AIBU to compare our finances to our friends with young kids?

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I’m 30 happily married with very sweet but chaotic twin 2.5 y/o boys. They are VERY hard work and we’re 99% done with kids.

I sometimes think we aren’t doing ok as my friend has a young daughter and financially they’re in a much better position than us.

I work 2 days a week, husband works FT.
I have £40k saved and invested. We have our own small 3bed house and I also have equity in another home (inheritance).
We try to save around £500 a month but my husband is taking over a business franchise and we know it’ll be 3-4 years until we see real profits and change in our life.

I invest around £320/month into a SIPP. We try to give ourself good amount of spending money to have days out and treats etc.

Until the business is stable and a chunk of the business loan is paid off we will be quite stagnant in our position in life. It’s hard not to compare to others, AIBU to feel this way?

🙄🙄🙄 keep bragging...

You can feel whatever way you choose to 🤷‍♂️

There's one of these threads at least once a week and I have no idea what the OP's are actually looking for.

What on earth are you waffling about?! You are rich by many peoples standards. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

Twins, you say?

I think you are in a very fortunate position. My 32 year old married daughter would love to have children but is paying £1800 a month rent on a 2 bed house, and can’t envisage being able to afford £2k a month on childcare, they both work full time and also have second jobs to bring in some extra cash. Count your blessings!

Not entirely sure what you’re looking to get out of this? I’m older than you and don’t have £40k on hand

You did this thread last week.

Money! They're not real, they're written by Mumsnet to get people frothing at the mouth which makes money for them.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5553258-struggling-to-accept-my-savings-staying-flat-while-the-twins-are-small?reply=153479858

£40k
3 bed house
Equity in another house
Savings hundreds a month while only working 2 days a week.

You've got it much better than the large majority of families. Not sure who you're comparing yourself to.

You’re comparing against one friend? How do you know the exact figures to compare against? People aren’t exactly equal, that’s the way the world works…

My heart bleeds op

I love the idea of being 99% done with kids when you have two made up toddlers.

That’s a bit of a worry then op, you’ve lost £10k since last week!! Best try and make that up asap.

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you work 2 days
you’d ave £500 a month £40k in the bank
£320 in a SIPP

yeah you’re positively on the breadline

You sound insufferable (because I probably can’t say braggy fucknugget)

Very worryingly situation op especially with the loss of 10k in a week🤔

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When I had twins I was 110% done with kids until they were at least 5.

No vineyard this time?

Ditch your husband and go for your friends husband instead as he’s obviously doing better 😂

Bet you don't have a yacht like ours.

Yep

It is hard to not compare to others. Our nature tends to compare to those better off than us. I try quite hard to instead compare myself to those less fortunate than me. It gets easier with practice and I feel gratitude for my life every day.

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