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I have a trans cat

171 replies

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:30

My dog thinks he's a cat. Obviously, biologically he isn't a cat, but he thinks he is (should I gently tell him? Will he grow out of this?) I'm thinking of giving him a cat name as affirmation that I understand want he wants inside. He was born into the wrong body.

When people describe their cats, he fits all the stereotypes, he chases birds, mice and butterflies. He loves a scratch pole. He chases balls of wool. He is completely untrainable. He sneers when given instructions, he's the boss of his empire. He comes in and out as he pleases.

He has excessive sleeping, he scent-marks objects or people by rubbing, kneading with paws, (he does this if he wants picking up) and he has short bursts of frantic running. He's nothing like a dog. He thinks he's a cat, he behaves like a cat, therfore he is?

He's an independent sole, a predator and returns with presents for me, usually insects.

I should tell everyone to start calling him a cat. AIBU?

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RelaxAndDetox · 24/08/2026 23:41

PinkJ · 24/08/2026 20:42

Can we see a picture of him pls? 🐈

That would be very outing for him. Its still not accepted that he identifies as a cat (is a cat) and those bloody cis cats can be very unkind

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cariadlet · 24/08/2026 23:48

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 19:15

🥰❤️ he is. I tell him everyday how brave he is telling me. I will do everything to support his choice.

This is a really patronising comment and completely shows your ignorance.

I will admit that I haven't rtft yet so apologies if you have already educated yourself further along the thread.

It isn't your cat's choice to be a cat. It isn't something he has decided. He has always been a cat (albeit one that was born in a dog's body) and he has now realised who he truly is.

BreadInCaptivity · 25/08/2026 00:02

I’d like to own a trans cat as I’m allergic to dogs.

Given trans cats are cats I’m pretty sure this is the solution to my intolerance of dog dander.

I’m just concerned about being able to identify that my cat is in fact a trans cat given nobody could possibly tell otherwise and even if they theoretically could then all their records would have been changed….what a dilemma…..

WaryHiker · 25/08/2026 02:48

I feel your pain, OP. I went out to water my lime tree yesterday for the first time in a while and found it had turned into a lemon tree almost overnight. Literally gave us limes last year and is now giving us lemons. Quite a shock all round, including, I imagine, for the tree itself!

dinodart · 25/08/2026 03:05

well now the transcat needs all the surgeries to be a real cat

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/08/2026 06:02

dinodart · 25/08/2026 03:05

well now the transcat needs all the surgeries to be a real cat

Voice & body language training. Although I expect he already instinctively purrs when he’s pleased & lashes his tail when he’s cross.

To think how people must have been misunderstanding the poor boy all these years…

NotAtMyAge · 25/08/2026 15:05

Sunnibee · 22/08/2026 18:57

You're presumably an adult haven't you got better things to do?
And do you really think this is remotely original or funny?

Well, I do and so does almost everyone who has replied so far. 😂Not everyone has had a sense-of -humour bypass, you know.

ReversedFerret · 25/08/2026 15:29

I think that rather than encouraging your dog to embrace arbitrary, archaic, and external stereotypes of felinity, you should consider supporting him in expanding the boundaries of what it means to be canine. Why should a catnip mouse, a bowl of milk, or a scratching post be for cats only? Why do we as a species side-eye dogs who want nothing more than to meow piteously to be let inside and then run you over seconds later in the rush to get back outside or sleep all day and race around like a lunatic during the crepuscular hours or lie obstructively on their human's feet when said human is trying to go somewhere? The world is full of former would-be tomkittens who've grown up into well-adjusted adult dogs just because they didn't have tumblr or reddit and so no one ever told them there was another option. Why not one more? 🐶💗🐩

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 25/08/2026 16:53

I used to have a ginger tom but now he's broadening the bandwidth of what it is to be a terrier.

RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:22

BreadInCaptivity · 25/08/2026 00:02

I’d like to own a trans cat as I’m allergic to dogs.

Given trans cats are cats I’m pretty sure this is the solution to my intolerance of dog dander.

I’m just concerned about being able to identify that my cat is in fact a trans cat given nobody could possibly tell otherwise and even if they theoretically could then all their records would have been changed….what a dilemma…..

Tricky isn't it! My former dog displayed the behaviour of a cat, walked like a cat and played with cat toys so they was obviously a cat. You'd never know. The only individuals bothered are annoying bigot cis cats.

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RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:24

dinodart · 25/08/2026 03:05

well now the transcat needs all the surgeries to be a real cat

No need you merely feel you are and it's so. No surgery needed.

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RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:29

ReversedFerret · 25/08/2026 15:29

I think that rather than encouraging your dog to embrace arbitrary, archaic, and external stereotypes of felinity, you should consider supporting him in expanding the boundaries of what it means to be canine. Why should a catnip mouse, a bowl of milk, or a scratching post be for cats only? Why do we as a species side-eye dogs who want nothing more than to meow piteously to be let inside and then run you over seconds later in the rush to get back outside or sleep all day and race around like a lunatic during the crepuscular hours or lie obstructively on their human's feet when said human is trying to go somewhere? The world is full of former would-be tomkittens who've grown up into well-adjusted adult dogs just because they didn't have tumblr or reddit and so no one ever told them there was another option. Why not one more? 🐶💗🐩

😮 I'm shocked

Conversion to biological reality rather than affirmation of what they truly feel they are inside. Was born in the wrong body, would be cruel to suggest body isn't wrong if they feel it is. As a trans parent I must always let they do what they wants and affirm them. Go read the trans ideology manual, 0 points for you! Shocked I am, shocked 😲

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RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:31

ReversedFerret · 25/08/2026 15:29

I think that rather than encouraging your dog to embrace arbitrary, archaic, and external stereotypes of felinity, you should consider supporting him in expanding the boundaries of what it means to be canine. Why should a catnip mouse, a bowl of milk, or a scratching post be for cats only? Why do we as a species side-eye dogs who want nothing more than to meow piteously to be let inside and then run you over seconds later in the rush to get back outside or sleep all day and race around like a lunatic during the crepuscular hours or lie obstructively on their human's feet when said human is trying to go somewhere? The world is full of former would-be tomkittens who've grown up into well-adjusted adult dogs just because they didn't have tumblr or reddit and so no one ever told them there was another option. Why not one more? 🐶💗🐩

Or did I misunderstand, this trans ideology is very tricky to navigate

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RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:31

Or did I misunderstand, this trans ideology is very tricky to navigate

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StylesSluttyShorts · 25/08/2026 18:44

gettingonfor40 · 24/08/2026 20:18

To pretend this is funny is just showing your commitment to bigotry.

Do you not believe it?
How transcatphobic.
Transcats are cats.
Everyone is who they miawoof they are, acceptance without exception, no debate.

Pudmyboy · 25/08/2026 19:08

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:38

I never walk him. He hates a lead and never goes in the same direction as me. He goes in and out a cat flap. He runs around the garden and our small wood freely.

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Can you supply a photo? Does he look like this?

I have a trans cat
RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 19:24

He looks a little like this but much cuter

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BreadInCaptivity · 25/08/2026 19:39

RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 18:22

Tricky isn't it! My former dog displayed the behaviour of a cat, walked like a cat and played with cat toys so they was obviously a cat. You'd never know. The only individuals bothered are annoying bigot cis cats.

Thought…maybe if I can source a terfy cis cat they just might be able through the power of bigotry to identify a trans cat for me to own, thus offering the solution to my dog dander allergies.

Maybe there is a business in this?

Surely there must be others like me sadly unable to own a dog as a result of ensuing hives, breathing difficulties etc - a clear market exists for potential trans cat owners!!!!

Sunnibee · 25/08/2026 19:54

NotAtMyAge · 25/08/2026 15:05

Well, I do and so does almost everyone who has replied so far. 😂Not everyone has had a sense-of -humour bypass, you know.

Oh why? Because never before have you heard the (oh-so-hilarious) "joke" that being a trans person is as stupid as a dog thinking they are a cat? Hahahahaha. What a clever, sophisticated and hilarious bunch you all are!

NinetyNineRedBalloonsGoByAgain · 25/08/2026 19:57

StylesSluttyShorts · 22/08/2026 19:15

He must also notice him at all times and give him all the attention he deserves for being amazing, and also take no notice ever, he's just an ordinary cat, going about his day.

Brilliant!! GrinGrinGrin

MyrtleLion · 25/08/2026 20:12

I think the real test will be if he likes hiding in cardboard boxes poking his paws out. If he does that then he’s definitely a trans cat.

Cat Fun GIF by Gottalotta
RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 21:32

MyrtleLion · 25/08/2026 20:12

I think the real test will be if he likes hiding in cardboard boxes poking his paws out. If he does that then he’s definitely a trans cat.

One of thems most favourite thing to do. They love cardboard 📦

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RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 21:36

These 2 are attempting a mix

high five cat GIF
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EmpressaurusKitty · 25/08/2026 21:50

RelaxAndDetox · 25/08/2026 21:36

These 2 are attempting a mix

Just a big cat & a small cat, nothing to see here.

You’ll need to get them’s microchip details corrected. I hope your vet isn’t a bigot.

nonoono · 25/08/2026 21:56

My Cat wears the Trans Ally Cat flag. Always purring support.