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I have a trans cat

171 replies

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:30

My dog thinks he's a cat. Obviously, biologically he isn't a cat, but he thinks he is (should I gently tell him? Will he grow out of this?) I'm thinking of giving him a cat name as affirmation that I understand want he wants inside. He was born into the wrong body.

When people describe their cats, he fits all the stereotypes, he chases birds, mice and butterflies. He loves a scratch pole. He chases balls of wool. He is completely untrainable. He sneers when given instructions, he's the boss of his empire. He comes in and out as he pleases.

He has excessive sleeping, he scent-marks objects or people by rubbing, kneading with paws, (he does this if he wants picking up) and he has short bursts of frantic running. He's nothing like a dog. He thinks he's a cat, he behaves like a cat, therfore he is?

He's an independent sole, a predator and returns with presents for me, usually insects.

I should tell everyone to start calling him a cat. AIBU?

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RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:31

He also poops and attempts to bury it in my seed bed.

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RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:34

May I ask why you think I'm being unreasonable?

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TheBlueKoala · 22/08/2026 18:34

YABU - He doesn't think he's a cat - he IS a cat because he has chosen to be one. Therefore you should never refer to him as his dead name dog. No need to walk him either- just let him out for his needs. He will miaowl when he wants to come inside.

Merkins · 22/08/2026 18:34

Nothing better to do on a Saturday night, op?

Coinkidinki · 22/08/2026 18:34

Could his mum by any chance have been having a dalliance with a local tomcat?

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:36

TheBlueKoala · 22/08/2026 18:34

YABU - He doesn't think he's a cat - he IS a cat because he has chosen to be one. Therefore you should never refer to him as his dead name dog. No need to walk him either- just let him out for his needs. He will miaowl when he wants to come inside.

I see. I'm new to this. You are correct, he is a cat!

His dead name is Freddie.

Any ideas for suitable for new cat name.

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RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:36

Coinkidinki · 22/08/2026 18:34

Could his mum by any chance have been having a dalliance with a local tomcat?

Heck, I never thought of that, he is cat sized! I need to get his DNA checked. Thank you 😊

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RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:38

TheBlueKoala · 22/08/2026 18:34

YABU - He doesn't think he's a cat - he IS a cat because he has chosen to be one. Therefore you should never refer to him as his dead name dog. No need to walk him either- just let him out for his needs. He will miaowl when he wants to come inside.

I never walk him. He hates a lead and never goes in the same direction as me. He goes in and out a cat flap. He runs around the garden and our small wood freely.

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Octavia64 · 22/08/2026 18:40

I have a cat that thinks he is a dog.

perhaps they should swop bodies.

StylesSluttyShorts · 22/08/2026 18:41

Trans cats ARE cats 🐈
I have two girl cats, both massive Terfs, mainly because I say so.

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:41

Octavia64 · 22/08/2026 18:40

I have a cat that thinks he is a dog.

perhaps they should swop bodies.

Ummm.

I wonder if the local vet might consider modifications to help him feel more at peace with his body?

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LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 18:42

Love this thread - a much needed piece of solace. Your dog is an absolute legend!

LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 18:43

Octavia64 · 22/08/2026 18:40

I have a cat that thinks he is a dog.

perhaps they should swop bodies.

😆 🤣 😂

StylesSluttyShorts · 22/08/2026 18:44

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:41

Ummm.

I wonder if the local vet might consider modifications to help him feel more at peace with his body?

Species affirming care, it's life saving.

LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 18:45

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:41

Ummm.

I wonder if the local vet might consider modifications to help him feel more at peace with his body?

Maybe they will suggest a trans-lator. That should set Fido back on the right track.

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:46

StylesSluttyShorts · 22/08/2026 18:41

Trans cats ARE cats 🐈
I have two girl cats, both massive Terfs, mainly because I say so.

I'm learning of course trans cats are cats.

You need to train those terfy cats to be more tolerant. He passes, you really can't tell 🐈‍⬛️

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GarlicAnything · 22/08/2026 18:48

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:36

I see. I'm new to this. You are correct, he is a cat!

His dead name is Freddie.

Any ideas for suitable for new cat name.

Miss Tickle (Mystical)

Barbie K

Tiggy Mac

... only two of these names were inspired by killers 🐱

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:48

LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 18:45

Maybe they will suggest a trans-lator. That should set Fido back on the right track.

I'm getting terf vibes from you. Seriously, why can't you be kind to my Freddie, he has felines you know

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LuckyHazelFox · 22/08/2026 18:49

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:48

I'm getting terf vibes from you. Seriously, why can't you be kind to my Freddie, he has felines you know

😆 🤣

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:50

GarlicAnything · 22/08/2026 18:48

Miss Tickle (Mystical)

Barbie K

Tiggy Mac

... only two of these names were inspired by killers 🐱

He is a killer. The number of insects and spiders he drops at my door.

I'm feeling those names are too feminine for Freddie, he is a tom 🐈

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RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:53

StylesSluttyShorts · 22/08/2026 18:44

Species affirming care, it's life saving.

Now you mention it, he does appear sad sometimes, when he catches his reflection in a mirror 🪞 should I worry he might 'do' something!

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Sunnibee · 22/08/2026 18:55

Oh for gods sake really?

GarlicAnything · 22/08/2026 18:55

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:50

He is a killer. The number of insects and spiders he drops at my door.

I'm feeling those names are too feminine for Freddie, he is a tom 🐈

Aha, I was getting too carried away by ex-Freddie's transness!

There's a shortage of (human) trans men killers, and none with overly theatrical names. Why shouldn't Freddie be Freddie The Cat??

He sounds marvellous 😻

RelaxAndDetox · 22/08/2026 18:56

Sunnibee · 22/08/2026 18:55

Oh for gods sake really?

Really what? Can you show some empathy, try to understand his confusion 😕

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Sunnibee · 22/08/2026 18:57

You're presumably an adult haven't you got better things to do?
And do you really think this is remotely original or funny?