AIBU to feel upset after my partner chose gaming over intimacy?

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My toddler finally slept. I put on some lingerie (mind that my body is NOT tea, size A cups, no bum but plenty of tum) and went into the sitting room.
My partner was playing playstation, gives me abaolutely no compliments (nothing new) but did look at me.
He said 'let me finish the match and then i will come'. I sigh, grab my phone and leave the room. He states dont be like that, i had already started the match.

My sister thinks im overeacting as im upset.

I don't think you were invited to partake...what a weird response

I was thinking the same

TikTok isn’t real.

Thank you for this

No chance!

I know this. I dont know why i reacted the way i did.
Im in the bath atm and i feel bad right now.
We did have sex before this

I am explaining why she might be giving people "the ick".

People who say tum are not hot.

Are there really TikTok videos portraying this? Some people really will do anything for attention 😬

I agree. Average bloke would defo turn down Megan Fox for saying 'tum'.

It's just inconceivable that she'd say it to begin with

my bf does that to me! he is obsessed with the UNO app, i’ve dressed like a slut to him but nothing makes him give up the game :(

What does dressing like a slut involve @morselover69 ?
Is it worth demeaning yourself like that?

Those videos are staged! They aren't real life.

he has a margaret thatcher fetish, i got a costume, wig and all, but ever since he found this bloody app, he wanted nothing to do with me :(

I was thinking the same thing
he was busy and not interested

I wouldn’t be either if I was in the middle of reading or watching a film! He was trying to relax he was not in the mood end of!

You made yourself feel vulnerable because you’re self conscious about your body. You were hoping for reassurance and you were left feeling awkward. It’s not about sex. It’s about embarrassment. I think your reaction is understandable

If you expect any human being to react like they do in a video manufactured for clicks, you've got more issues than your bloke turning you down for a boss fight.

They. Aren't. Real

You'll make yourself crazy trying to get real life and real people to follow some script you saw while doomscrolling. That's not how people behave. It's all surface and cliché, and it's job is to sell you a vision of a fantasy life.

Tea?

I would be upset too and think there is more context to this? Does he initiate often or make you feel desired? I think it made you feel like a fool and I understand why it hurt your feelings. If everything else in your sex life is pretty normal and he usually has a decent libido it's probably just a matter of communication. Just tell him that made you feel a bit bad and see if you can come to an agreement when it comes to sex.

You do realise Tiktok is not real life?

I can’t imagine getting in the mood for a bloke addicted to gaming. Quel turn off.

This.

I think a compliment would have been nice - it's a shame he didn't acknowledge the effort you made. It's bloody hard with a toddler!

But at the same time, I wouldn't necessarily want to drop everything I was doing all of a sudden nor be in the mood straight away, and I wouldn't expect my partner to either.

It sounds like this is a bit of a build up of an issue though, rather than a single one off. You sound like you are feeling a bit underappreciated and that's much more understandable if he's always gaming and not giving you and your child enough attention - but we don't know if that's the case from your single post?

If a bloke huffed at me and walked out when I didn’t immediately drop something I was doing because he appeared in budgie smugglers I’d bin him off.

Suspect this is more about seeking reassurance and not finding it when you wanted. You say later you had sex before/earlier so presumably he still finds you attractive!

Oh my goodness some of these posts.

This is not the same as a bloke coming up to her with a hard on and expecting sex immediately.

This is her making an effort to look sexy and him essentially rejecting her. I expect he'll never get that lucky again.

And I don't care if you can't pause an online match, what's more important, acknowledging your wife's effort, making her feel good about her post partum body, and making the most of the child free time, or finishing a match (which isn't actually even real, it's a game....?).

(edited for typo)

How is it not the same? because she is a little women who needs to be treated like crystal because she is sensitive and women are delicate little creatures who need to pandered too?