Friend said she'd prefer to meet when I had more money

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Had some money issues and on a tight budget, sometimes meet up with an old colleague, sometimes she'd say 'Let's go for food then onto the cinema/theatre/bowling' etc.. id have to cancel sometimes or just suggest going for a drink or something.
She's said 'Let's just leave meeting up until you can do something other than a coffee." I feel embarrassed and guilty- I know she's probably bored of it but surely you're just happy to see your friend? We could do a walk or go to a park etc. I feel a bit boring.

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Love this!

A real friend wouldn’t say that they would be happy to sit on a park bench and feed ducks, and a real friend may even offer the odd treats and want to shout meals and days out with you if they can afford to.

We could do a walk or go to a park etc.

That's from the OP. The very one you read just moments before coming up with your amazing idea.

Uncanny.

What a bitch. Drop her.

Personally I think she sounds like a knob, if I knew one of my friends had no money I’d suggest that I’d take her out to lunch and if I got the vibe that she wouldn’t feel comfortable with that I’d suggest a nice walk round the park. I see my friends to catch up with them not because I need someone to play with!

I wonder if she thinks that you’re just tight instead of skint. I have a friend that won’t do anything because she never has spare money, yet she absolutely does (I know this for a fact) but she likes to save or buy expensive designer items. I do go meet her for just a coffee or something but it does get annoying when she says she has no money to do anything else.

If you or someone you know is on Vodafone you can get 2 tickets for £8 or 4 for £16. Just a suggestion when you find someone worth taking (ps. She isn't!)

the op has suggested it to us but from what she’s said she hasn’t suggested it to her friend

It's possible she is reacting to the cancelling, or perhaps she feels guilted or pressured into paying for you when you are out or thinks you expect her to? Maybe have an honest conversation about it if she is a good friend?

That poster was suggesting it to the OP as though she hadn't thought of it.

she sounds a user

Oh what an absolutely materialistic cow - wouldn't waste my energy keeping in touch she's not worth it!

Many folk would prefer a catch up over a coffee than 4 hrs over a meal or theatre!

This is sad. She isn’t much of a friend. In our group we meet for walk with a coffee we made at home a lot or end up round one particular friends house and all bring a dish because she is a little hard up at the moment. The point is seeing each other and catching up!

Not a friend. Delete her

A good friend would meet for a walk and buy you a coffee

I can relate to the friend a bit. I have a friend that will only meet at one town center for a coffee and shop. Over the years I’ve suggested, walks, other coffees, spas, cinemas, parks, coast, meals out etc etc but she won’t do any of them. I love this lady but it does get a bit boring and we aren’t creating any new memories or sharing experiences so conversation can get quite deep at times. I’d prefer to do more activities together so I’ve halved the amount I see her.

I would also argue that a good friend wouldn't keep making plans and cancelling them at the last minute.

Not if it's the norm that it's expected each and every time they meet up they wouldn't!
But we don't know if that's what's happened with the OP, as she hasn't responded to my question.

Quite.

Op isnt suggesting up front a coffee, walk or cheap bottle of plonk and pasta though
She's accepting the invite for a dinner out and either cancelling or changing it last minute

Yes, and that's why I wondered if there are expectations that others would pay, @Notthebenicecrew
However OP's still not been back so we may never know

I think that's quite a charitable interpretation to put on this, myself.

The light side of the moon has it spot on.

you tell your so called pal to fecking do one!