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AIBU to think if we need to politely ask men not to rape women (or men), then we don't want such people in the UK?

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bobbyydazzler · 19/08/2026 20:26

Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK
UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

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LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 21:29

BubbleAndLeek · Yesterday 21:25

Why do a large section of MN say that because we have our own British rapists we should allow dangerous men in from nations where things are for women are worse? I literally do not understand.

It's a go to argument to shut down debate.

autumnwitch4 · Yesterday 21:30

BubbleAndLeek · Yesterday 21:25

Why do a large section of MN say that because we have our own British rapists we should allow dangerous men in from nations where things are for women are worse? I literally do not understand.

I think they say this because they know they’re losing the argument.

GiaGia16 · Yesterday 21:36

Somerford · Yesterday 21:20

Sometimes you get a good sense of how a lot of people feel from the number of reactions to certain posts, there are things people want to say out loud but don't want to deal with the pile-on that usually follows.

I mentioned reversing the Boris Wave earlier and got lots of reactions. People know what the Boris Wave is and they can look around their towns at the damage its done, and they want it to be undone.

Yes I remember your post, sure I reacted to it.

bobbyydazzler · Yesterday 21:42

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 21:23

Ever get the feeling that you just know who you are taking to is not another woman?

All the time on here. After a while its unmistakable.

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EasternStandard · Yesterday 21:42

bobbyydazzler · Yesterday 21:20

89% YANBU atm. Even a few months ago it wouldn't have been that high. Its good people are more aware and angry now. It is getting worse by the day, at first anyone raising the issue was accused of being racist or far right. No more because people know the truth and more of us are singing from the same - objective - hymn sheet.

Yes the diehard Labour lines aren’t working so well anymore.

EmeraldShamrock000 · Yesterday 21:50

BubbleAndLeek · Yesterday 21:25

Why do a large section of MN say that because we have our own British rapists we should allow dangerous men in from nations where things are for women are worse? I literally do not understand.

The budget was released today on the amount spent on housing prisoners, like the UK, prisons are busting at the seams. It is a revolving door system, As a country we are paying 85% more on accommodation for immigrants than we are spending tackling crime by housing prisoners, dangerous people are being let back onto the street, not only are we inviting it into the country we’re freeing the ones currently in prison to make space for the new prisoners. What the fuck. Who would have predicted this a few years ago.

LuckyHazelFox · Yesterday 21:50

EasternStandard · Yesterday 21:42

Yes the diehard Labour lines aren’t working so well anymore.

They were fun to unpick though!

Goingfor · Yesterday 21:51

HewasH2O · 19/08/2026 20:44

Each new generation of men & women need to know the expectations off the society they are entering, whether born in the UK or elsewhere. In the same way as a family going to the US on holiday may not realise that their children can't drink until they are 21 regardless of the law in the UK.

Do you really believe that it's the first thing on the mind of those poor young people claiming asylum?

😂🤣

climbintheback · Today 10:26

Pink ladies - stand up and be counted - we are the 51% we must stop cowering waiting for the next murder, rape or assault!

LuckyHazelFox · Today 10:32

climbintheback · Today 10:26

Pink ladies - stand up and be counted - we are the 51% we must stop cowering waiting for the next murder, rape or assault!

🚺 💪

Burnhamsmascara · Today 14:07

It's not just the men coming on lorries and on boats...it's also the "students" who enrol on bullshit courses and after arriving here quit the course and claim asylum. It's also the "highly skilled work visa's" that are given out to vape shop owners and the "unification" of families when one person has got a foothold into the UK. There was a story about a Gazan woman that was able to bring 18 family members over because the ECHR supported the fact her mental health would be impacted if this wasn't done (https://www.aol.com/articles/gazan-family-18-come-britain-094411000.html). Meanwhile the Labour Party is now saying that charities and organisations can sponsor more and more people to come to the UK like some sort of Ponzi scheme. We are literally flooding the country with so many people from other cultures that we can't possibly assimilate them all and then we wonder why we suddenly have such a big problem with misogyny and violence against women and girls? The grooming gang scandals were not a few wrong'uns working alone - they were large networks of men whose crimes were covered up by their own families and communities. Imagine being a genuine female asylum seeker and you finally make it to Britain to find the seeds of the culture you risked your life to escape springing up around you again? I am scared for the future of this country.

Thatladdo · Today 14:13

I've a feeling the truth above wont go down too well here.
Hopefully its not a man 😂

5MinuteArgument · Today 15:01

Burnhamsmascara · Today 14:07

It's not just the men coming on lorries and on boats...it's also the "students" who enrol on bullshit courses and after arriving here quit the course and claim asylum. It's also the "highly skilled work visa's" that are given out to vape shop owners and the "unification" of families when one person has got a foothold into the UK. There was a story about a Gazan woman that was able to bring 18 family members over because the ECHR supported the fact her mental health would be impacted if this wasn't done (https://www.aol.com/articles/gazan-family-18-come-britain-094411000.html). Meanwhile the Labour Party is now saying that charities and organisations can sponsor more and more people to come to the UK like some sort of Ponzi scheme. We are literally flooding the country with so many people from other cultures that we can't possibly assimilate them all and then we wonder why we suddenly have such a big problem with misogyny and violence against women and girls? The grooming gang scandals were not a few wrong'uns working alone - they were large networks of men whose crimes were covered up by their own families and communities. Imagine being a genuine female asylum seeker and you finally make it to Britain to find the seeds of the culture you risked your life to escape springing up around you again? I am scared for the future of this country.

Yes, the whole thing is a racket that needs to be shut down. It's a million miles away from the WW2 refugees of women, old people and little children fleeing with a few belongings on their backs. This is big business, a giant international industry that our government is participating in.

The case of the Palestinian woman allowed to bring in 18 family members through family reunification shows how broken the system is. 18 family members. That takes the whole biscuit tin.

MaturingCheeseball · Today 16:07

The delightful young man who raped a woman in a toilet cubicle on Bournemouth seafront was a student at West Thames College (??). A student of….. barbering.

Whammyammy · Today 16:25

When rape is part of a culture, a learlflet is meaningless.

But not wanting to be raped or stabbed means you're racist or far right nowadays

Whammyammy · Today 16:27

EmeraldShamrock000 · Yesterday 20:56

I could cry. It’s every day.

And numbered will keep going up

LuckyHazelFox · Today 16:37

Whammyammy · Today 16:25

When rape is part of a culture, a learlflet is meaningless.

But not wanting to be raped or stabbed means you're racist or far right nowadays

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Just laugh off their piffle. The gang mentality numbers are dwindling.

5MinuteArgument · Today 17:00

MaturingCheeseball · Today 16:07

The delightful young man who raped a woman in a toilet cubicle on Bournemouth seafront was a student at West Thames College (??). A student of….. barbering.

Yes, crazy. Why is this being allowed? Why is the govt doing this to us and institutions like the BBC gaslighting us and telling us it's all perfectly normal and we need to shut up about it and if we don't we're a racist / xenophobe / islamophobe?

autumnwitch4 · Today 17:12

5MinuteArgument · Today 17:00

Yes, crazy. Why is this being allowed? Why is the govt doing this to us and institutions like the BBC gaslighting us and telling us it's all perfectly normal and we need to shut up about it and if we don't we're a racist / xenophobe / islamophobe?

I don’t understand why the BBC describes him as a ‘teenager’ and his victim as a ‘woman’ when they were both 19 years old.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq56vp21e84o

A man with curly brown hair and a goatee beared is standing in front of a grey wall wearing a white top.

Teenager jailed for raping woman in Bournemouth beach toilet

Mohammed Abdullah, 19, has been sentenced to six years and nine months in prison.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq56vp21e84o

GunnelVallquist · Today 17:15

autumnwitch4 · Today 17:12

I don’t understand why the BBC describes him as a ‘teenager’ and his victim as a ‘woman’ when they were both 19 years old.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq56vp21e84o

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Trying to change perceptions.

It’s sinister.

Nuthatch26 · Today 17:50

autumnwitch4 · Today 17:12

I don’t understand why the BBC describes him as a ‘teenager’ and his victim as a ‘woman’ when they were both 19 years old.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq56vp21e84o

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Good point.

5MinuteArgument · Today 18:24

autumnwitch4 · Today 17:12

I don’t understand why the BBC describes him as a ‘teenager’ and his victim as a ‘woman’ when they were both 19 years old.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cq56vp21e84o

Edited

Yes, well spotted. Their reporter must have wanted to gain sympathy for the assailant rather than his victim. The BBC are really shameless. To be honest, I'm surprised they reported this at all. Their usual stance is 'move along, nothing to see here.'

LuckyHazelFox · Today 18:30

5MinuteArgument · Today 18:24

Yes, well spotted. Their reporter must have wanted to gain sympathy for the assailant rather than his victim. The BBC are really shameless. To be honest, I'm surprised they reported this at all. Their usual stance is 'move along, nothing to see here.'

The BBC though reminds me of the collective stance on illegal immigration. People can kid themselves that it's not a number one concern but a major pushback has gathered speed now, against woke institutions and how they deliver news. People are waking up, big time.

GunnelVallquist · Today 18:32

LuckyHazelFox · Today 18:30

The BBC though reminds me of the collective stance on illegal immigration. People can kid themselves that it's not a number one concern but a major pushback has gathered speed now, against woke institutions and how they deliver news. People are waking up, big time.

Yes, expect major pushback.

From the left I mean, sorry.

LuckyHazelFox · Today 18:39

GunnelVallquist · Today 18:32

Yes, expect major pushback.

From the left I mean, sorry.

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They are so out of touch with the severity of the situation, I'm done with giving them air space. Islamo left rhetoric is the ruin of this country and many other parts of Europe.