AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher carrying in a distressed child

[Cityslickers]

I dropped my DD off at school on Tuesday and a slightly older child (but still infants age) was screaming about going into school. The teacher picked him up / manhandled him in, which made him more distressed and he was flailing his arms and legs about etc. His lunch, bottle and glasses were all on the floor. AIBU in thinking this isn’t normally done? I feel a bit upset still thinking about it.

It seems to be quite common with kids struggling going into school but it just felt uncomfortable to watch.

I’m sure they will be very happy to have your advice on how to deal with a child you don’t know and they have loads of experience with. 👍

Actually I had two of my own, 3 fosters and I worked as a school teacher. You should perhaps wind your neck in and learn what the policies and laws are regarding physical contact between teachers and other people's children. Clearly you don't particularly care about your own children, or anyone else's for that matter. A damning indictment of parenting.

So am I, and they're autistic so it was loud and memorable for all the wrong reasons. The point is that people asked me about it and if he was okay (Or in the case of the older mums, if I was okay, which was nice of them!) I'm profoundly unhappy about the 'don't query the school' approach because sadly, abuse does happen and become normalised in schools, especially if a child has SEND and, bluntly, shouldn't be there but has been dumped by the LA because it's cheap and there's a shortage of places. This will get worse with SEND reform, but till then, surely we should be asking the child who doesn't want to go into school why they don't, and listening to the answers.