AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher carrying in a distressed child

[Cityslickers]

I dropped my DD off at school on Tuesday and a slightly older child (but still infants age) was screaming about going into school. The teacher picked him up / manhandled him in, which made him more distressed and he was flailing his arms and legs about etc. His lunch, bottle and glasses were all on the floor. AIBU in thinking this isn’t normally done? I feel a bit upset still thinking about it.

It seems to be quite common with kids struggling going into school but it just felt uncomfortable to watch.

They are, but ideally they would have received specific training in ways to physically support children to keep them and/or other safe

There was a girl at my daughters school who was waiting for a specialist placement, she kept trying to climb the fence to try to get out of the school onto a busy road - were the teachers supossed to just let her? And another who was quite violent towards other children and needed to be restrained.

As he should if no parents there! Who was supervising the child? Where were the parents?

Difficult start to the day for the teacher too and believe me none of us want to have to do these things! Sometimes it is a necessary, planned intervention. You would be absolutely shocked to see what we deal with in my AP.

P.s if they are restraint trained teachers are absolutely allowed to intervene to move children etc, but it is the last resort for all involved and used if child, other children or staff are in danger.
All those saying it cant be done have absolutely no idea of restraint training and what policies and procedures the school / child may have. That is total confidential information

I would've thought the only reason to pick up someone else's child without permission is if they are in danger.

The way society is going, not even then. Probably better to let them be injured or killed than risk offending the sensibilities of their parent or a passing stranger.

You don't know the circumstances or previous interventions to support the the child going to school.

Funny how so many people these days are good at saying how people shouldn’t deal with a situstion but few have sensible alternatives to suggest. Most schools these days do not have ‘spare’ trained staff to wait patiently until a child at mainstream school is ready to go in, most parents need to get to work. A friend’s child was a runner who would climb the fence at primary school, how would the no touch rule work?

Wind your neck in, op. My mum worked in early yesrs and it was mothers like you who made her, and everyone else's jobs really hard.

I work in a school, it all depends on if the parents have given permissions for picking up and restraint. There will be a reason, the child probably was calmed down elsewhere there are inclusion rooms ect. Some kids are allowed to run around the school grounds and waste so much time refusing to go into class.

I work in a school and I did safeguarding training. We ARE allowed to put hands on students if it prevents them from being at risk.

Leaving a child outside alone in this case is putting the child at risk.

How is picking up a crying child, damaging the child?

Spot on, there are always certain staff that have had this training. We have kids that stab others with pencils and all sorts. Do parents want thier children hurt by one of these kids because they think it's cruel to pick them up?! All staff can use 'reasonable force' in an emergency situation. You have to fill in paperwork about 20 pages long though.

Would that be the same as when people left it in cases where SEND children were abused, particularly if they had limited speech so couldn't make themselves heard? And, of course, nobody wanted to believe that teachers would do things like that.

I would ask to speak to the head teacher, keep it low key, and just make sure she's aware that you saw no attempt to engage.