

So I decided we would change dc to a different school a little further away and they are due to start there in a couple of weeks.

I didn’t want to spend time on discussions and boundaries and wanted to just eliminate the stress on our relationship. I told him I wasn’t comfortable that I’d asked him to stop and as he wasn’t I was changing schools to which he said ‘fine that’s your choice’. Dc are ok about it as we know people who go to the new school as well.

Neighbour has just spoken to us as we were leaving at the same time and she said to dh ‘back to the usual routine soon then!’ And I said ‘actually no, dc are going to be at a different school so all change for us !’ To which she turned to dh and said ‘why haven’t you told me this already?’ Which I found odd.

What happens when your DH will inevitably meet new people at the new school? Will you move schools again?
Unless there's a backstory of cheating, this is rather bizarre behaviour.

You may end up running out of schools.

I’m sorry you feel this insecure- on this basis I can only assume you have been hurt sometime and this has caused you a lot of anxiety as on the face of it - it is extreme

Please work on your marriage and yourself

Lets hope they don’t have a gate in the back garden fence

Can’t be real

Your poor children having to deal with their mother’s unstable whims.

I have to misread this - two parents with kids at the same school left home at the same time and walked in the same direction so chatted while they did - so you moved your kids to a different school. You are insane

You're crackers. If your DH wants to cheat he will find a way. All you have done is confirm you don't trust him. Poor bloke and poor kids.

Yabu that you changed your childs school over this. If he's going to cheat with her or anyone else he'll do it wether the kids go to the same school or not, you won't prevent it. If he's likely to cheat bin him off.

OP what has happened to make you feel so insecure?

You do know there will be other mums at the new school?

Controlling and horrible. Your poor DC.

Yes, I wondered that. It's quite normal for people on the same school run to walk or offer lifts. It wouldn't have bothered me one bit and I certainly wouldn't have made my child change schools because of it.

She said nothing wrong, was just surprised he hadn't mentioned the school change is all. Most people would have.

Are you always so insecure?

Even if there is a backstory of cheating this is insane. She should be dumping her H and giving the kids a stable life instead of upending their lives to control her H

That’s very controlling of you OP. You need to get help before you fall afoul of being a domestic abuser under coercive and controlling behaviour.

😳

What behaviour ?

And yet the neighbour still lives nearby - if he wanted to cheat, he very much still could...

Are you insane? You've moved your kids and put them through fuckloads of disruption just to manipulate a situation in your relationship to your advantage.

Toxic as fuck.

There are some really bizarre threads on MN today. This being one of them....

Are you leaving out some important details OP? Is there stuff going on that indicates your H and this neighbour are , or are becoming , too enmeshed and close?

If there is something going on surely given they are your neighbours your H is going to be seeing her regularly any way regardless of what school your children go to.

Did you post about this before, OP? I seem to remember some profoundly odd thread by someone resenting the hell out of her DH giving school run lifts to the neighbour.

Surely it would just be easier to separate from the man who you don’t trust.

(not that I believe a word of this).

Are they holding hands on this walk to school?

Nipping in the bush for a quickie en route?

A fumble in a nearby bus stop?

If no then you may be being hugely unreasonable.

Is there a particular reason you don't trust your husband or is the neighbour drop dead gorgeous and that's making you feel insecure?

And 8% of people think she’s being reasonable. So while I think it’s a fake post the response is worrying enough

I remember that thread and it does sound like the same poster.

This is insane. I'm hoping it's a joke,