Aibu to have reported the dustbin lorry to the council?

[Bumpyroads]

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc.

Recently they have been playing loud music in the garden at the weekends in a passive aggressive way. This started when they complained about our chickens being noisy ( we have rehomed the chickens because of this but thats another story) the reason I'm saying all of this is because in general I am just in a bad mood about our neighbours and don't know if this has tainted my reaction.

So next door neighbour is a bin man, he wasn't at work.
Bin lorry come and parks up across my drive . Workmen get out and go in neighbours house/garden for 40 minutes having a drink and break. All this time I was unable to get off or access my drive. There was a bin lorry parked unattended across it.

So husband rings to complain to the council. They were confused as on their tracker the lorry was supposedly elsewhere. They also agreed 40minutes was excessive but said they must have been emptying bins? No they were having a cuppa at my neighbours! Council are going to investigate, I suspect they were taking unauthorised breaks and turning the tracker off.. maybe.

Anyway the reason this has also annoyed me so much is our neighbours have lived hear 30+ years and act like they own the street. Complain about anything we do (leaves from our trees fall in their garden for example.) They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family. Tbh I just dont think they like us, we normally don't rise to it and smile and wave etc. But this time I had had enough and complained.

Aibu? And have we just started ww3?

I would ask to have this thread removed, so the neighbour you get along with doesn't come across it. Very outing with the pic 🌸

It just seems really petty and is likely to escalate. If the council decide to take action, they’ll need evidence, so your neighbour will probably work out you did it.
I’ve had awful neighbours, I just saved and moved, no record of disputes when I sold (to a landlord).

I know! If this was a parking thread complete with diagram the answers would be so different!

Bit because the OP committed the cardinal sin of a) mentioning age and b) them being older - she’s the one in the wrong. 🤯

I think age is relevant sometimes. I’ve lived in cul de sacs in my childhood and it was well recognised that some older generations didn’t like younger families moving in and their little close changing.

Also I have noticed it’s always those who take the piss that don’t like new people - who may just stand up to them!

No but I guess his colleagues would be pissed off. But really i reported it because it was blocking my drive. I was wanting to see if people would still report even if they didn't have the bad relationship with the neighbour or if it had tainted my view. It wasn't solely to piss the neighbour off.

Other side next door neighbours dad was working on that bin lorry. Bad coincidence or whatever. They obviously sort of saw it as a 2 in 1, empty daughters bin, then go and see mate the other side.

I know they dont pay as we have recently got a new recycling scheme. Everyone who pays for their garden waste used to have a green bin this was swapped for brown under the thew scheme if you have subscribed. Theirs is still green.

They know we reported it of course. We have given evidence they asked for.

I wouldn't let nasty neighbours dictate where I live. I like my house and no plans on moving for at least 10 years

Surely you'd have beeped the horn and they'd have moved?

Surely if you wanted to see if people would still report it without the background of the neighbour dispute you’d of left out the details re the neighbour in your first post. The first line of your post is about the neighbour not the bin truck. I think that’s what’s getting mixed reactions from people as it reads like I have a problem with my neighbours and so I reported someone else.

Yes you can see down our street gradually the older people are moving on and the next generation are moving in. Of course they are not going to like the change they have lived there over 30 years.

I dont post on mumsnet much but read it quite a bit and always notice people get accused of "drip feeding" so was trying the give the whole picture.
Clearly done the wrong thing

I can see why you annoy your neighbours….

So, you weren’t coming or going from anywhere? You might have got the bin men in bother, but your neighbours won’t be affected.

Petty.

But forgot the relevant part of they’d done it before? Really? Or added for effect and reason for reporting?

Do you also recognise the classic AIBU trait of an OP

OP - AIBU
Response - YABU
OP - No I’m not, because of XYZ and it’s happened before (drip feed!).

Why ask OP? If you don’t want opposing views.

Christ, people are laying into the OP…

Possibly the discussion has moved on by now but in our LA binmen are allowed to go home after their daily round is completed, so no penalties if they take longer or choose to have a break.

If they are acting like their age makes them entitled fuckwits, then I guess they are old. If they are using their older age to expect everyone to kowtow to their "rules", they are old, entitled fuckwits. Working has nothing to do with it. Their behavior does.

I would be annoyed my driveway was blocked, however i would of just gone and asked them to move it if i had needed to be off and asked them to not do it again.

BUT the people you have reported aren’t actually your neighbour, so your neighbour is not going to receive any reprimanded from work as seemingly he wasn’t at work 🤷‍♀️ so your logic in reporting the bin men to get back at your neighbour is flawed

Sounds as though it was reported to bepetty about the neighbours rather than any actual need

Yeah I wasn't sure about this if thats the case then fine. I wasn't reporting them for having a break just where they parked. It was the person on the phone that was confused as they weren't supposed to be in our area. The whole break this was kind of secondary.

Im surprised they can park up and leave the lorry for a break though. I've seen them having breaks outside our local fish and chip shop but they are obviously with the vehicle.

Again im not a bin man so wouldn't know, I just know you cant park infont of someone's drive.

Bit cutting of nose to spite face though. Wonder if you be back on here in a fortnight moaning bins not emptied or rubbish" accidentally" spilled on your drive etc

If you genuinely needed to move your car your first action should really have been to go round, knock on the door and ask the driver of the lorry to allow you to get off your drive. If said driver refused and the vehicle remained across your driveway thus blocking you in when you needed to go out then that would justify a complaint to the council.
Having an adult conversation achieves far more than looking for niggling issues to use as ammunition.
Our neighbours no longer speak to us, no idea why 🤷‍♀️, they regularly have visitors who partly block our access, this is family and tradesmen alike but if we need to move our car we knock on their door, smile and ask politely for the offending vehicle to be moved a few feet. No one has ever refused.

Actually I do want the opposing views and am just continuing the discussion and answering questions.
Obviously noone likes being told they are wrong but I can now see both sides which before I couldn't. So for me this thread has been helpful.
And in future I will probably think more carefully before I act, I was at my wits end with their shit, and took it out on the wrong people. I would now say yes our neighbour disagreements did affect my decision making. However what the bin men did was wrong and they would have known that so knew the risk they were taking so we are not totally wrong for reporting.

I understand why you were mad that the lorry was parked across your drive. We used to have this when our neighbour's carers came and they always parked across our drive. We had a good relationship with our neighbour though and if we needed to get in or out we knocked and told the carers to move their car.
I also get your problem neighbours situation because we once lived in a house where the ndn had lived there since year dot and thought he was king of the road. A couple of times his visitors blocked us in and we had to ask them to move their car. Ndn was quite embarrassed to be the one causing inconvenience so if I were you, if it happens again I'd go round and ask them to move. If they refused, then you'd be in the right to report them.

But OP says that they annoy the neighbours as well in the OP

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc.

So, is OPs age relevant, or the fact she’s got young children etc, if she’s an annoying fuckwit as well, the anything is relevant?

Honestly, two sets of neighbours that don’t get on, each annoying each other and playing who can be most annoying top trumps!

I wonder what the neighbours next move will be 🤔.

Suggest retract your complaint to Council say you misunderstood, apologize to neighbours say you panicked or something. Make a point of chatting to the binmen when they next come, likewise apologize. It wasn't OK for them to leave their lorry parked over your drive but it is a tough job at any time so try to understand they might want a break. If you didn't ask them to move before making complaint that is mean so try to repair that damage. Or expect retaliation and further bad feeling.

Maybe they get longer breaks in the heatwave - or maybe they should have if they don’t? It is fair enough to ask them not to block your drive for a prolonged period but mean spirited to report them.

I am very confused, is the refuse collector the “over 60” neighbour who doesn’t like you or the neighbour who complained about your chickens or the one who play rock music to annoy you?