AIBU to be angry about comments on my granddaughters' names?

[Ellenay]

So, I have 5 grandchildren, this weekend I’m looking after all of them, my daughter and her husband are away to a wedding in France and my son and his wife have booked a little spa weekend.

I popped in to see some of my friends with them as I don’t often have the children and my friends like seeing them.

One of my friends had some other friends I’ve not met before over but we joined them. After introducing the children and then being sent to the kitchen to get a lollipop, one of these friends said oh don’t all the girls have little showgirl names, I must have looked a bit shocked as someone else then jumped in and said oh she doesn’t mean p*rnstar just very moulin rouge.

I just said I thought their names were lovely and moved on but now I’m back home I’m furious, I’m furious I didn’t give her a piece of my mind.

AIBU to think this is an absurd thing to say about children’s names?!

Yes, that's just a bit much, isn't it!

Well the op can't change the names.

Lola is also a very cute girl in the Charlie and Lola dvds.

I like the names, I thought one might be Tallulah.

As an animal health professional, I have probably met dogs or cats with most human names - definitely Ruby, Lola and Roxy - saying I have met them doesn't make it a comparison or a judgement.

There are other reasons not to call a child Rolf right now tbh

Yes OP it was a mildly bitchy comment. As are many of the comments from people on this thread. I wouldn't give it any more of your time or thought.

But who knew so many MNers were such ardent Barry Manilow fans.

My bad. You are absolutely right.

Is there a granny circuit?

Ruby was not an uncommon name when I was at primary school in the '60s. I recall that we had a Ruby and a Pearl in our class.

It was a bit crass of her to comment but it was probably one of those moments where she said something she should have just kept as a thought! I’d try to calm down and just brush it off. It’s not worth causing any drama. People have such varied opinions on names. The main thing is your DC and their partner like the names and hopefully the children like their own names! No one else’s opinion matters.

If I hear the name Lola I start humming “she was a showgirl” without even thinking about it. Roxy makes me think of the musical Chicago = showgirl. Ruby isn’t not a showgirl name although I mostly think of the Kaiser Chiefs song.

But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a showgirl or having a showgirl type name. Taylor Swift self-identifies as a showgirl and if it’s good enough for her…

Whats your bitchy friends name. I'm sure we can dig up some dirt on that

Comments like this make Mumsnet feel hostile. What’s the point ?

What's wrong with being a showgirl?

It would’ve annoyed me too tbh regardless whether it was meant in a negative way or not- just feels a bit like sexualising based on a name?
I think the names are really sweet! Ruby was on my names list.

Kendall and… Pepper? Humbug? After Eight?

There are so many snarky posts lately.

That's what I would have assumed. I wouldn't have taken it as insulting at all.

I'm hoping it's Murray and Kendall!

I think the point is that it appears that if one fictional character has the name, every real person with the name has to be the butt of stupid comments.

If the grandchildren were named Theresa, Katherine and Mary-Francis would the woman have said something about nuns? Probably not, because nuns aren't perceived in the same way as showgirls.

YANBU she was needlessly rude and should have kept her thoughts to herself.

It wasn’t a comment about little girls, though. It was a comment about names.

You know this kind of thing goes on all the time since names have become much less formal. Your shock is not understandable.

I know. It’s so unnecessary!

Perhaps she didn't mean "show girl" in a negative way. Id assume she ment theatrical.
A couple of the names are names common in theatre.