Do you have a best friend?

[frankiedays]

do you have a proper best friend as an adult? Or a proper group of best friends?
I hear people talk about their best friends all the time and I’m so jealous I don’t have that one person to properly connect with as a friend.

I have good friends but i don't think they're exclusive to just me! I need different friends for different interests. So no "best" friend per se but that's ok. I do admire when people do have their one and only, and assume you're not counting DH's.

Yes, I’m 36 and she’s been my best friend since we were 4. Small circle of good friends, I value quality not quantity, but having a lifelong best friend has been amazing.

I'm very lucky 2 amazing love at first sight best friends / one from school - 50 years, another from uni - 44 years. I also have 2 brilliant female friends and 1 male from work dating back 34 years

Yes I do.

Yes. I did terribly in keeping friends from school and uni but have an oldest best friend who I have known since I was uni age (not at uni together though) and a best best friend who I speak to every day without fail who I met through work about 10 years ago. I’m 40ish now. I feel very lucky, they are all I need.

I did have one for maybe 8 or 9 years, but no other best friend in the last 27 years. We've lost touch now due to different circumstances.

I do have a best friend, she has four legs and is very fluffy ❤️

No. I don't feel the need for one.

Yes, met her in my late teens. I don't have a huge close friendship group though. I'm very sociable but like to do my own thing with DP and family. We are also part of quite a big social group from our area so that's nice and is very mixed ages.

No, although my husband really is my best friend. I’ve accepted that in this life, I’m blessed in so many ways but friendships just aren’t it. You can’t have it all I guess. I do have friends, but not a ‘best friend’.

I have a few different groups of friends and am closer to some people more than others but not one "best friend". My dh's sister has a supposed BFF and they are always calling each other "bestie" or "my ride or die" on fb but to us she says she's actually a nightmare! I find it rather superficial and two-faced tbh.

Those of you saying you have two best friends (or more), surely the point is you can only have one? Hence they're your best friend.

No. I have may people I love spending time with and a couple of people I might turn to for advice. But not one single friend who stands out above all others.

Yes I have a best friend. If I ever murder DH she would help me bury the body and vice versa. We went to uni together and have been emotionally inseparable ever since, even if we only actually see each other once every couple of months. I have a couple of long term friendship groups and a few others which are lovely, but transient, school mums etc.

I do feel very lucky to have someone I can be my absolute 100% worst and best self around with absolutely no filter or judgement. Even DH judges me sometimes but she doesn't. 😂

Yes.

We are early 30’s.

Met during first year of secondary school. She’s one of the only people I can truly trust in life and can confide in about anything.

We go on holidays together, trips, festivals. We are chalk and cheese but I think that’s why we gel so well. I’d be lost without her.

Yes I do. We’ve been best friends since age 5 and now 51 (!) years later, we’re still there for each other despite living 250 miles apart.

Have friends, but not one 'best friend'. I travelled a lot, went to uni abroad before Internet, lost touch with school mates, then parents moved, then I settled miles and miles away, so had to make friends over and over again. Not the same.

Have group of 6 secondary schoolfriends for 60 years and 1 best friend from primary school for 66 years. We meet up approx every 3 months.

Yes, been friends for about 40 years. She's gorgeous.

I did have. Best friend since school so over 40 years now.

but we are no longer best friends so I’m now all alone and friendless. No idea how to make any more.

Yes.

Friends since we were 14 (now 57) We are like chalk & cheese.

She is my absolute rock.

I have a couple of other very close friends too. but I am one on one friends with them individually they're not all friends as a group..

what I don't have and have never had is a gaggle of girlfriends who go out together.

I'm sorry, you don't have a best friend x

Some people on MN say it's childish or pathetic to have a best friend as an adult. I don't give one flying fuck for their opinion..

I'd clone my best friend and give it to you if I could x

One of my closest friends I met when I was 52, in the hospital! So don't give up hope xx

No, I have a couple of very long term friends since childhood but they are not friends with eachother. I have a few friends I've met through my kids, some wuite good friends but I dont have a best friend group to go out with or on holiday with etc

I think I have a friend I’m closest with. I’m fonder of her than anyone else and I really care for her. She’s a bit of an oddball and can be very awkward in groups but she is genuine and very caring. She is also great fun. On paper, one or the other of my other close friends should be my ‘best’ friend but there is just something about my oddball friend that makes me feel close to her. I’m sure she thinks the same but neither of us would talk about ‘best friends’ as it’s a silly concept.

Yes 1 best friend. Few other friends but we are not as close.

Oh that’s hard, @Enigma54. Are you still in the same geographical place?

Some ‘friends’ are so crap with illnesses and I’ve never worked out what their issue is. It’s not like I want them to become my nursemaid or anything.

My main problem with friends has been us all moving round the world for jobs / careers and relationships. I’m not an enthusiastic zoomer or emailer.