AIBU to ask neighbours not to walk across my driveway?

[Autumn02]

Am I being unreasonable to ask neighbours to stop using my drive as a path?

I have a driveway in front of my property and the neighbour on my left has a driveway connected and in front of their property. The neighbour on my right has a drive way to the right of their property on the side. Everyday the right neighbours walk across my garden and up and down my driveway way rather than using their own path out of their house. To walk their dogs or head out on foot. It sets my doorbell off constantly. They walk down it regardless of if we are parked on the drive or not and walk very close to our cars which makes me worried they’ll get scratched. Our driveway is private property and not a shared communal space.

Would it be ridiculous for me to politely ask them not to as it’s setting the cameras off?

Might seem like a tiny thing but the constant notifications on the camera are annoying and despite them often being inconsiderate neighbours noise wise I have never said anything.

Please let me know your thoughts and whether if you were in my shoes this was something you’d do.

To add I feel it’s common courtesy to not walk across other people’s property. I would never walk across someone else’s drive and find it quite a bizarre thing to do. Feel almost like I can’t have my curtains open without them looking in my living room when they’re walking on my drive.

You can if you like obviously my neighbour did the same to me which I thought was really petty and I subsequently refused access to scaffolders when they wanted to replace the roof so be careful. The thing with neighbours is that everything is reciprical. If you think you're never gonna need anything whatsoever from them then by all means do so.

I feel like I've read this exact thread 3 times in as many months so it must be a very common problem.

You wouldn't be unreasonable to simply speak to them politely about it.

Fence? Large planters?

Diagram please

Get a doorbell you have to press, and don't be petty. Life is too short .

Awful behaviour - yours

Get a doorbell you have to press, and don't be petty. Life is too short .

Indeed I am. Which kind of proves my point. If you're going to be a knob, then don't be a knob to a knob, coz they'll be a knob back.😀

Well you’re an awful petty person aren’t you!

Having a camera doorbell is useful in lots of ways and very common. My driveway is part of my property not a free for all. It’s not petty to not want people trespassing on my property

maybe I was brought up to respect other people’s property. I don’t think it’s petty to ask people to not trespass. It’s definitely petty to refuse scaffolders. Glad you’re not my neighbour

So why are you asking Mumsnet if you should politely ask them not to do it?

What's the actual point of the thread?

You don't want them doing it, so just ask them not to 🤷‍♂️

i think you’re well within your rights too but as you can see from another persons reply re stopping next door neighbours scaffolders - there are very unfortunate unkind petty people in this world and your neighbours could be one of them! If you can put planters or a fence up I would do this first to stop it - I would try this!

I don't think there is any point in saying anything, as only knobs would use your private property like a public thoroughfare. Especially squeezing past your car.

I would put something up to make it less convenient for them.

Wheres The Diagram?

Make it inconvenient with planters or similar. They are doing it because it's easy. As soon as it becomes harder they will stop

I’m asking what other people would do in this situation. Just like other people I’m allowed my opinion. The problem here isn’t the fact that I have a doorbell with a camera for security purposes. The problem here is people trespassing. My camera has nothing to do with that. By pointing out that my camera is useful it doesn’t mean I can’t post on Mumsnet asking for opinions about whether I should speak to the politely or not

Thank you for the helpful posters suggesting I try planters to hopefully avoid petty neighbours in the future. Much kinder than individuals suggesting I get rid of my camera. Strange suggestion that makes me think they are inconsiderate neighbours too!

While I respect your desire for a camera doorbell, I still think its really asking for trouble. You are lucky you don't live in terraces or old mill cottages like we do, where our washing lines even cross.
The secret to happy living in your house is not to piss off the neighbours. If you are so precious about your driveway go to www.webuildmoats.com

The difference is you choose to live in those properties. I don’t so there’s no reason why I should have someone walk across my garden and down my drive. Wanting privacy in my own home and on my property doesn’t make me unreasonable

I didn't even mention your camera?

I'm asking what the point of the thread is in your opinion?

You're an adult woman, you have your own home. These are your adult neighbours.

They're doing something that's bothering you so just speak to them like the adults you all are, rather than wasting time arguing with strangers.

Actually you chose to quote me talking about my camera. Like I said I’m allowed to ask peoples opinions. If you want to know the point of my post maybe read my post again. I’m not sure what you’re struggling to understand? I’ve said am I unreasonable to ask and asked what they’d do in my situation.

Mumsnet is a place to ask opinions and give opinions which is what I am doing. Not sure why you’ve decided that’s suddenly not allowed