To not let 14yo dye her hair blue!

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Daughter has just turned 14, she's ordered herself a crazy colour bottle of sapphire blue hair dye and wants to dye her very long, dark brown hair blue.

We have a big family wedding on the 15th August, plus I doubt it'll all wash out before she returns to school.

Now having a major meltdown but I don't think I am being unreasonable to say no, do you? A

I think fine to let her do it, other than the wedding. She's in the bridal party! Normally I think that brides shouldn't try and change people's appearance but unless the wedding is mega relaxed I think a lot of brides would be upset if someone in the bridal party deliberately died their hair an unnatural colour that could stand out in pictures, just before their wedding. They might say they're OK with it but personally I think it's a bit rude

I let my 12 year old dye the ends of her hair green for the summer. Her hair her choice. I think are being untranslatable she could at least do the ends.

Let her do it, but only because it won't do anything on unbleached dark brown hair. It might make her hair look a bit muddy, or have the faintest blue tinge, but that's it.
As everyone has said, it needs to be bleached to get blue, and not just a bit lightened, the hair needs to be peroxide (yellow blond + blue would go green, and lightened to a coppery colour would end up muddy brown)
It will stain her skin though, so protect that (vaseline on hairline and forehead is good) and lots of towels, plus have a bottle of spray bleach ready in the bathroom for any stains!

If she really wants a nice look, get her in a salon to have the tips lightened and put a colour on those, still subtle enough for a wedding.

You can call it sex you no

We could, but we don't. It's been shagging in our house, pretty much since DD was 15 and we were watching Buffy and Spike said "Cup of tea, cup of tea, almost got shagged, cup of tea"

It's just a word. It means having sex, but. It's no more or less vulgar than "having sex" is.

Its hair dye, not crack cocaine!

An excellent approach. 💕👏

DD first dyed her get at about 14.. washed it out before school. Has beeb dying it “properly” since 16, is 20 now.. still dying, 3 lip piercings, and off for her first tattoo next week. I’ve always told her I believe in Female bodily autonomy, it’s not for me, or anyone else, to tell her what to do with her own body.

(as yea she has ASD, plays D&D, has lots of online friends …and real ones)

Blue is a bugger to get out. My child ended up going back to school with hair that had a green tinge as apparently 6 weeks isn't enough time to wash a semi permanent blue out. Looked good though but the school.were not happy

It is when referring to your own kids. Anyway, agree to disagree.

Glad you are doing it with her OP! You may need to patch test though first, check the packaging first

My DD14 did hers the other day, she wanted it brighter blue but it's a dark almost petrol blue. It's gorgeous. Last summer she went bright red.

I love her natural reddish gold hair but it's not my head, so I get behind whatever the hell plan she comes up with and get the gloves on. It's a lot of quality chatting time and that's priceless.

It wont go blue

As most have said, to make dark hair actually blue, it would need to be bleached (to white). Any hint of yellow and the hair would appear green.

Assuming it's going over her natural colour and it's very dark brown with no lighter tones running through it, at best it will look ashy and slightly more dull/less shiny.

It will wash out. Crazy Colour is a temporary dye meaning it sits on the surface of the hair.

Be warned, if there are naturally lighter areas in her hair, you may get tinges of green.

Make sure you wear gloves and old clothes. Do it somewhere you can use a dash of household bleach to clean up any splashes - such as a bathroom.

She will have a very blue scalp so make sure it doesn't get all over her face!

I don't see anything wrong with this.

Just make sure it is temporary dye that will wash out. On dark hair it is unlikely to come out that blue anyway.

I think the wedding thing is about yourself trying hard to get your family to look prefect in picture...

Let your daughter have fun instead and enjoy her holiday.

This.

Just be pleased she hasn't convinced a tattooist/piercer that she's 18.

All of mine have had weird colourings/cuts. Including DD3 shaving her head.

I think they are all back to normal now. Sadly DD1's tattoos are there for good.

It's not control it's the fallout. My DD used to dye her fringe red in the school holidays. If it wasn't completely gone by September the school head would be on the warpath. It's not worth the agro. Dye the ends by all means and a good trim in September.
DD's hair currently cerulean blue for friend's wedding.

I have no idea why schools get their knickers in a twist about blue hair or any other colour. You can still learn whatever the colour of your hair, as indeed students at sixth form colleges and universities manage to do perfectly well.

It won't work anyway. It will just leave a sludgy tint on anything darker than a level 8 hair colour.

Let her do it= Life lesson as it will look awful

Dons tin hat and this isn’t my opinion, kids at school aren’t allowed to use ‘unnatural’ colours (not my wording!)

Wasn’t going to respond to this thread, but a police officer remarked that blue hair-mental health issues, in his experience. He says anyone he deals with who has blue hair=someone with mh.

I'm neurodiverse and I dye my hair blue. I don't consider it to be a signifier of anything, but if it lets people know I'm not a (shudder) neurotypical, that's all to the good. I certainly wouldn't want to be mistaken for one of those.

If it’s a ‘wash out quickly’dye then let her do it in the holidays.

If it’s not, then no.

How many normal, stable people do police officers have business with?

Is it just hair colour this stellar individual jumps to conclusions about, or is he the same with skin colour? 🤔

That’s a massive jump and no, least racist person I think I know. What a ridiculous comparison.

No, I wouldn't say it was that much of a jump, especially given the historic institutional racism endemic in most police forces.

It's all judging people by their appearance- perhaps relatively innocuous at one end of the spectrum, but very definitely not at the other.

Anyhoo, great to know that if I got assaulted or something I'd be judged to be mentally unwell (and therefore less credible) if I reported it to someone like this 🙄.