I have a husband, 18 years my senior, and he has some odd traits. I do get irritated, like the OP.
EVERY morning, without fail, he says “Chuck the milk over.” And I swear one day I will do just that.
He tries to engage me in conversation but as soon as I start to speak, he interrupts and talks over me, so I give up.
He can do some DIY well but more often doesn’t or leaves it half done.
Yesterday, I cleared 3 bin bags of rubbish (he chomps on sweets constantly) from his car and removed the bits of dead Christmas tree that has been there since January. Actually, my car, both are mine, I let him use one.
He does very little round house except to cook a huge breakfast on Sunday, which I spend rest of day clearing up.
He tries to run my finances and plan any holidays and trips I take.
He has cluttered my house with folders of old sheet music and vinyl LPs, which he collate details of on index cards and then never looks at again.
He says things like: “what are you doing today? Haven’t you better get a move on?”
He pretends to be asleep if jobs need doing and then when I’ve done them, says: “I was going to do that!”
He makes random shouting noises: “Right!” “Good!”
If I hang washing out, he says: “it won’t dry out there!” Even in this weather .
He watches crime shows constantly on TV and if I move round house, he pauses it because he can’t hear if I am “ banging about.”
He fights with inanimate objects and everything is a “Bloody thing”.
Describing his driving would be a thread of its own, suffice to say, I refuse to get in car if he’s driving. It’s terrifying.
I don’t know why some older men are such hard work. I guess they were raised in a patriarchal society and it changed. And maybe, like older women often say, they feel invisible and have to crash about to get noticed. It’s a bit sad really.