Butt on display at lunch in south of France

[flipperfizz]

I am currently having lunch in a beach restaurant and a girl with a lovely toned body is wearing a tiny thong with full ass on display. This seems to be a fashion thing and there are lots of women wearing the same cheese cutter! People are staring and some women are laughing. I find it a horrible trend and I am wondering what others think.

No kids, what’s that got to do with it?

I am relieved that not listening to their parents talk about what others choose diners are wearing

This pp does tend to patronise other posters and does more 'worthy preaching' than those she criticises for it!

And yet you describe that where you live “heaves” with tourists in August so much so that you return to the uk for the month

i would be surprised if the local economy isn’t to some extent dependent on tourist

This is how you are choosing to spend your holiday @flipperfizz ?

Maybe people in the resident thought you were darn rude starting at your phone whilst out for a meal with your husband

Maybe she just doesn't want someones naked bum visible in her vicinity? I wouldn't either. I don't want to see my friend's bum, my father's bum, my teenage child's friend's bum, or a stranger's bum. If that makes me a 'prig' then I feel the word has lost its bite.

I find my children growing up in a world where women are treated (and treat themselves) as sexualised meat displayed on a platter, while men get to be seen as people, to be deeply harmful – just as harmful as the kind of modesty culture that insists women should be hidden away from sight.

I don't think that women choosing to show their bums is something that needs to be defended blindly, given both the broader social implications, and the harmful social norms these behaviours often stem from.

We’re all different. We make different choices, have different lifestyles, come in all shapes and sizes (some considered more aesthetically pleasing than others!). No two people are exactly the same. Rather than judging others, I think the old saying sums it up perfectly: “If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.” It costs nothing to be kind.

Shouldn’t eat at a beach cafe. On the beach. Meters from sun bathers

My comment explains that. HTH.

Yes! Isn't that what sarongs, kaftan-y, floaty dresses etc are for? You can chuck them over your swimsuit and still look elegant....and be hygeinic ...at the restaurant.

Are they not a thing any more? I used to wear a sarong thing - it was in gorgeous silk and I loved wearing it with my swimsuit.

Wow, what an intelligent and thoughtful response to my comment. You really addressed what I said, which incidentally, had the courtesy of addressing what you said in good faith.

But then that seems to be what's missing, I suppose: courtesy.

I think this is the issue.

This pp is judging other men by her own partner's habits. Lots of projecting going on.

You sound… angry and hot.

make a coffee and sit outside. It’s beautiful

grim to think someone’s bare arse cheeks / crack has been there before yours

Oh my goodness, am amazed at the pile on the OP is getting. She’s quite clearly said she’s interested in people’s opinions on whether it’s appropriate to wear a thong in a restaurant. It’s a discussion forum, where people do discuss such things, as in hey everyone, what do you think of this? She’s not openly mocking a young woman. I agree, cover up somewhat for a restaurant even a beach one. I don’t think it’s appropriate to have bare bum on chairs that aren’t going to be wiped down before others sit on them, and I don’t think it’s appropriate in general to be in a thong in a restaurant. Beach, sure, restaurant no.

I was in a v crowded motorway service station in the U.K. on Sunday, and saw a woman strolling through it in a swimming costume. I thought that was odd too, as in wear swimwear at the beach, at a pool, but elsewhere surely people should put more clothes on?!

Actually no, it's winter where I am, and evening.

You're clearly here in bad faith. Such a shame.

It doesn’t. I’m none the wiser.

If you don’t want to eat in the vicinity of lots of exposed flesh…. Bums, boobs, hairy men chests…. Don’t eat ON THE BEACH.

One would think that was fairly obvious

Totally missing the point!

Thanks for the support, I’m not sure what I’ve started here!

Because it's dressed up as concern.

So - let me get this straight: pps' comments are just 'dressed up' as concern. But your pious remarks about not mocking young women (who's doing that on here? Names, please, or stop accusing) are genuine concern. OK.

Gloriia - to me, your posts are characterised by a determination to miss the point of the argument. The discussion moves on but you return, like a dog, to a point which has already been covered and off we all go again.

It makes things tedious.

Which is?

OP, you’re on holiday. With your husband. And you are choosing to spend your lovely beach lunch with your husband… updating your Mumsnet thread (Possibly a Mumsnetthere started a thread about YOU being so rude to sit at the table across from your husband on your screen)

and the following morning? Back on it.

Surely surely there is something nicer to do on holiday in the south of France with your husband than this?

The 'she's jealous because her man's ogling another woman' brigade have come back from the Jurassic era to pop up on here!

Sadly, Otterly, I think they do.😟