AIBU to avoid someone who thinks she’s funny but actually hurt me.

[Marcipox]

At a casual lunch, a woman I know very slightly changed her seat to be near me, then suddenly started gouging the sole of my foot with her nails, I suppose as an attempt to tickle me.

As I have serious nerve pain in my feet, it was excruciating. It still hurts.
She didn’t stop until I had said No, stop, more than once.
I know she didn’t know about the nerve pain but still, who does that? And doesn’t stop when asked.
I wish I had screamed in her face.

AIBU to think she’s a loon who should be carefully avoided?

No I am just someone with painful feet.

That is extremely odd behaviour on her part. Yes Inwould avoid this person.

I am stiff and slow.
I did grab her arm and say. Stop No not my feet
But she’s really strong and didn’t stop.
Maybe she’s a foot fetishist but she’s not doing it with me.

Just another pervert poster. Look at the language the op is using. Ignore

unbelievable

Grim.
The more they post the worse it gets.

Thank goodness it’s not just me. I had now idea that everyone was so precious about feet being on the sofa.

Right……I get it now!
However, shoes off house and feet on hem of dress???? Nah, we’re a shoes off house and no one puts feet up on the sofa……..not even with clothing between them and the surface!
But tickling someone’s feet so aggressively that it hurts???? Who the fook does that? WAW!

Im with PP who think she did this to show disapproval of you tucking your feet under you on someone else’s sofa.

You can avoid anyone you like, for whatever reason you choose, whether randoms on the internet think you're unreasonable or not.

How do you manage to politely say "no, stop" when someone is causing you "excruciating" pain?

This is weird. If she didn’t stop after me (you) grabbing her arm I’d have said firmly and loudly “stop fucking touching my feet”. Yes swearing is unladylike. Do I care? No.

What happened after you grabbed her arm and said stop OP. Did she carry on.

That's how I sit at home, as we are a shoes off household, and also tucked into clothing on the seat. So As to not moving immediately I can imagine if she plonked herself down next to you and you were tucked up with your feet on the hem of your dress that there wasn't enough room to uncurl quickly enough.

If she had a problem with feet on the sofa, she why didn't she open her beak and say so? It sounds like a wierd attempt at cheeky over familiarity which she thought was funny.

It's a bloody cheek. Did you mention it to the host? What do they think about it?

I'd be tempted to send this woman a curt text saying that her behaviour was disrespectful, and painful, even without your painful foot condition, and she is to stay away from you in future. She sounds like the kind of person who needs things spelt out to her And then block. Who cares if she takes offence?
Although others might say it;s better to ignore. Im in two minds about that.

this post is almost as weird as the OP. what do you mean it’s etiquette to touch people’s feet in a swimming pool, but also what does any of that have to to do with the OP?’

WTF! How on earth did she even get to your feet? Were they up on the table or what?
I have peripheral neuropathy and if anyone did this to me they'd be calling an ambulance.
Was she alone or with her carers, I'm assuming mental illness here?

Or smack her one!

I had no idea either. I always wear socks, don't want anyone's sweaty feet on my furniture, but surely you have to sit with at least one foot under you unless you want to be perched on the edge of the settee getting backache. Unless you're the seven foot tall man who designed our settee I suppose.

I suspect a level of mental illness?

Yeah,so did I. I thought the woman was under the table as you said lunch? Isn't lunch usually eaten at table?

What an absolutely bonkers thread!

I find it weird enough that toe touch in swimming pools is a thing.
It's not unusual to have issues-whether that's ingrowing toe nails, joint pain, nerve problems like you-or simply to just dislike it.
Suggest she gets help. It's not ok to touch people with out permission (obvious exceptions for health/security etc).

I was drawing the same conclusion..too weird to be true?

Then you should have lamped her,everyone else would have! Did you ask the host where the weird one's carers were?

I’ve read some odd threads on here, this is so bizarre

OPs feet may have been "sort of stuck" but her fists weren't!
You know, I think this was written by a man..have you ever before heard a woman describe another woman as big and strong?mmm...

Where were you having lunch that you are allowed to put bare feet up on a sofa?