Aibu to have reported the dustbin lorry to the council?

[Bumpyroads]

Bit of back story us and our next door neighbours quietly dislike each other. Nobody has really said anything but I know we both annoy each other from what is said about the street. They moan about us, things we do etc.

Recently they have been playing loud music in the garden at the weekends in a passive aggressive way. This started when they complained about our chickens being noisy ( we have rehomed the chickens because of this but thats another story) the reason I'm saying all of this is because in general I am just in a bad mood about our neighbours and don't know if this has tainted my reaction.

So next door neighbour is a bin man, he wasn't at work.
Bin lorry come and parks up across my drive . Workmen get out and go in neighbours house/garden for 40 minutes having a drink and break. All this time I was unable to get off or access my drive. There was a bin lorry parked unattended across it.

So husband rings to complain to the council. They were confused as on their tracker the lorry was supposedly elsewhere. They also agreed 40minutes was excessive but said they must have been emptying bins? No they were having a cuppa at my neighbours! Council are going to investigate, I suspect they were taking unauthorised breaks and turning the tracker off.. maybe.

Anyway the reason this has also annoyed me so much is our neighbours have lived hear 30+ years and act like they own the street. Complain about anything we do (leaves from our trees fall in their garden for example.) They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family. Tbh I just dont think they like us, we normally don't rise to it and smile and wave etc. But this time I had had enough and complained.

Aibu? And have we just started ww3?

I think my point is they have been petty about countless things with us and I finally broke and was petty back.

Agreed.

You behaved arsey OP.
Hope you feel good about yourself - have a feeling you're regretting it or you wouldn't be on here.

I would have inwardly seethed a bit, but if I didn't need to go out I wouldn't have done anything about it. Starting a war with neighbours is just not a good idea.

Well I dont feel good because I ended up stooping to their level. But also there is right and wrong and they were wrong.

I think your point is that you're clearly ageist

"They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family" would seem to prove it

Actually, "we are a young faaahmily" makes me want to barf, which is my equivalent of the MN "ick"

Well yes because if they'd buggered off, then you couldn't have spoken to them like the mature adult you're supposed to be 🤷‍♂️

They are 60+ and set in their ways and we are a young family.

Ah. Ageist nonsense. We haven't had a thread like this for a while.

Perhaps there's a reason they don't like you? Can't imagine what it could be though. Most perplexing.

Ok so scrap the bit about the age I apologise I was just trying to explain we have different lifestyles. In the future I will be more mindful as I understand now it was irrelevant. Once again I apologise if I offended anyone.

These responses are crazy to me. Is this all the same people who are up in arms about someone parking across their drive and shouting for everyone to block them in?

What does it matter WHO parked there? They shouldn't have parked over someone drive. The part about the binmen who were supposed the working makes it extra cheeky.

Did you knock and ask them to move?

I’m assuming the men are entitled to breaks and would have to park up somewhere. I’d like to think they are entitled to a break in this heat and the fact that their job is physical. It must feel torturous some days.

I can understand neighbour issues - I have two horrors - I can also understand why you may feel like engaging in a petty retaliation.

BUT.

I wouldn’t dream of involving others in that pettiness. That is beyond nasty. You have zero idea if they are aware of what has been going on but yet you have chosen to include them in your retaliation.

Like others, from your posts it doesn’t seem to be a puzzle as to why your neighbours have taken a dislike you.

It is sod all to do with your age or their age.

Thing is when you buy a house with a drive you have the right to use the drive whenever you want to. Not just when it suits your neighbours, your neighbour's colleagues or any old random who can't be arsed to find somewhere to park that involves them walking more than 10 feet.

Personally I would have made them move it and then driven round the block, come back and made them move it again!

I think I understand why they dislike you if this is a prime example of your pettiness. You didn’t need your car, didn’t need to go anywhere, it’s boiling hot, you are in no way inconvenienced, and you dob them in for having a break.

Having worked at a council, the worst that will happen to them is a small ticking off .. for you expect any minor bin infringement to end with your bin not being emptied … it will be a much more difficult outcome for you than them.

How were “they” wrong? Your neighbours have nothing to do with where the binmen park for god sake!

A parent blocks a drive for 5 mins when going to pick up a child...
"Block them in"
"Complain to the council"

Bin lorry parks there for 40 minutes...
"You are evil"

I think YABU especially as you had no need to actually enter or leave your drive at that time. Generally speaking, if you ask workmen to move they usually will. I would just assume they were on a break. Bin men don’t have a cafeteria to go to or designated spot to park for lunch.

You have an issue with your neighbours but you have reported a group of other people to their employer.

Oh dear - our bin men are fab and will take anything we put out even if the lids not closed like the official rules. I suspect you might find your bin is overlooked or similar now OP!
Why didn’t you just ask them to move, fine to report if they'd refused to do so but you’ve created an unnecessary fuss here and added fuel to the fire. Real mystery why you’re unpopular with them!

It all depends on whether or not they will move when politely asked. The OP wasn't blocked in because she wasn't going anywhere anyway.

Grass...

Dearie me, so spiteful and petty. Great way to escalate tensions with your neighbours.

Id have been very pissed off by that. If they’d parked and come and knocked on the door and said “we’re just next door if you need to move let us know” that would be ok, but they didn’t.

Total over reaction , normal person would have knocked the door and asked them to move it , what you’ve done has potentially got multiple people in trouble .

Why didn’t you just go round and politely ask them to move the lorry? Phoning the council to complain wouldn’t have done your relationship with the neighbour any good.

YWBVU.

What a nasty thing to do.
Also, what a daft thing to do, as they are your neighbours and you still live next to them.

Because of your petty dislike of your neighbours you've got a whole crew of bin workers into trouble.
Even though you didn't want to go out so the lorry being there didn't inconvenience you, but if you had wanted to, they would no doubt have just moved it if you asked them.

what a sad way to live your life.

Ours are immense. We all look after them in this heat (and the cold) and the only folk ringing the council are folk singing their praises.

Maybe this is why I’ve taken such a dislike to OP’s actions.

I don’t think there is any justification to involve them in what is a neighbour dispute. And a snippy petty one at that.